No, Selma Blair Shouldn’t Have To Defend Her Gray Hair

A woman should not have to defend the natural color of her hair, but here we are. 

Paparazzi snapped photos of Selma Blair out Monday in Los Angeles for a casual afternoon of coffee and shopping. For some reason, the roots of her hair became a topic worthy of news coverage. 

The 44-year-old actress took to Instagram to post the photo that paparazzi snapped of her, and to offer the absolute perfect reply. 

Her Instagram followers applauded her post, writing “You are gorgeous!” and “You made my day.”

We couldn’t agree more. 

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11 Adorable Comics That Get To The Heart Of Parenthood

Brenda Li initially started Summer and Muu Comics to chronicle life after marriage, as well as to provide a creative outlet for herself (she used to be a visual effects artist for movies like “Transformers: Dark of the Moon” and “Thor”). Once she became a mom, though, her focus in the comics shifted to parenting. 

Li draws on her experiences with her son, who’s now 22 months old, and her funny comics are deeply relatable. Li says that her son’s hobbies currently include “not sitting still, throwing food onto the floor, and doing the exact opposite of what Mommy says.” Sound familiar?

She’s found that motherhood has also changed her drawing style. “My characters and lines have simplified; not only because I enjoy a clean simple look, but finding the time to draw is very difficult now, so everything needs to be simple,” Li says. “Motherhood has also made me learned a new skill: drawing half asleep.”

And the comics have given Li perspective within motherhood: “By illustrating my daily struggles, I realize that there is always a cute and positive side to each hair-pulling scenario. I have learned that if you want to survive parenthood, you need to laugh about it.”

She hopes that parents can laugh at her comics ―”humor is the key to surviving parenthood,” says Li ― and realize they’re not alone. Check out Li’s sweet and funny comics below, which you can also find on Summer and Muu’s Facebook and Instagram pages. 

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There Is A Big Difference Between Being Lonely Vs. Alone

Before I had even been married for a year I was due with my first child. Yep, five weeks before my first wedding anniversary I was delivering my first son. I didn’t know anything about babies. I was an only child and each of my parents had passed away while I was in my twenties. Not a sob story, just fact.

So, in early September my husband and I were stuck in rush hour traffic while I hee-heed my way to the hospital. I wasn’t panicked but I was definitely anxious.

When we arrived at the hospital I was wheeled to my room and went into the restroom to change into my gown. There was a beautiful nurse standing there to help me and I said through the door, “I won’t miss these jeans, that’s for sure.” And, so sweetly, so lovingly, so tenderly, my husband said to me and the nurse, “She thinks she’s tired of them,” as if it had been such a burden on him to look at my hideous body in those horrid discount store jeans. In my head I was saying, “I thought I was having a baby but it appears that there is already one in the room. But, I was busy at that moment so I let it go.

We got pregnant much faster than we had anticipated and to say that we weren’t quite ready is an understatement. I took the pregnancy test on my birthday and went into the kitchen and told my husband the good news. He didn’t speak to me for two days. Somehow, I had managed to do this on my own.

Back to the delivery room, where we spent less than an hour. I was pretty speedy at popping out babies. It was an easy delivery, as if there is such a thing. Maybe because I made it look so easy my husband didn’t feel the enormity of the occasion: the enormity of having a small turkey come out of your private parts! I was wheeled into my room and got settled in with my new baby boy and my husband said to me, “Well, I have an 11 o’clock that I can still make.” And with that, he was gone.

I didn’t mind being alone with my baby. I loved him, and in those first few hours before real life set in it was just the two of us. I thought it would be three of us. I felt so lonely, so lonely. The only family I had was a day away so my husband was it for me. And, what first time dad would want to leave when he had a new baby boy? It just didn’t make sense to me. Being alone, no problem, but the loneliness that I felt in those first few hours of parenthood was crushing.

When I look back at that time I want to tell that young mother that what she was feeling was real, and justified and it wasn’t just in her head. That she wasn’t being needy, she was being normal. And sadly, that it would continue through the life of the marriage.

Now that about a million years have passed and I am no longer in the marriage, I know that the loneliness was real, it was not imagined or manufactured by me. That I told my husband often how lonely I was. That I was lonely when we were sitting in the same room.

Loneliness isn’t just in your head. You might feel neglected, or you might feel unappreciated, but all roads lead to loneliness. And, in my opinion, continued loneliness can lead to isolation: it creates a sadness that can’t quite be defined.

If you are spending a lot of time alone and you are happy, that’s great. But, if you are constantly around people and you are feeling lonely, take some action to figure out what you can do to climb out of that hole. It may be professional help or it may be that your marriage or relationship needs a tune up, but make the necessary changes to get you on the road to contentment.

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5 Summer Safety Tips Every Dog Owner Should Know

By Anthea Levi

Warmer months don’t just bring sunshine — they can also present serious health hazards for our favorite furry friends. “Summer is the busiest time of year in the veterinary ER,” says Justine Lee, DVM, a board-certified veterinary emergency critical care specialist in Minneapolis. “Pet owners are jogging, picnicking, and enjoying the outdoors, and unfortunately we see more animals experience trauma because of it.” Follow this advice so your dog has a safer summer.

Nix ticks and fleas

Ticks, fleas and mosquitoes are much more common this time of year, and they cause all kinds of illnesses. “At the very least, ticks leave an itchy bite that can become infected, and at worst they can transmit diseases like Lyme,” says Kathryn Primm, DVM, owner of Applebrook Animal Hospital in Ooltewah, Tennessee. Fleas leave itchy bites, while mosquitoes may transmit severe conditions such as heartworm, which can damage an animal’s heart, lungs, and arteries if left untreated.

Protect your pooch with an oral tick and flea medication or topical gel for at least six months of the year. Prevent heartworm by opting for a separate oral therapy like Heartgard or an injection such as ProHeart. Check your pet for ticks daily and watch for symptoms like fever, swollen joints, lethargy, vomiting, weight loss, bruising, and cough, which may signal a tick- or mosquito-borne illness.

Practice safe picnics

“Accidental poisoning is common during the summer because people are picnicking and don’t actually know what’s poisonous for pets,” says Lee. If you bring your dog to an alfresco meal, skip dishes with raisins or grapes — both can cause severe kidney injury — or corn, since cobs can get lodged in a pup’s intestines. (And as you probably know, chocolate is a no-no.) If you’re worried your pet has swallowed something toxic — and are OK with a $65 consultation fee — call the ASPCA’s Animal Poison Control Center at 888-426-4435.

Avoid overheating

Add together the outdoor temperature in degrees Fahrenheit and the humidity percentage. “If the temperature plus the humidity is over 150, it’s way too hot to exercise your dog,” says Lee. A daytime walk is fine (just stay in the shade as much as possible), but if you want to run or Rollerblade with Rover on a hot day, it’s best to do so in the morning or evening and with a water bottle in hand. If you notice your dog panting excessively or exhibiting dark red or pink gums, it could be overheated. “Those are all signs you need to stop what you’re doing, cool your dog down, and get to a vet,” says Lee, since heatstroke can be fatal in dogs. Try hosing down your dog with cold (not ice) water or offering some H2O to sip on ASAP; then dial your vet.

Don’t plunge in

While some dogs live to swim, others, like pit bulls, prefer to stay on dry land. “Don’t force your dog to swim,” says Lee. “You can throw toys and see if he goes for them, but don’t carry your dog into the water. It may make him more fearful.” Worried about your animal’s ability to stay afloat? Invest in a dog life jacket (then take 200 photos of your pup wearing it).

You may think you’re doing your dog a favor by shaving it, but fur is actually helpful in the summertime.

Keep ’em furry

You may think you’re doing your dog a favor by shaving it, but fur is actually helpful in the summertime. For one, it keeps them cool. “If you look at fur, there’s both guard hair and longer hair. In the typical dog that doesn’t have curls, there’s an insular layer of air kept above that guard hair,” says Lee. (Think of it like the insulation in your house.) Their fur also blocks rays: Light-colored dogs with pink skin (like a white boxer) are more vulnerable, but any pup risks getting a burn when it’s shaved down to the skin. And fur also protects pups from the elements. A dog’s coat can help curb bug bites as well as any damage to the skin while you’re out and about — say, on a hike — during the summer.

5 Summer Safety Tips Every Dog Owner Should Know originally appeared on Health.com.

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The Growing Costs Of A Sedentary Lifestyle

One of the worst things you can do to your body is doing nothing at all and unfortunately, a sedentary lifestyle has become the norm in our culture. Sitting all day and leading an inactive lifestyle can have harmful, long-term effects to your employees’ health. According to Mayo Clinic, 50-70 percent of people sit at least six hours per day, and 20-35 percent of people spend over four hours every day watching TV.

With more than one-third of U.S. adults living with obesity, it’s more important now than ever to educate your employees on the effects of sitting too much and start working towards an active lifestyle. Check out this infographic below to learn a bit more about how a sedentary lifestyle affects the health and quality of life of your employees:

While a sedentary lifestyle can seem scary, the truth is there are a lot of things you can do to avoid these negative effects. It’s been shown that simply breaking up the time you spend sitting and focusing more on moving throughout the day can reverse the effects and help you become healthier overall.

As an employer, you have the power and resources to help your employees get moving. One of the easiest ways to do this is by encouraging them to walk more. Walking is an effective and simple way to get back into shape and stay in shape. Research has shown that regular walks help reduce the risk of chronic disease, control weight, and increase energy and productivity – just to name a few!

If you want your employees to be healthier, you want them to move more. But how can you promote walking in a traditional office space? Here are a few ideas for you:

Educate. First, start by educating your employees. You can’t encourage your employees to move more during the workday if the foundation isn’t there. Explain how walking is one of the most simple and effective forms of physical activity. Make sure your employees understand that they can be of any age or fitness level to benefit from walking. Provide your employees with the resources and education they need about the benefits of walking. Once informed, employees will be more inclined to get moving on their own!

Walk and talk. I love the idea of walking meetings. A walking meeting is an active replacement for a typical one-on-one cup of coffee or conference room chat. The benefits of this type of meeting are both physical and psychological – not to mention it’s a lot more fun than sitting in a stuffy conference room. Try taking a stroll with your employee the next time you have a less-formal meeting or discussion.

Start a walking club. Walking clubs help your employees move more and socialize at the same time. A simple 15-minute walk in the company parking lot will help your employees perk up when they’re facing that afternoon slump. Try dividing up walking clubs by team or division for some friendly competition. The team with the most participants or more walks after six months can win a prize!

Create challenges. Start thinking of some daily, weekly, or monthly walking challenges for employees. Challenge them to only take the stairs and skip the elevator for a full week. Challenge them to park in the furthest area of the parking lot for a month. You can offer incentives to employees for participating in these types of challenges.

Make it fun. Walking doesn’t always sound like the most exciting activity. Try to jazz it up! Make a company map to show the different walking routes employees can take in and around your building. Host a party for employees who participate in walking clubs and challenges. Post motivational signs next to the stairs with fun graphics to encourage employees to skip the elevator. You can even post success stories on your company website featuring employees who have changed their lifestyle from walking more and sitting less.

Incorporate wearables. Between Fitbits, Garmin, and Apple Watches, wearables are all the rage. Chances are, many of your employees already have some sort of fitness tracker or a device that is capable of tracking steps. Start incorporating these wearables into company culture and walking challenges. If your budget allows for it, fitness trackers can also serve as an awesome incentive to get your employees moving.

If you want your employees to move more, encouraging walking is a simple and effective first step. Try out some of these ideas to help your employees step out of their cubicles and get some steps in. You’ll get some healthier (and happier) employees out of it!

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Powerful Hashtag Highlights The Body-Shaming Comments Women Hear In A Lifetime

Most women don’t forget the very first time they were body-shamed.  

Founder and CEO of the athletic wear company Oiselle Sally Bergesen definitely remembers one of the first times she was body-shamed. “’Keep eating like that and you’re going to be a butterball.’ My Dad when I was 12,” Bergesen tweeted on May 25. 

In the same tweet, Bergesen asked followers to share their personal stories of being body-shamed with the hashtag #TheySaid.

The hashtag quickly gained momentum with hundreds of Twitter users sharing their body-shaming experiences. Some women shared stories of family members commenting on their weight gain, while others shared being body-shamed for being too skinny. 

Scroll below to read some of the #TheySaid tweets. (Story continues below.) 

An hour after Bergesen tweeted the #TheySaid hashtag, she created a new one: #SheReplied. The new hashtag was meant as a way to share responses to the body-shaming comments women experienced. 

“To be honest, those types of comments have been shown to be really harmful to me and others,” Bergesen tweeted as an example. 

(Story continues below.) 

Soon enough, more Twitter users started replying to the #SheReplied hashtag with their own awesome response to body-shaming comments. 

“All bodies are amazing! Too bad your attitude isn’t!” one user tweeted.

Another Twitter user’s response touched on why it’s so important to not blindly congratulate people for being skinny: “Skinny isn’t always healthy. Please ask me if I’m OK,” she tweeted.

Scroll below to read more #SheReplied tweets.  

Head over to Bergesen’s Twitter feed to read more #TheySaid and #SheReplied tweets. 

H/T People

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Ariel Winter: ‘This Is The Body I Was Given. This Is Who I Am.’

Ariel Winter isn’t about that unrealistic “beach body” ideal.

The 19-year-old actress recently sat down with Refinery29 to discuss her role as Alex on “Modern Family,” how she’s dealt with critics in her rise to fame and her journey to self-acceptance and body love. The interview is part of R29’s new Take Back The Beach series, which debunks the dreaded notion that a woman needs a “beach body” (i.e. a thin body that conforms to often unachieavable standards of standards of beauty) in order to happily wear swimsuits in the summer. 

Winter told R29 that loving your body all the time is hard work and that’s OK; the beach “should be a safe space” either way, she said.

“It’s hard to be positive about your body all the time,” she said. “I know because I’m honest about my insecurities that people think I’m 100 percent positive about my body all the time, but I’m not. I get really uncomfortable, too. But I just remind myself that this is the body I was given. This is who I am.” 

The “Modern Family” actress also spoke about body positivity in the context of the Trump administration. President Trump is notorious for objectifying women: He fat-shamed a former Miss Universe and called her “Miss Piggy;” he said that a woman must be attractive in order to be a journalist; and he’s also openly fat-shamed and criticized multiple famous women for their looks and weight. 

“Our leadership is really anti-women right now,” Winter told R29. “Thanks to Donald Trump, we’re being objectified and made to feel bad about ourselves, so I think it’s really important for women to stick together and do the opposite of that; to let their bodies be seen and be heard, and to empower each other; to remind each other that what they look like is not the only thing that’s important when it comes to who they are.”

And unfortunately, the young actress knows all too well what it’s like to be objectified by critics. Winter has been the target of relentless body-shaming, whether it’s about wearing revealing dresses or her breast reduction scars.

Winter told R29 that her 2015 breast reduction surgery helped her feel more comfortable in her skin. 

“When I got the breast reduction it helped me feel so much better about my body. I used to have full-scale meltdowns in bathing suit shops because there was nothing I could find to wear. I always felt like crap about myself,” she told R29. “… My best friend, she’s super tall and skinny and she’ll wear the same bathing suit as me, but people will automatically look at me and call me out as a slut or write headlines about ‘Ariel Winter’s cleavage.’ Meanwhile they look at her like, ‘Oh she looks so cute!’ But I’ve learned to not care about that as much. I’m comfortable in a bathing suit, scars and all.”

Head over to R29 to read Winter’s full interview.

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How To Reapply Your Sunscreen While Wearing Makeup

For Allure, by Sarah Kinonen.

We all know how important it is to slather on sunscreen every day (quick refresher: it’s like, really important. A few dollops a day can potentially shield skin from damage brought on by the sun’s powerful UV rays). But did you know that reapplying your SPF is just — if not more — crucial? Yep. According to dermatologists, you should be re-administering your SPF every two to three hours, which means that full face beat you put together early in the A.M. may get a little disheveled after the second slathering. Luckily, it doesn’t have to be that way. Turns out, there are foolproof techniques to reapply your sun protection without smudging or smearing your early-morning makeup masterpiece. Here, the top six tricks, plucked from top dermatologists and makeup artists.

Start strong: Apply sunscreen under your makeup.

Before you kickstart your makeup routine, prep your skin with protection — and not just in the major areas of your face, like the cheeks and forehead, says Heidi Waldorf, director of laser and cosmetic dermatology at the Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City. “One of the reasons that the top of the forehead — near the hairline and the sides of the cheeks, jawline, and neck — get more sun is because everyone starts their sunscreen [application] in the middle of the face and neck,” Waldorf says. “Be sure to apply — and reapply — to those areas. Extra sun damage tends to occur on the upper cheek bones, too.”

Or, try a moisturizer with built-in SPF.

If your skin is on the sensitive side, streamline your product lineup with a multitasking moisturizer — but only sometimes. “In the cooler months, it’s acceptable to “cheat” [your sunscreen game] by using a moisturizer with a sunscreen in it instead of two separate products,” says Elizabeth Tanzi, founder and director of Capital Laser & Skin Care and associate clinical professor, Department of Dermatology at the George Washington University Medical Center. “When products are asked to multi-task, make sure you are using enough of the product in order to get the SPF on the label.”

Even better, make it a tinted moisturizer with SPF.

Swap out your heavy foundation for a lighter formula, like a BB cream — but with a hint of tint and added SPF. “If you invest the time to find the perfect match for your skin, you are much more likely to use the two products every day, which is a major investment in the long-term health and beauty of the skin,” says Tanzi.

Finish your look with a setting spray — packed with sunscreen.

Celebrity makeup artist Mai Quynh sets her clients’ red-carpet looks with setting sprays that offer built-in sun protection. “They’re clear, so there’s no white film, and they go on lightly as a fine mist,” she says. Her favorite? The just-launched Kate Somerville UncompliKated SPF 50, which can be spritzed on before, during, and after makeup application. It’s also made with hyaluronic acid to hydrate as it shields skin from the sun.

Brush it on.

If you don’t want to mess, smudge, or smear your makeup during a mid-day SPF touchup, Quynh recommends sweeping on a powder sunscreen to the face. “The powders can be in a loose powder or a pressed powder form,” says Quynh. For a loose powder formula with water-resistant protection, we (along with Tanzi and Waldorf) recommend Colorescience Sunforgettable Very Water Resistant Powder Sun Protection SPF 30. “The loose powder is easy to use, you can just brush it on directly to the face, as the powder is built into the brush.”

Adds Tanzi: “These are the absolute purest form of powder sunscreen with colors that blend with all skin tones. The [sunscreen powder] is an excellent, water-resistant formula that looks like photo-perfect makeup, but is actually a great sunscreen. The powder locks my makeup in place, cuts down on facial oil on a humid day, and provides excellent sun protection.”

Touch it up with a compact.

If you’re not big on powders — whether it’s a texture thing or you worry about handbag spillage — we’ve found a happy medium. The Eau Thermale Avène Mineral High Protection Tinted Compact SPF 50, which comes in two different shades. “It allows you to touch up your makeup and [apply sunscreen] at the same time,” says Waldorf. “It’s great to keep in your purse, desk, or even car for touchups.”

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The One Thing Every Couple Needs To Remember During A Fight

In a divorce, I once represented a woman who insisted on fighting for her marital bed, which her husband had made and given to her and now wanted back. Finally, I pulled her aside and said, “Do you realize how much money you’re spending fighting over this?” When people are overwhelmed with emotion, they lose all perspective.

As a mediator, I let my clients vent a little, but if things get heated, I’ll take a break with each person separately so they feel they’re being heard. Through my body language and eye contact, I let them know I see them as a human being. People often want payback: “I should get the house because he had an affair.” But I push couples to remember the goal: You want a resolution. Instead of focusing on the past, think about what you want the future to look like, and how we can get there.

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10 Famous Moms Who Shattered The Stigma Of Postpartum Depression

The stigma surrounding postpartum depression has kept some moms from speaking openly about it. To challenge that taboo, many famous mothers have come forward to talk about their experience with the disorder and encourage other moms to seek help.

Here are 10 celebrity moms who shared their experience with postpartum depression:  

  • 1 Hayden Panettiere

  • 2 Drew Barrymore

  • 3 Chrissy Teigen

  • 4 Rasheeda Frost

  • 5 Florence Henderson

  • 6 Princess Diana

  • 7 Lisa Rinna

  • 8 Lena Headey

  • 9 Amy Davidson

  • 10 Bryce Dallas Howard

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