These Eyebrow-Raising Hacks For Stopping Tantrums Actually Worked

Sometimes we have to get very creative to get our kids to a) comply and b) not meltdown over certain events (namely peeling a banana incorrectly).

Parents have previously opened up about the slightly unhinged hacks that helped make their lives easier – from buying 15 of the same t-shirt to leaving food on the counter and telling their child they can’t eat it (the only way to guarantee they will eat it).

And now it’s time to talk turkey on the thing every parent wants so desperately to master: tantrums. While one parenting coach recommended to just verbalise what’s going on and acknowledge the feeling mid-tantrum, others have found distraction can be a big help. (The NHS also recommends distraction as a technique.)

Here’s what parents on Reddit say worked for them when their kids’ big feelings got the better of them…

“My GO TO is say something wrong.”

“For example, if [you’re] trying to get their shoes on ‘Hey we need to get your shoes on, here let’s put them on, they go on your head right?’ Or ‘Lets put on your green shoes’ (when they are red shoes).

“Saying something obviously wrong will snap my 3 year old out of it almost instantly. You can use it as kind of a distraction too, ‘Let’s go see your ‘wrong coloured’ room.’”

“I bent over and made a fart noise with my mouth, then looked surprised and said ‘oops! Excuse me!’”

“My toddler lost it and we both started laughing hysterically for several minutes. Sadly one of my prouder parenting moments.”

“This sounds so weird but sometimes I run away from him.”

“He thinks it’s hilarious and starts chasing me and forgets whatever he was pitching a fit over.”

“If it’s a throwing things tantrum, I give him a bunch of balls…”

“And tell him to rage throw them down the hallway (where he can’t break anything). I demonstrate by whipping one as hard as I can and say ‘phew! I feel better now. Wanna try?’ He always goes for it.”

“If it’s a screamy tantrum, I ask ‘do you smell/hear that?’”

“And he often stops and tries to smell or hear it, then I ask him what he thinks it is and we talk about that for a bit before moving on.”

“I say, ‘Quick! Tell me 5 things you see that are blue!’”

“He’ll look at me like I’m crazy but then start looking around. Name things. If he’s still upset, I’ll ask him to name 4 things he can hear. Usually by now he’s over it.”

“When my son screams no I like to pretend he’s [saying] the name Moe, so I’ll be like ‘Moe? Who is Moe?!?? I don’t know a Moe?’”

“And it makes him giggle 90% of the time.”

″‘Baby, can mummy have a turn at crying?’”

“Cries dramatically. ′Okay baby mummy has finished using the cry do you need it back or shall I hold on to it?’”

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This Trick For Stopping A Toddler Travel Tantrum In 30 Seconds Has Gone Viral – Does It Work?

A parent has shared the unusual trick she used to calm her toddler’s tantrum on a flight in under a minute – and the internet is hooked.

Taking to Instagram, content creator and photographer Shante Hutton recommended a “nervous system reset hack” for toddlers who are in “meltdown mode” – and it might be particularly useful while travelling.

What’s the tantrum trick?

In a video shared by Hutton, her toddler can be seen sitting having his feet, and then his stomach, brushed with a comb.

“Take a small comb and gently brush their feet, hands, and tummy – slow, light strokes,” said Hutton. “It interrupts the overwhelm, gives their brain a new sensory input, and calms them down fast.”

The parent added that when she tried the trick, “we went from red-faced screaming to comatose in under a minute”.

She then urged families to add a comb to their carry-on luggage the next time they take a flight with young kids.

Does it work?

The post, uploaded a week ago, had almost 43,000 likes at the time of writing.

“My daughter[’s] OT [occupational therapy] recommend we brush her daily,” said one commenter. “Sounds like I own a horse, but it works.”

A grandparent added: “Interesting! I draw circles on their palms (or feet) with my finger and they almost go into a trance.”

One parent admitted they started “skin brushing” when their baby was a newborn and they “swear it helps with the milestones too”.

There were even some who joked: “Giving my husband a comb for my meltdown later.”

Obviously this isn’t a hack that works for everyone – we’re all different, and some kids might love the sensory experience while others… well, not so much. You know your child and whether they’d respond well to this or not.

Any other meltdown hacks?

Prevention is key. Take lots of snacks and toys to keep them occupied. Tablets can be useful if your child is of an age where they can be distracted by TV shows and films for periods of time.

One parent swears by painter’s tape to keep her child occupied on a plane – it’s cheap, easy to rip (and remove from surfaces, once stuck), and colourful. Just make sure you clean it all up before you disembark.

If your child is in the thick of a tantrum and the comb trick isn’t working, you could try asking them a “tiny, non-threatening question”, according to Jo Walker, a hypnotherapist at Walker’s Therapy.

The question should have nothing to do with the tantrum. So, Walker gave an example of, “hey, I just noticed your shoes. Where did you get those from?” or “what is the animal on your T-shirt?”.

Other parenting pros, like Jon Fogel, have recommended similar techniques, such as the colour game, where you ask your child to find something of a certain colour.

Other tips that experts say can help children during tantrums include whispering and getting down to their level, while verbalising why they’re upset and what you’re seeing.

Good luck!

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