It goes without saying that we are living through incredibly hard times. We are facing innumerable environmental crises, there is an alarming rise in far-right ideologies and we’re still feeling the social hits of the Covid-19 pandemic.
So, how do we cope? Why can we get up, make a cup of coffee, go to work and tune into our everyday life while knowing that we are surrounded by The Horrors? Are we monsters?
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Well, no. But we are feeling emotionally detached and this is something our brains do to protect us. Unfortunately, it can also make us numb to what’s happening around us and less likely to take action.
How emotional detachment keeps us moving
VeryWellMind explains: “Emotional detachment refers to being disconnected or disengaged from other people’s feelings. It can involve an inability or unwillingness to get involved in other people’s emotional lives.
“While this detachment may protect people from stress, hurt, and anxiety, it can also interfere with a person’s psychological, social, and emotional well-being.”
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It is completely understandable that we don’t know how to cope and so instead mentally detach without even knowing that we’re doing it. In fact, sometimes it’s necessary. Think of dealing with death admin following the loss of a loved one. Sometimes you just have to keep going.
This can lead us to something called ‘compassionate fatigue’
Psychology Today explains that while this phrase is most often applied to emergency and healthcare workers, “A secondary definition of compassion fatigue refers to the experience of any empathetic individual who is acutely conscious of societal needs but feels helpless to solve them.”
Sounds very familiar.
The psychology experts explain that it can be treated, though: “You can counteract such fatigue through regular exercise and healthy eating, a commitment to adequate rest and regular time off, and time in therapy. It also helps to set emotional boundaries without barricading yourself from the world.”
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Reducing screen time is also incredibly beneficial.
Neve Campbell has revealed that she was the original pick to play Lara Croft in the first Tomb Raider movie.
In a new interview with BuzzFeed UK, the Scream star was asked if there’d been any major roles she’d said no to over the course of her career, to which she confirmed: “I turned down Lara Croft.”
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The role would eventually go to Angelina Jolie, who brought the iconic video game character to life in two action movies.
Angelina Jolie as Lara Croft in Tomb Raider
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The character was later played on the big screen by Oscar winner Alicia Vikander, with Game Of Thrones star Sophie Turner currently shooting a new TV series in which she’ll play the Tomb Raider heroine.
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“You make the choices that you make at the time,” Neve added during her BuzzFeed interview. “But certain ones I wasn’t available for, as well.
“Because I was so busy during Party Of Five, that took up 10 months of my year for six years. But listen, I’m grateful for everything that I’ve had.”
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Neve went on to share that she also bagged the lead in Pearl Harbour opposite Ben Affleck, but had to withdraw due to scheduling issues.
“I kicked ass on that audition,” she recalled with a laugh. “I learned Japanese – I had my lines translated, and I went in and spoke Japanese in the audition. And I got it! But I couldn’t do it. And I worked really hard!”
Kate Beckinsale and Ben Affleck in 2001’s Pearl Harbour
Who doesn’t love a good matte lipstick? For one, they’re long-lasting, requiring few touchups throughout the day. They also give your glam a very clean, polished, fashionable flair. The downside, however, is that they’re incredibly drying. And some formulas don’t have a seamless glide application, leaving behind a blotchy, patchy finish on your lip lines.
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Sale or no sale, one reviewer dubbed this the “softest, smoothest non-drying matte lipstick” formula out there — and so many more echo that sentiment that it’s hard not to believe.
Sunday, this posh pink, is her spring and summer go-to shade. “I normally stay away from matte lipsticks because they can be drying on the lips. But this line has such a comfortable formula that it does not feel drying at all.”
In total, there are seven additional shades to suit various tastes.
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Not every matte fills in the natural lines in our lips, which makes the color look disjointed and messy. This is even more noticeable as we age and lose collagen in our lips, thus making them appear crepey and thin. “The Mattes” in the Signature Lipstick formula, however, are well reviewed by customers of all ages.
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Can you remember how your favorite grandma smelled? If you think back to a beloved elder, you might be able to summon up the memory of a scent that’s been described as a blend of stale oil and musty cardboard. It might remind you of opening up old books or unpacking a box of vintage clothing. And while it’s much more subtle than the sweaty body odor of youth, it’s definitely noticeable and probably filed away in your memories as “old person smell.”
As it turns out, that smell is an actual biological phenomenon, caused by an epidermal change that happens to everyone as they age. According to skin experts, every birthday after age 40 increases the likelihood of these changes in the way skin smells. Research has identified the culprit as something called 2-nonenal (pronounced noh-neh-nahl), an organic compound known as an aldehyde.
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That “aging odor” is caused by increased production of this aldehyde in older people, which is the source of a distinctive, dusty “granny” smell. Not all aldehydes smell the same, by the way, and another example is cinnamaldehyde, the organic compound that gives cinnamon its characteristic flavor and aroma, explained Dr. Delphine J. Lee, chief of dermatology and residency program director at Harbor-UCLA Medical Center.
We spoke with dermatologists and other experts to get to the bottom of why this happens.
Here’s what changes in your skin to produce the scent.
The compound 2-nonenal has its own unique scent, and it proliferates as people get older. “As we age, several things happen simultaneously in our skin,” said Dr. Sonal Choudhary, a dermatologist from the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine. “Antioxidant defenses in the skin decline, the composition of our sebum changes, and our cumulative UV exposure and environmental stress increase oxidative damage in the skin.” As these things are weakening the skin, 2-nonenal has an opportunity to make its presence known.
“Research suggests measurable increases in 2-nonenal typically begin after age 40, with more noticeable accumulation in the 50s and beyond,” Choudhary said. “It’s a gradual process, not an instant switch. The intensity of the smell varies significantly from person to person depending on genetics, skin type, lifestyle and environmental exposure.”
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It’s something that happens to most people, said dermatologist Dr. Naana Boakye, founder of Bergen Dermatology. “Evidence suggests that 2-nonenal production is a common age-related phenomenon, not something limited to a small subset of people,” she noted. “Studies consistently detect this grassy, greasy scent in older adults of both sexes. While levels vary between individuals, there is no evidence that only certain people produce it.”
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That “aging odor” is caused by increased production of this aldehyde in older people, which is the source of a distinctive, dusty “granny” smell.
You may not be able to smell it yourself if you’re producing it.
Since so many factors, including genetics and lifestyle, contribute to the condition of your skin, you may get lucky and avoid the 2-nonenal odor altogether. And even if that distinctive smell does show up, remember that it’s all in the nose of the beholder. “People can exaggerate that this smell is unpleasant or disgusting,” Lee said. “It may even be more neutral or pleasant than the body odors of younger and middle-aged people.”
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As Choudhary mentioned, this process happens gradually, and that gives your brain an opportunity to become accustomed to the new scent, thanks to something called olfactory adaptation. You might not notice a prevalent scent after a while, since brains often filter out familiar odors, while staying alert for new information. An example of this “nose blindness” is that we might notice a friend’s house always smells a certain way but are probably unable to detect our own home’s unique scent.
Unlike sweat, it doesn’t wash off easily.
Since 2-nonenal is a fatty acid, it won’t easily dissolve in soap and water, the way sweat does. “It’s hard to get rid of this molecule, because it’s very sticky,” said Danielle Reed, chief science officer at Monell Chemical Senses Center, a nonprofit research institute that studies taste and smell. “It loves to stick to your skin and it loves to stick to fabrics. You’ll remove some of it when you bathe, but your body is constantly making it, so washing isn’t a cure.”
Boakye suggested it might be helpful to use antioxidant-based cleansers. She also said products with ingredients that bind aldehydes, like tannins, may help reduce odor persistence in some people. “Persimmon soap, which contains tannins, has a plausible mechanism and a long history of use, though large randomized trials are lacking,” she noted. While none of these experts recommended specific products, Mirai’s clinical persimmon soap, with Japanese persimmon and green tea extract, is popular and highly rated.
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Recent research has looked at the potential role eggplant extract might play in reducing the oxidative stress that contributes to 2-nonenal formation. In a study published last year, researchers said the fruits, leaves, stems and roots of eggplant, along with their active ingredient N-trans-feruloylputrescine, exhibited excellent 2-nonenal scavenging activity. But that’s a “someday” option, Lee said: “Human clinical data remain limited, so this should not be positioned as a cure.”
An older study was initially positive about how the consumption of white button mushroom extract could alleviate body odor in subjects aged 50 to 79, but there have not been large clinical trials to follow up on that.
So there’s still no sure-fire way to completely eliminate it from your skin, experts agreed. “If you could figure this out, you’d be very rich, but so far there’s nothing that’s truly helpful,” Reed said.
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And also? It’s all natural and perfectly OK.
If you’re noticing this scent on yourself or someone you love, don’t be ashamed or judgmental. Choudhary noted that it’s not a sign of poor hygiene, nor is it inevitable or unmanageable. “This is a normal biochemical change of aging skin, similar to wrinkles or dryness,” she said. “With thoughtful skin care, antioxidant support and proper laundering, it can often be minimized significantly.”
Another consideration is that smell is a subjective area for humans. “We’ve decided we don’t like the odor of old people, but we love the odor of babies’ heads,” Reed said. “Perhaps, as a society, we could learn to love the smell of aging. Not everyone finds this smell unpleasant, and there’s always something for everybody when it comes to smell.”
There’s also the opportunity to lean into this and other age-related changes, because they’re going to happen whether we like them or not.
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“As a dermatologist, I emphasize that aging is a natural, lifelong biological process experienced by us all,” Lee said. “We should focus on promoting health and well-being across our lifespans, while recognizing and valuing the wisdom, resilience and lived experience that accompany advancing age. I’d like us to place less emphasis on cosmetic or physiological changes such as body odor or wrinkles, which are often part of a life fully lived.”
The Reuters/Ipsos poll, which concluded Monday, found that 61% of Americans would describe Trump as having “become erratic with age.” Some 89% of Democrats, 30% of Republicans and 64% of independents described the president this way.
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Only 45% of respondents said they would describe Trump as “mentally sharp and able to deal with challenges,” down from 54% in a September 2023 poll conducted over a year before he was re-elected for a second term.
The survey, which was conducted online between Feb. 18 and 23, measured the attitudes of 4,638 American adults.
When Reuters asked for comment on the poll, White House spokesperson Davis Ingle shot down the results as an example of a “fake and desperate” narrative while praising Trump’s “sharpness, unmatched energy, and historic accessibility” in comparison with his predecessor, former President Joe Biden.
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On Feb. 24, President Donald Trump delivered the longest State of the Union address in U.S. history.
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While other recent surveys have hinted at a larger dip in Trump’s approval rating, the poll found 40% approved of the president’s performance, a 2% increase from earlier this month. The president’s overall approval has remained within a point or two of its current level since April 2025, according to Reuters/Ipsos research.
Scrutiny over Trump’s health and physical stamina has surged in recent months, as evidenced by the public reaction after he has seemingly struggled to stay awake at a number of recent White House meetings. Speaking at the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland, last month, the 79-year-old president repeatedly confused Greenland and Iceland, raising questions about his mental acuity.
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A number of prominent Republicans, however, have reacted to the discourse with grandiose assertions about Trump’s well-being.
“He can work harder and he has a better memory and he has more stamina and has more energy than a normal mortal,” Stephen Miller, the White House deputy chief of staff, told New York Magazine last month. “The headline of your story should be ‘The Superhuman President.’”
Appearing on “The Mom View” in December, White House chief of staff Susie Wiles also defended the president’s working habits, saying her boss “works 24/7” and never sleeps.
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She also attempted to assuage Republicans’ concerns about this year’s midterm elections by assuring them that Trump would be hitting the campaign trail vigorously.
“I haven’t quite broken it to him yet, but he’s going to campaign like it’s 2024 again,” she said. “He’s a difference-maker, and he’s certainly a turnout machine.”
Labour is embroiled in a dirty tricks row over a campaign leaflet featuring a “fictitious” tactical voting company.
The offending literature has been put through voters’ doors on the eve of Thursday’s crunch Gorton and Denton by-election.
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It says: “The Tactical Choice says Vote Labour. Based on a new prediction made in the last 24 hours we are recommending voting Labour.”
However, no organisation called “Tactical Choice” appears to exist.
The leaflet says it is promoted on behalf of Labour candidate Angeliki Stogia.
Labour is locked in a three-way battle with the Green Party and Reform UK in the seat.
Bookies make the Greens odds-on favourites, followed by Reform and then Labour, for whom Andrew Gwynne won the seat at the 2024 general election with a majority of nearly 13,500.
The leaflet was sent “on behalf of” Labour candidate Angeliki Stogia.
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A Green Party spokesperson said: “In a final throw of desperation, Labour have made up an entirely fictitious organisation called ‘Tactical Choice’ referencing them on their final leaflet.
“They’ve had to make this up because every actual tactical voting organisation has endorsed the Green Party as the best hope to keep Reform out in this election.
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“We have great faith in the electorate seeing through these desperate Labour lies and uniting behind the Greens in the by-election tomorrow to beat Reform.
“Hope versus hate is on the ballot tomorrow. Let’s make sure the Greens’ message of hope wins.”
A Labour campaign spokesman did not deny that Tactical Choice appear to have been made up by the party in a bid to sway voters.
He said: “The Greens have been pumping out fake news and deploying dirty tactics for weeks. We’ll take no lectures from them.
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“The only way to defeat Reform in this by-election is by backing Labour.”