The big O can be hard enough to achieve at the “best” of times; 61% of men and a mere 30% of women say they finish every time they have sex.

So, the idea of a “hands-free” orgasm can sound a little far-fetched. Nonetheless, experts agree it’s certainly possible (whatever your genitalia).

Speaking to HuffPost UK, Dr. Tara (a professor of sexual communication, a Kinsey-certified sexologist, and resident sexpert on Celebs Go Dating) said that for her, the process was made possible through hypnosis.

“I learned that it’s possible to have an orgasm, and in some cases even multiple, full-body, convulsing orgasms, with absolutely no physical touch and no penetration,” she shared.

Dr Tara, who went to a retreat to learn about the hands-off experience, said she was sceptical about the claim at first.

“As someone who is Western-educated and academically trained, this was almost impossible to believe,” she shared.

“We’re taught that physical stimulation is required for orgasm, but apparently, it’s not. You can actually feel orgasmic sensations simply through listening to someone’s voice and entering a hypnotic state.”

Hands-free masturbation, sometimes called “hypnosex,” often relies on sounds; either a recorded voice “talking you through it,” or a series of noises that create vibrations.

In Dr Tana’s case, she learned about the theory of “hypnosex” first, “including the stages (essentially it’s pre-talk, induction, trance work, and re-emergence).”

“The teacher explained how to guide someone into feeling deeply relaxed,” she added.

“People are a lot more suggestible when they are in the trance state. At the end of the first day, I was hypnotised by the teacher’s partner, who is both a professional dominatrix and a skilled hypnotist.

“During that session, I experienced a ton of pleasurable sensations in my body.”

The third day, she continued, was dedicated to learning to hypnotise others “and also how to be a better receiver, which is about surrendering and letting go.”

“I believe this work can benefit everyone, including men (!), but especially people who’ve never had an orgasm or those healing from sexual trauma who want to explore their bodies without touch or penetration,” Dr Tara told us.

“But it’s really for anyone open-minded enough to explore what pleasure can look like when it starts in the mind.”

Listening to hypnotic tracks designed to help you achieve a hands-free orgasm, trying audio porn, or even trying an in-person hypnosis session may help.

Those are not the only methods, though. “Orgasmic breathing,” which Sarah Deysach, a sex educator, told Healthline involves “the deep diaphragmatic breathing used in some forms of meditation and yoga, and… taking deep, intentional breaths,” may help.

Relaxation, willingness to experiment, patience, and “letting go” are key to success, experts agree.