Lisa Nandy Slaps Down Wes Streeting For Saying UK Should Rejoin European Union

The Labour leadership hopeful added: “Britain’s future lies with Europe – and one day back in the European Union.”

But on Sky News on Sunday, Wigan MP Nandy described Streeting’s comments as “a bit odd”.

“If rejoining the EU is the answer to what we were just told loud and clear by the country and parts of the country like mine, where we lost 25 out of 25 wards, 24 of them to Reform,” the culture secretary said.

“If rejoining the EU is the answer, then essentially what we’re saying to people is life was fine in 2015, we just need to go back there. I know Wes is coming up to campaign in the [Makerfield] by-election quite soon.

“He will hear loud and clear from people in places like Wigan, Ashton, Winstanley, across Makerfield, that that is absolutely not the case.

“The answer has to be bigger, it has to be the sort of things this government is focusing on around good jobs, housing, living standards, cost of energy, opportunities for young people and that’s why the prime minister is right. We need to get on with it.”

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‘New cancer test makes me feel women’s health matters’

A patient praises a new test for womb cancer being trialled at hospitals in Suffolk and Essex.

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Living with PMDD is like having the Grim Reaper visit every month

Women diagnosed with premenstrual dysphoric disorder discuss how it impacts their lives.

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Canadian from hantavirus-hit cruise ship tests positive

The individual is one of four former passengers on the MV Hondius isolating on Vancouver Island, British Columbia.

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Scientists reversed memory loss by recharging the brain’s tiny engines

Mitochondria are often described as the power plants of the cell, but in the brain, their role may be even more important than scientists once realized. These tiny structures supply the energy that neurons need to communicate, form memories, and keep the brain working smoothly.

In a study published in Nature Neuroscience, researchers from Inserm and the University of Bordeaux at the NeuroCentre Magendie, working with scientists at the Université de Moncton in Canada, reported a major step forward in understanding dementia. Their results showed a direct cause and effect link between faulty mitochondrial activity and cognitive symptoms associated with neurodegenerative disease.

Brain Energy and Memory Loss

The team created a highly specific tool that allowed them to temporarily increase mitochondrial activity in animal models of neurodegenerative disease. When they boosted the brain’s energy machinery, memory problems improved.

Although the findings are still early and were observed in animal models, they point to an intriguing possibility: mitochondria may not simply break down after brain disease begins. Instead, their failure may help drive the symptoms that appear as dementia develops.

That idea could reshape how scientists think about future treatments. If brain cell energy failure contributes to memory loss, then restoring mitochondrial function may one day become a strategy for slowing or reducing symptoms.

Why Mitochondria Matter in the Brain

A mitochondrion is a small structure inside the cell that helps generate the energy required for normal function. This matters especially in the brain, which consumes a large amount of the body’s energy.

Neurons depend on that energy to send signals to one another. When mitochondrial activity drops, neurons may no longer have enough power to work properly. Over time, that energy shortage could weaken communication in the brain and contribute to memory and thinking problems.

Neurodegenerative diseases involve the gradual decline of neuronal function, followed by the death of brain cells. In Alzheimer’s disease, researchers have long observed that mitochondrial problems appear alongside neuronal degeneration, often before cells die. Until recently, however, it was difficult to determine whether mitochondrial dysfunction helped cause the disease process or merely appeared as a result of it.

A Tool Designed to Recharge Mitochondria

To explore that question, the researchers developed a tool that can temporarily stimulate mitochondrial activity. Their reasoning was simple but powerful. If increasing mitochondrial activity improved symptoms in animals, that would suggest mitochondrial impairment can come before neuron loss and contribute directly to cognitive decline.

Earlier work by the research teams had already identified a role for G proteins, which have the specific role of enabling the transfer of information within cells, in regulating mitochondrial activity in the brain. In the 2025 study, they built an artificial receptor called mitoDreadd-Gs. This receptor was designed to activate G proteins directly inside mitochondria, which in turn stimulated mitochondrial activity.

When mitoDreadd-Gs was activated in the brain, mitochondrial activity returned to normal levels. Memory performance also improved in mouse models of dementia.

A Possible New Target for Dementia Research

“This work is the first to establish a cause-and-effect link between mitochondrial dysfunction and symptoms related to neurodegenerative diseases, suggesting that impaired mitochondrial activity could be at the origin of the onset of neuronal degeneration,” explains Giovanni Marsicano, Inserm research director and co-senior author of the study.

The results do not mean that a treatment is ready for patients. The work was performed in animal models, and much more research is needed to determine whether similar approaches could be safe, durable, and effective in humans.

Still, the findings add momentum to a growing shift in dementia research. Scientists are increasingly looking beyond the familiar hallmarks of Alzheimer’s disease, such as amyloid plaques and tau tangles, to examine how energy production, metabolism, inflammation, and cellular stress may shape the disease from its earliest stages.

Recent research has continued to strengthen that broader view. A recent Mayo Clinic study linked disruptions in mitochondrial complex I, a key part of the cell’s energy system, to Alzheimer’s disease progression and potential treatment response. Reviews published afterward have also described mitochondrial failure as an early and potentially central feature of Alzheimer’s biology, not merely a late consequence of brain damage.

“These results will need to be extended, but they allow us to better understand the important role of mitochondria in the proper functioning of our brain. Ultimately, the tool we developed could help us identify the molecular and cellular mechanisms responsible for dementia and facilitate the development of effective therapeutic targets,” explains Étienne Hébert Chatelain, professor at the Université de Moncton and co-senior author of the study.

What Comes Next

The next major question is whether longer term stimulation of mitochondrial activity can do more than improve memory symptoms. Researchers now want to know whether restoring mitochondrial function could slow neuron loss, delay disease progression, or possibly help prevent damage before it becomes irreversible.

“Our work now consists of trying to measure the effects of continuous stimulation of mitochondrial activity to see whether it impacts the symptoms of neurodegenerative diseases and, ultimately, delays neuronal loss or even prevents it if mitochondrial activity is restored,” added Luigi Bellocchio, Inserm researcher and co-senior author of the study.

For now, the discovery offers a striking message: memory loss may be tied not only to dying brain cells, but also to living neurons that are running short on energy. By learning how to recharge those tiny engines, scientists may be opening a new path in the fight against dementia.

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First-ever direct image of the cosmic web reveals the Universe’s hidden highways

Scientists have produced the clearest view ever of part of the cosmic web, the enormous hidden network of matter that stretches across the Universe and connects galaxies together. After spending hundreds of hours collecting observations, an international team captured a detailed image of a massive cosmic filament linking two actively forming galaxies from a time when the Universe was only about 2 billion years old.

The discovery offers a rare direct look at one of the largest structures in existence and could help researchers better understand how galaxies grow and evolve over cosmic time.

The Universe’s Hidden Structure

Modern cosmology suggests that dark matter makes up roughly 85% of all matter in the Universe. Although invisible, dark matter is believed to shape a gigantic web-like framework made of long filaments. At the points where these filaments intersect, galaxies form and shine brightly.

Scientists think these filaments also act as intergalactic highways, channeling gas into galaxies and fueling the birth of new stars. Learning how this gas moves through the cosmic web is considered essential for understanding how galaxies develop.

But detecting that gas has been extremely difficult. Most intergalactic gas has only been observed indirectly by measuring how it absorbs light from bright objects behind it. Hydrogen, the most abundant element in the cosmos, emits only a very faint glow, making direct observations nearly impossible for older instruments.

Hundreds of Hours of Telescope Observations

The new observations were carried out by researchers from the University of Milano-Bicocca together with scientists from the Max Planck Institute for Astrophysics (MPA). The team used MUSE (Multi-Unit Spectroscopic Explorer), a powerful instrument mounted on the European Southern Observatory’s Very Large Telescope in Chile.

Even with such advanced technology, the project required one of the most ambitious MUSE observing campaigns ever conducted in a single region of the sky. Researchers gathered data over hundreds of hours to detect the faint filament clearly enough for detailed analysis.

The study, led by Davide Tornotti, PhD student at the University of Milano-Bicocca, produced the sharpest image ever captured of a cosmic filament stretching roughly 3 million light-years. The structure connects two galaxies that each contain an active supermassive black hole.

The findings were published in Nature Astronomy and provide a new way to study the physical properties of gas inside intergalactic filaments.

A 12-Billion-Year Journey Across Space

“By capturing the faint light emitted by this filament, which traveled for just under 12 billion years to reach Earth, we were able to precisely characterize its shape,” explains Davide Tornotti. “For the first time, we could trace the boundary between the gas residing in galaxies and the material contained within the cosmic web through direct measurements.”

To better interpret the observations, the researchers compared the data with supercomputer simulations of the Universe created at MPA. These simulations predicted what such filamentary structures should look like under current cosmological models.

“When comparing to the novel high-definition image of the cosmic web, we find substantial agreement between current theory and observations,” Tornotti adds.

New Clues About Galaxy Formation

The successful match between observations and simulations gives scientists greater confidence in their understanding of how gas is distributed around galaxies and how galaxies receive the material needed to continue forming stars.

Researchers now hope to identify many more of these faint structures in order to build a broader picture of how matter flows through the cosmic web.

Fabrizio Arrigoni Battaia, MPA staff scientist involved in the study, concludes: “We are thrilled by this direct, high-definition observation of a cosmic filament. But as people say in Bavaria: ‘Eine ist keine’ — one doesn’t count. So we are gathering further data to uncover more such structures, with the ultimate goal to have a comprehensive vision of how gas is distributed and flows in the cosmic web.”

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When I Retired, I Suddenly Realized I Had No Idea Who I Was. Here’s How I Found Myself.

I sat at my kitchen table with a pen in my hand and a blank sheet of paper in front of me, like I was about to take an exam I hadn’t studied for.

At the top, I wrote: Things I Like To Do.

Then I stared at it.

Nothing came to me. No hobbies. No interests. Not even one small thing I could write without forcing it.

I laughed, more out of disbelief than humor. I’d just stepped away from a long, demanding career. Everyone told me this was the part where I finally got my life back. Now you can do what you love, they said. So I tried again the next day. Same blank page. And the day after that.

By day three, it wasn’t funny anymore. It was unsettling in a way I didn’t know how to explain without sounding ungrateful. I’d earned this freedom. I was supposed to feel relieved. Instead, I felt depressed and, honestly, a little scared.

Because the question on the blank page was bigger than hobbies: What if I don’t know who I am when I’m not needed?

For most of my adult life, my identity came with a job description. In corporate life, competence isn’t just rewarded; it becomes your personality. You become the calm one when everyone else is spinning. The one who decides under pressure. The one people rely on when the stakes are high. At home, it’s easy to slip into a similar role: the one who keeps everything moving.

You don’t wake up one day and decide to lose yourself. It happens quietly, over years. Your preferences get bumped down the list because there’s always something more urgent. You eat what works. You go where the family wants to go. You do what the job demands. You tell yourself you’ll get to you later.

And then, one day, later shows up.

After I moved to Madison, Wisconsin, and fully stepped away from my corporate career, people asked the question like it was casual.

“So what do you like to do now?”

I remember smiling like I had an easy answer. I remember my mind reaching for something, anything, and coming up empty. I said something vague and safe: “Oh, you know… I’m figuring it out.”

Then I went home and tried to actually figure it out. That’s how I ended up at the kitchen table with that blank sheet of paper.

So when the empty feeling showed up, I did what high performers do when something feels uncomfortable: I tried to solve it. I looked up hobbies like I could order a personality online. I asked friends what they did for fun and wrote their answers down like I was studying. I told myself I was just adjusting. But the truth was simpler, and harder to admit: I didn’t know what I liked because I hadn’t practiced liking things.

The depression didn’t arrive like a thunderstorm. It arrived like fog.

It was waking up with nothing urgent on the calendar and still feeling anxious. It was the guilt of having “earned” rest and not knowing what to do with it. It was wondering, in the quiet, if something was wrong with me.

One morning I stood in my closet staring at my clothes, realizing I didn’t even know how I wanted to present myself anymore. That sounds small, but it didn’t feel small.

Work had decided so much for me for so long: what mattered, where I needed to be, how I should show up. Without it, I was staring at a life with choices and no clear sense of myself as the chooser.

Eventually, I did something that wasn’t part of any plan.

I started walking.

At first, it was just a way to get out of the house — a way to move the restlessness through my body instead of letting it sit in my chest all day.

The Ice Age Trail has this steady honesty to it. It doesn’t care who you used to be. It just asks you to take the next step.

Most mornings, I’d come home from the trail with my cheeks cold, my legs awake, and my mind quieter than it had been in weeks.

And then, almost without thinking, I started journaling. It wasn’t a cute morning routine with a perfect notebook and a candle and a quote about gratitude. Mine looked more like someone trying to breathe.

Some days, it was messy. Some days, it was angry. Some days, it was one line that made me cry because it was so blunt: I don’t know who I am anymore. But the page didn’t interrupt me. It let me tell the truth. And when you tell the truth consistently, even privately, you start to hear yourself again.

The author finishing a jigsaw puzzle
The author finishing a jigsaw puzzle

Courtesy of Wendy C. Wilson

At first, it wasn’t some dramatic discovery of passion. It was smaller: I started noticing what I missed, what made me feel lighter and how often I dismissed my own preferences like they were optional. Over time, the writing shifted. My scribbles started to have a pulse. They weren’t just thoughts on paper. They were stories. They were reflections. They were my voice, clearer than it had been in years.

I didn’t set out to write anything for other people. I was trying to find myself. But eventually, I shared a small piece of what I wrote. What surprised me was how many people recognized themselves in it — not with applause, but with relief.

“I thought it was just me,” I heard again and again.

That’s when I understood my story wasn’t only about retirement. It was about what happens when your life has been built around being useful, and then usefulness stops being the center of your day.

When you’re no longer performing, you finally have to face the question underneath everything: Who am I when nobody needs me?

The journaling eventually became more than journaling. It grew into writing I was brave enough to stand behind. It led to work I never expected (writing, speaking, teaching).

But the most important thing it gave me wasn’t a new career path.

It gave me myself.

I began to recognize my own preferences again. I began to trust my own voice. I began to build an identity that wasn’t borrowed from a title, a role or other people’s needs. And once I started doing that, the blank page didn’t feel like proof of failure anymore. It felt like a starting point.

If you’re reading this and thinking, That’s me. I’m in that empty place, I want to offer you the one thing I wish someone had said to me without turning it into a pep talk: The blank page doesn’t mean there’s nothing inside you. Most of the time, it means you’ve been needed for so long that you stopped listening to yourself.

But identity isn’t something you “find” like a lost wallet. It’s something you rebuild when you stop performing long enough to listen.

For me, it began with a simple rhythm: a morning workout (a walk on the Ice Age Trail or time at the gym), then a notebook, and then one honest sentence.

It wasn’t a reinvention plan or a grand announcement. Just a quiet return. And that return changed my life because it gave my days a shape again.

The author planting a flower bed
The author planting a flower bed

Courtesy of Wendy C. Wilson

Most mornings, I’m up early, either out on the trail or headed to the gym. For a long time, I assumed “the gym” meant a treadmill and then going home. One day I tried a Les Mills Pump class, and I stood in the back of the studio thinking, This is not for me. Everyone looked like they knew what they were doing. I kept glancing at the clock, waiting for it to be over.

Halfway through, I realized I wasn’t counting the minutes anymore. I was paying attention. I was sweating. I was laughing at myself when I got the moves wrong, and then trying again. I walked out feeling steady and energized in a way I hadn’t felt in years. Now those classes are something I look forward to, not something I “should” do.

That surprise opened the door to other small surprises. I’ve found I like quiet, unhurried things: putting together a jigsaw puzzle at the kitchen table with a cup of tea; playing word games that give my brain something to chase (I’m embarrassingly competitive about the rankings); getting my hands in the dirt and imagining what the garden will look like after I pull the weeds and plant the flowers. I read more nonfiction now, too, and I don’t race through the pages the way I used to.

I also discovered something else I didn’t know I needed: permission to stop. Some afternoons, I take a short nap and wake up without guilt. I still can’t believe how hard that used to feel.

On weekends, I give myself permission to be “off.” I’ll take a longer walk, browse a bookstore, linger in a coffee shop or call a friend without multitasking. None of it looks impressive. That’s the point. It feels like mine.

The person I thought I’d lost wasn’t gone. She was waiting for me to come back and ask her what she wanted, without rushing past the answer.

Sometimes that’s all it takes to begin again.

Wendy C. Wilson is a Madison, Wisconsin–based writer and speaker focused on resilience, identity and leadership through adversity. After a long corporate career, she rebuilt her life in a new chapter shaped by morning walks on the Ice Age Trail and a daily writing practice. Her work has appeared in Madison Magazine, HR.com, and Tiny Buddha. She is the author of “Iron Will,” and you can reach her at wendycwilson.com.

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Scientists find hidden brain nutrient deficit that may fuel anxiety

People with anxiety disorders may share a measurable change in brain chemistry involving choline, an essential nutrient tied to memory, mood, cell structure, and nerve signaling.

Research from UC Davis Health found that people diagnosed with anxiety disorders had lower levels of choline in the brain than people without anxiety. The finding comes from a study published in Molecular Psychiatry, a Nature journal, and offers a rare look at the chemistry that may be connected to anxiety across several different diagnoses.

The researchers reviewed data from 25 previous studies that measured neurometabolites, the chemicals involved in brain metabolism. Altogether, the analysis included 370 people with anxiety disorders and 342 people without anxiety.

A Consistent Chemical Signal in the Brain

The standout finding was choline. People with anxiety disorders had about 8% lower levels of this nutrient in the brain compared with those in the control groups. The pattern was especially clear in the prefrontal cortex, a brain region that helps regulate thought, emotion, decision making, and behavior.

“This is the first meta-analysis to show a chemical pattern in the brain in anxiety disorders,” said Jason Smucny, co-author and an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. “It suggests nutritional approaches — like appropriate choline supplementation — may help restore brain chemistry and improve outcomes for patients.”

Choline (pronounced kō-lēn) plays several important roles in the body. It helps form cell membranes and supports brain functions involved in memory, mood regulation, and muscle control. Although the body can make a small amount on its own, most choline must come from food.

Why Anxiety Disorders Matter

Anxiety disorders are among the most common mental health conditions in the United States. Richard Maddock, senior author of the study, is a psychiatrist and research professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. He is also a researcher at the UC Davis Imaging Research Center, where scientists use magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) methods to study brain health.

Maddock has spent decades treating people with anxiety disorders and studying how these conditions affect the brain.

“Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting about 30% of adults. They can be debilitating for people, and many people do not receive adequate treatment,” Maddock said.

Anxiety disorders include generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, social anxiety disorders, and phobias.

How the Brain Processes Fear and Stress

Anxiety disorders are connected to the way the brain responds to stress, danger, and uncertainty. Two key regions are often involved: the amygdala, which helps shape the sense of safety or threat, and the prefrontal cortex, which supports planning, decision making, and emotional control.

When this system is working well, the brain can usually separate manageable problems from serious threats. In anxiety disorders, that balance can shift. Everyday concerns may feel overwhelming, and the body’s stress response can become difficult to calm.

Brain chemistry also plays a role. Anxiety disorders have been linked to changes in neurotransmitters, including norepinephrine, which is part of the body’s “fight-or-flight” response. Norepinephrine is often elevated in anxiety disorders, and the UC Davis researchers suggest that this heightened arousal may increase the brain’s demand for choline.

In generalized anxiety disorder, for example, people may worry excessively about ordinary events and struggle to control nervousness or fear.

Measuring Brain Chemicals Without Surgery

Maddock and Smucny have long studied how brain chemistry is connected to mental illness using proton magnetic resonance spectroscopy, also known as 1H-MRS.

This technique is noninvasive and is performed with an MRI machine. Instead of producing a standard image of brain structure, 1H-MRS uses magnetic fields and radio waves to measure chemical levels in tissue.

Maddock had previously seen low choline levels in studies of people with panic disorder. That earlier work helped lead to the larger meta-analysis with Smucny. Even though the researchers expected to see reduced choline, the consistency of the result stood out.

“An 8% lower amount doesn’t sound like that much, but in the brain it’s significant,” Maddock said.

The study also found reduced levels of cortical NAA across brain regions after some exclusions. NAA is often considered a marker related to neuronal health and function. However, the clearest and most consistent signal was the reduction in choline-containing compounds across anxiety disorders.

Choline, Diet, and Mental Health

The researchers think that chronic fight-or-flight activity may raise the brain’s need for choline. If the brain cannot take in enough to meet that demand, choline levels may drop.

That does not mean choline supplements are a proven treatment for anxiety. Maddock emphasized that the question remains open.

“We don’t know yet if increasing choline in the diet will help reduce anxiety. More research will be needed,” Maddock said. He cautions that people with anxiety should not self-medicate with excessive choline supplements.

Still, the finding adds to growing interest in the relationship between nutrition and mental health. Choline is already known to be important for the brain and nervous system, and many people in the United States do not get the recommended daily amount.

“Someone with an anxiety disorder might want to look at their diet and see whether they are getting the recommended daily amount of choline. Previous research has shown that most people in the U.S., including children, don’t get the recommended daily amount,” Maddock said. “Some forms of omega-3 fatty acids, like those found in salmon, may be especially good sources for supplying choline to the brain.”

What Later Research Adds

Since the UC Davis work was published, the broader research picture has remained intriguing but not settled. Related dietary research in adults has suggested that higher choline intake may be linked with lower odds of depression, but the same study did not find a significant adjusted association with anxiety or psychological distress.

That makes the UC Davis brain imaging result especially interesting. It points to a measurable chemical difference inside the brain, but it does not prove that low dietary choline causes anxiety or that increasing choline will relieve symptoms. Controlled trials would be needed to test whether changing choline intake can alter brain chemistry or improve anxiety outcomes.

For now, the findings support a practical but cautious message: nutrition may be one piece of the anxiety puzzle, but it is not a substitute for professional mental health care.

Foods That Provide Choline

Choline is found in several common foods. Rich sources include beef liver, eggs (particularly the yolk), beef, chicken, fish, soybeans and milk, among others.

The study highlights a possible biological link between anxiety and a nutrient the brain depends on every day. It also raises a larger question for future research: whether improving choline status could help restore brain chemistry in people with anxiety disorders.

For now, researchers say the answer is not yet known. But the discovery gives scientists a clearer chemical target to investigate and gives people another reason to pay attention to the nutrients that support brain health.

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From Honey To Coffee: Five Recipes To Make From The Dandelions In Your Garden

Sometimes treated as a weed, dandelions can be key to a healthy backyard. Not only do they help to feed hungry bees, but their seeds can nourish birds – including rapidly-dwindling greenfinch populations – too.

So perhaps it’s not surprising we can benefit from eating the plant, too. Dandelions contain a range of vitamins, potassium, iron, antioxidants, and prebiotic fibre.

Some in-vitro research suggests it could reduce cell inflammation (chronic inflammation is linked to worse ageing), too.

Speaking to the Cleveland Clinic, registered dietitian Nancy Geib said their leaves are “probably the most nutritionally dense green you can eat – outstripping even kale or spinach”.

Which means we probably shouldn’t be asking if we should eat dandelions, but instead focus on how.

Just make absolutely sure the dandelions you’re eating haven’t been treated with weedkiller or other pesticides, and clean them thoroughly.

5 dandelion recipes

1) Fried dandelion heads

This Appalachian recipe is pretty simple; baste dandelion flowers in eggs before tossing them in seasoned flour and frying them.

Reviewers of its Allrecipes entry called the meal cheap, easy, and tasty.

2) Dandelion green salad

Younger, more tender leaves are sweeter and milder, and are probably best for beginners. These are delicious blanched and sautéd with garlic and herbs.

But older, more bitter leaves can bear seriously strong flavours, like intense salty and sweet notes (just make sure to blanch them before eating). Try them in a salad with feta, bacon, maple dressings, and other punchy accompaniments, or boil them in soups or stews.

Be careful to thoroughly wash dandelion greens, young or old, before eating them.

3) Dandelion pesto

Make it as you would a basil version: wash the leaves and blend them with pine nuts, oil, hard cheese, garlic, and salt.

Or, if you want a truly Italian finish, make it in a pestle and mortar.

4) Dandelion honey

Perfect for vegans and gastronomes alike, this recipe is essentially an infused syrup.

Boil the heads, after shaking them to remove any insects, with water and lemons. Let them sit to infuse for a couple of hours, strain the liquid, and then boil the flavoured water into a syrup with sugar (it thickens a lot as it cools).

5) Dandelion coffee

You read that right. The washed and dried roots of dandelions can be chopped small and roasted in an oven until dark brown and ground into a powder.

You can then turn that into a distinctly flavourful “coffee” by adding water.

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I’m A 41-Year-Old Single Mum. I’m Over Dating Men My Own Age.

“Who are you waiting for tonight?” Jon, a bartender who has witnessed several of my dates over the years, asks. He tucks his shaggy hair behind his ear before handing a customer a cocktail, then situates himself in front of me and leans on the bar like an old friend, which, at this point, given I’m a regular at this brewery, he pretty much is.

Before I can answer him, my phone buzzes. I glance down and read the message quickly. “Just parked,” it says. I place it face down and look up to meet Jon’s curious gaze.

“Just some guy!” I shrug, taking a sip of my beer and drumming my fingers on the dark wood of the bar. “I don’t know. He seems cool. He’s a musician.”

Jon laughs. “Of course he is,” he says knowingly. He knows I have a soft spot for musicians. And younger men. “How old?” he grins.

I shake my head. “Mind your business.”

A few minutes later, I glance to my right and see the lanky 29-year-old I’ve been chatting with on a dating app through the large, garage-style windows. He’s walking quickly because he knows I’ve been waiting, even though I actually don’t mind sitting at a bar alone.

I like getting to a date early, ordering a drink, and settling in. Still, I find his hustle endearing. I watch him raise his hand to his mouth then release a cloud of smoke into the air before tugging the brewery door open.

He recognises me from behind right away. My long, wavy hair is usually a dead giveaway. I feel his presence behind me, turn my head slightly, and smile before he slides onto his stool.

I’m not often nervous on first dates because the truth is, I don’t care all that much how they go. Why would I? I’m not invested yet, so I’m not overcome by nerves. But not long after he sits down, I’m almost completely at ease. It feels like I’m talking to an old friend who happens to be cute, kind and, well, tall.

I’ve been on maybe a dozen first dates since one of the most brutal breakups of my life, and I haven’t been interested in anyone. But there is something refreshingly gentle about the way this man talks to me.

He’s nervous, but not overly so. And despite his nerves, he manages to laugh at my dumb jokes. He asks me about my writing career, my kids and my Stevie Nicks T-shirt.

Side note: He’s nearly a decade younger than me. But our conversation flows easily. It doesn’t feel forced. And by the end of the date, I’m fairly certain I’m going to see him again.

I didn’t always date younger men. In fact, just after my divorce at age 33, I actively avoided it, imagining that a dose of 40-something maturity was what I needed. I was a grown woman with kids, after all. I didn’t want someone I had to teach. I wanted someone I could learn from. Someone responsible, stable. A grown ass man, if you will.

Dating my own age or older (given I was early to marry and early to divorce) just made practical sense. Or so I thought.

I dated around. A lot. I kept an open mind, and I didn’t discriminate based on the usual criteria – job, height, religion. It was important to me to focus on genuine connection rather than checking boxes that, at the end of the day, don’t matter all that much.

But even with an open mind, and an open heart, more often than not I ended up deeply disappointed by the men I went out with, or sometimes even ended up dating. I did fall in love with an older man – once. But after that relationship imploded, while I continued to seek out what I thought were appropriately aged men for me, I started to feel a sense of hopelessness.

The men I was going out with might’ve been older, but they weren’t more evolved, and they definitely weren’t wiser. In fact, a lot of them seemed to be regressing, as if age and failed relationships had eaten them alive.

Many felt emasculated and emotionally destroyed by their own divorces or past relationships. And while almost all of them said they went to therapy (and even listed it on their dating app profiles), it didn’t show.

After dating them – or sometimes, just meeting them once – I suspected that they used therapy to make themselves feel better, rather than to actually change.

Age had just made them more set in their ways and that rigidity left me annoyed, hopeless and bored to death of hardened men who said they wanted love but were deeply self-involved.

Meanwhile, on the dating apps, men in their 50s seemed to have no qualms about advertising that they wanted a young, hot, “drama-free” woman. I started to ask myself why I couldn’t date younger.

"I have zero shame about the fact that I’d rather date men who are younger than me. In fact, I think more women should do the same," the author writes.

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“I have zero shame about the fact that I’d rather date men who are younger than me. In fact, I think more women should do the same,” the author writes.

Was I missing out on connections because I had my age filter set to 35+? Maybe. Maybe not. But dozens (hundreds?) of bad dates later, I decided it was worth looking into – even if only for the experience.

So, I started going on dates with younger men. They weren’t all great. Some lived with their parents or were downright toddleresque. But there were some good surprises, too, like that the younger men I was going out with wanted to try new things. They had a spark. They had confidence that was intact. They were fun and open-minded in a way I didn’t often see in older men.

Likewise, they were more interesting – and interested – and they weren’t afraid to show it. I felt like my confidence in dating had been restored.

Recently, the Netflix show Age of Attraction, which I happily binged, showcased older women dating younger men. While it’s more common in our culture to see older men dating younger women, the series also highlighted the opposite dynamic. And not so surprisingly, some of the women on the show expressed that they felt seen and cared for in a way they had imagined they might never experience again.

As I watched, I felt understood, and at the same time, like I better understood the dynamic I had been living.

While we’ve been led to believe it’s only men who prefer dating younger, two can play at that game. Anecdotally, dating younger guys may help older women who are still vibrant and full of life feel seen. But some researchers say that women are more satisfied when they have younger partners. And according to 2025 research published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAs), both men and women experienced higher levels of satisfaction on first dates with someone younger. Therefore, it’s likely not lack of interest that keeps women from dating younger. It’s fear of judgement.

The end of my date with the younger musician, who did go on to become my boyfriend, was further proof. After he paid for dinner (without even making me reach for my wallet), I invited him back to my house for one more beer. We sat knee to knee on my couch, and my two dogs curled up on either side of us.

We listened to music and talked about concerts and politics before finally, I told him that 11pm was past my bedtime, and he had to go home. I walked him to the door, then stood on my tippy-toes as he hovered over me. A smile spread across my lips just before we kissed for the first time.

Age isn’t just a number, no matter what anyone says. With it comes experience and new ways of looking at life. But for a lot of older men, whose lives or romantic relationships didn’t pan out the way they’d planned, their experiences haven’t exactly shaped them for the better. It hasn’t equipped them for partnership, love or even romance. It’s often done precisely the opposite.

And to be real, I have enough of my own battles, demons and stressors to fight. I don’t need a man I have to drag through life or who weighs me down or makes me feel heavier. I’d rather be with someone who lifts me up and makes me feel seen, or no one at all.

In the end, the musician and I went our separate ways, for reasons unrelated to age. Now I’m back to dating again at 41, which mostly just looks like staying open to connections, or scrawling my phone number for a cute, younger bartender while paying my tab, like I did last week. It looks like occasional swiping on men from around 25 to 40; I toggle the age limits sometimes.

I’m not opposed to dating older men again, but I have my guard up with them. Younger men still feel more confident, open and less fragile.

As a single mum in my 40s, I’m not exactly dating to marry. But I am dating with the intention of solid connections, and younger men have been refreshing where men my age and older were mostly frustrating.

I have zero shame about the fact that I’d rather date men who are younger than me. In fact, I think more women should do the same.

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