‘I Haven’t Had Sex With My Girlfriend Of 5 Years. Are My Instincts Off?’

Posted on 23/06/2025 by Boris Clair

There’s no set figure for how little sex is too little.

Indeed, some researchers found that only 26% of couples hit the once-weekly mark – speaking to The New York Times, multiple married pairs reported happy, sex-free marriages.

Couples counsellor and author of The Couples Communication Handbook, Raffi Bilek, previously told HuffPost UK the tipping point is usually “whatever amount is causing arguments”.

Writing to Reddit’s r/AITAH (Am I The Asshole Here) forum recently, site user renelemely suggested he was approaching that point of “resentment” with his partner.

“My girlfriend and I have never [had] sex, and it’s been almost five years. Am I the asshole?,” he asked.

We spoke to psychologist Veronica West, founder and lead Content Creator of My Thriving Mind, about when sexual incompatibility is a dealbreaker – and when it can be overcome.

The pair have never had sex

The poster shared that he’s never slept with his girlfriend in their five-year relationship.

At first, he said, he thought she was a little shy and wanted to go slow. “I was just excited for the time to come… and it still hasn’t come,” OP (the original poster) wrote.

When he tries to bring it up, she gets very upset and says the topic makes her feel extremely guilty. She has recently shared that the main reason behind the mismatch is her lack of sex drive.

“She is beautiful and smart, and she has a good job,” OP added. “We live together and her family love me. We do everything together, and I miss her when she’s not around.”

Still, he wonders if he “can live like this”, and feels increasing “resentment” towards his partner and is hoping she can change.

Sexual incompatibility doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker

West shared that even though a lot of couples struggle to address sexual incompatibility, it isn’t a “death sentence” for the relationship.

“What really counts is what both parties feel about it,” she added. “If both parties are willing to get curious and find options, there is room to build something positive.”

When asked whether most relationships can survive a complete sexual mismatch, she responded: “Sometimes, sometimes not.”

Compromise, she said, is not always a “meet in the middle” scenario when it comes to sex. “You can’t really compromise to have sex one and a half times per week and feel like you’ve won,” she advised.

“It’s about emotional and physical needs being met in a way that feels respectful and genuine.”

That can take the form of physical contact with no sexual expectation, experimenting with open relationships, seeing a therapist, and communicating your needs often.

“But no matter the route, the two of them have to actually agree, not begrudgingly go along and hope the other [one] of them will change their mind next month,” West continued.

“It becomes a dealbreaker when the mismatch turns into a chronic emotional ache.”

Refusal to discuss the topic is one red flag.

And, she ended: “If one partner starts to feel invisible or chronically rejected, or the other feels guilt every time the topic comes up, the tension is no longer just about sex – it is about identity, resentment, and unmet needs.”

‘I’m Glad My Parents Aren’t Invited To My Sister’s Wedding. Was I Wrong To Tell Them That?’

Posted on 08/06/2025 by Boris Clair

Wedding planning is incredibly stressful. There’s the expense, the (surprisingly political) guest list, the weather – to name just three stressors.

And that’s without the added complication of a difficult family dynamic.

Sometimes, as Redditor u/ThrowRAsisterswed shows, the tensions can build so high that the couple don’t even want to invite their own parents to the big day.

Writing to r/AITAH (Am I The Asshole Here), the site user asked: “AITAH for telling my parents they were deserve to be kicked out of my sisters wedding?”

So, we asked relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, about how to decide whether you should cut your relatives out of the celebration.

The bride-to-be’s brother is the “golden child”

The original poster (OP), who is the bride’s sister, says their parents have always given their son more leeway than the rest of their children.

“He has been babied to the point of uselessness by our mum and dad, and that’s made him an entitled slob,” she wrote, adding: “he could do wrong in my parents’ eyes.”

The brother has always performed “pranks” on his sister, “Kelly,” who is soon to be married. These included pulling her dress up at a family wedding.

As an adult, Kelly has distanced herself from her family. But at her recent engagement party, her sister said she brought the family back together again.

At this event, the brother tried to “prank” Kelly again by pouring water all over her. He was stopped by Kelly’s fiancé, who was so annoyed by the brother’s behaviour that he banned him from their wedding.

When their parents tried to justify their adult son’s actions, Kelly and her fiancé decided to ban them from the wedding, too.

Her sister told their parents she was right to do so, asking: “AITAH for telling my parents that they sucked a parents and deserved to be kicked out of my sisters wedding?”

Ask yourself 3 questions to see where your boundaries should lie

Roos tells us that though you might feel guilty about enforcing them, boundaries are “not a punishment towards others, but a protection for your own well-being.”

Those can sometimes include cutting your parents out of your wedding.

Still, she admits it’s a “loaded” topic, and has suggested some questions to ask yourself when considering which course of action to take.

Have your parents consistently ignored or diminished your boundaries, for instance?

If so, Roos says, “that’s a sign that setting a big boundary such as not inviting them to your wedding might be necessary to fully relax, be yourself and have a great time at your own wedding.”

Secondly, how do you feel when you spend time with your parents? Feeling tense or stressed about their presence is a red flag, she warns.

Lastly, “ask yourself what your wedding day would feel like without them – would it be easier to have a great day due to not needing to worry about criticism, drama, sneaky comments, or guilt?

If you are feeling relieved of the thought of them not coming… then that’s a strong indicator” you shouldn’t invite them, the therapist ends.

Sounds like in this case, the Redditor is in the right.

Guests Who Witnessed Wedding-Day Walkouts Are Sharing Their Stories, And Wow

Posted on 23/05/2025 by Boris Clair

It’s officially wedding season, which means hen and stag parties, dress shopping, and delicious cakes galore.

But depending on the happy (or not-so-happy) couple, it can spell some serious drama too.

Writing to Reddit’s r/AskReddit, site user u/pimpyocean seemed to want to delve much more into the latter.

“People who left their partner the day of the wedding, what happened?” they asked.

Here are some of the most-upvoted replies (though most of them ended up being from the guests’ perspectives, not the would-be bride or groom’s):

1) “My brother went to this engagement party, everything was great, nothing out of the ordinary.”

“Wedding comes around three months later, he shows up – and it’s a totally different bride.

Same groom, same date, same invite, just… new bride. No explanation.”

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2) “My friend did this like 20-odd years ago.”

“She was engaged to a guy from a very well-off family. The wedding was in California, but they were living in Seattle. Very posh, very expensive.

“But the mother-in-law (MIL) was always horrible to her. Right at the beginning of the reception, the MIL came up and said some nasty things to her in a whisper, thinking she would just take it again.

“She lost it, families got involved, and she ended up on a plane back home that night. Her family had already started moving her things out of the apartment that evening.

“Never spoke to him again.”

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3) “Six years ago in March, my fiancé and I decided to postpone our wedding.”

“The weekend the wedding would have been, he left me home alone to spend the weekend with his parents.

“His parents posted all over Facebook that they were celebrating him not getting married to me and were celebrating his ‘new girlfriend’, a friend of ours whom he constantly told me not to worry about.

“My mum screenshot all the posts, drove an hour out to where I was and said, ‘What are we going to do here?’

“I took a HOT shower and cried, then we packed all of my stuff up and left a letter to him on the dining room table with the ring.”

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4) “We called it the ‘non-wedding.’”

“It was a very small, backyard ’do. when we showed up, a relative of the groom ushered us out back and whispered that the wedding was off, but they had all this food and to help ourselves.

“Apparently, just that morning, the groom found out that the bride had cheated, but his family said they’d already spent all the money on the party, so they figured they’d just tell people when they arrived.

“It was one of the most awkward experiences of my life because the groom just sat dejectedly in a chair while people tried to cheer him up. We ate a little out of obligation and then got the hell out of there.”

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5) “My cousin’s backyard shotgun wedding.”

“She changed her mind because they got in a fight that morning. My uncle still made BBQ, and it just turned into a typical family hangout.

“They got married the next weekend anyway. Not a very exciting story.

“They are still married 22 years and three kids later, though, so that’s something.”

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Do you have anything to add? Let us know!

“Tastes Like Stomach Bile And Feet” – These Are The 6 Dishes That People Think Are Overrated

Posted on 10/05/2025 by Boris Clair

I tried Dubai chocolate last week.

It was fine. Just fine. I love pistachios, I love chocolate and the combination was delicious but was it worth the £10 my friend and I spent on it? Absolutely not. I wasn’t thinking about it for days afterwards, I wasn’t in awe.

Its not like I’m hard to please, either. My favourite snack is carrot sticks dipped in hummous – we keep it real simple around here!

This kind of disappointment is common. So common, in fact, that when Reddit user Fly-Astronaut asked the /r/Cooking community what the most overrated dishes they’d tried were, over 3,000 people raced to respond.

Marry Me Chicken

Zyx-Darkshine says: “I want a divorce. I’ve moved on. I’ve been having an affair with Chicken Cacciatore anyway, but you already know that.”

CONTROVERSIAL. Marry Me Chicken, a tuscan-inspired chicken dish has been a social media sensation since as early as 2016.

Jkfromjh adds: “I made it once, it was good, but I don’t feel tempted to make it again anytime soon. TBH, the only reason I made it was because I had some heavy cream in the fridge and wanted to use it up before it went bad.

“I don’t think its revolutionary or anything, and its hard for a recipe with heavy cream, tomato, and spices to really taste bad.”

Honestly, this has just made me want it more.

Beef wellington

Listen, I love beef wellington but would I ever cook it at home? Nope. Boring.

MrEvil1979 agrees: “I mean it was nice, but not ’slaving around in the kitchen for 6 hours” nice.

“Much rather smoke meat, aka drink beer for 4 hours in the sunshine.”

Amen to that.

Baked feta and tomato pasta

Remember this pasta? It was HUGE on TikTok during lockdown. You simply filled an oven dish with tomatoes, added a block of feta and some herbs and then baked for around 20 minutes.

Once ready, the tomatoes and feta make a delicious pasta sauce. I LOVED it.

SunGlobal2744, however, did not. They say: “It was sooo tangy. I absolutely couldn’t eat it.”

8edibles adds: “Tastes like stomach bile and feet. I absolutely love all the ingredients…but prepared like that? No thanks💀”

If you feel similarly, I really recommend using Boursin in place of the feta. Delicious.

Macarons

101bees says: “They’re just okay. No right being as overpriced as they are usually.”

MissSassiFras1977 adds: “As a baker I have to agree 100%.

“I think it is more about achieving a cute, little, pain in the ass to execute cookie than anything…..”

I agree. Plus, the texture is not the one.

Chicken parmesan

Flowerfoxcanyounot says: “Chicken parmesan. It’s just dry, breaded chicken made soggy with marinara with mozzarella on top. Even if the chicken is made well and stays juicy, it’s still ruined by marinara soggy breading and cooling melted mozzarella.”

Hard. Agree.

Basic_Ask replies: “I like chicken parm, and can’t disagree with you.”

Steak

Already, I agree. I like a good steak but if one food can be called overrated, it’s this.

Previous_Bed_6586 says: “Don’t get me wrong, it’s delicious. It’s also extremely easy to make an equally delicious steak at home for a fraction of the price. I just can’t justify going to a restaurant for it.”

‘Unami Is Your Daddy’ – Home Cooks Reveal Their Secrets To Resaturant-Style Dishes

Posted on 04/05/2025 by Boris Clair

When you get into taking home cooking seriously, suddenly you are speaking about the joys of a ‘good, fresh lemon’, and having minor meltdowns over running out of onions – “but we always have onions!!”

The other thing that happens is you continue to challenge yourself. Yes, having a good meal rotation is the most important thing, but trying to reach gourmet-level is the real home cook dream.

Now, home cooks have taken to Reddit to share their ‘stupidly simple’ ingredients that have made their cooking taste more professional.

When it comes to cheese, choose quality when you can

Unsurprisingly, the cooks have a lot to say about cheese. User CompanyOther2608 says: “It’s a no-brainer, but blocks of good cheese instead of pre-grated or shredded”.

Breddy adds: “Good quality parmesan cheese.”

While Revolutionary-Bus893 changed my life saying: “I’m amazed how a few tablespoons of cream cheese can richen up sauces.”

When life gives you lemons, zest up your dishes

Sphinxyhiggins adds that they love to add lemon to spicy or savoury food, while crippledchef23 says: “I started adding lemon pepper to my spaghetti sauce and it changes things it a way I can’t describe. More tomato-y, but not acidic. Savory and deep and somehow sweet without any sugar.”

Revolutionary_Sir_76 is knocking the pineapple on pizza debate out of the park, saying: “Lemon on pizza or any kinds cheese sends me.”

As a fellow lemon fiend, I’m not writing it off.

MSG is almost always a good idea

Carpe-Bananum says: “A little MSG. Umami is your Daddy.”

If you’re not familiar, MSG (monosodium glutamate) is a flavour enhancer that’s common in Chinese cuisine but is also frequently used in tinned foods to enhance umamu flavours.

User BumblebeeNo3833 adds: “Came here to say this! MSG has made SUCH a difference in my cooking.”

Make the most of onions

Uncle_Rat_21 says: “Not really a swap, but I caramelise a bag of onions every other week or so. Add it to all kinds of things.

“Spaghetti sauce, mashed potatoes, omelettes. Made some quesadillas the other night with some leftover rotisserie chicken and some of the onions. So good!”

Dasookwat adds: “Most important one: time. take a bit more time for things to sear, onions to glaze etc.”

Joro65 advises: “In a lot of dishes, shallots, instead of onions will take it up a notch.”

Making white sauce? Add some mustard

Catfist says: “Not really a substitute, but I add a dash of mustard powder to pretty much every white sauce I make, it adds just a bit of depth and everyone seems to love it.”

Itsnotnews92 adds: “I add a dash of mustard powder to my mac and cheese. Not enough that anyone would say “this tastes like mustard,” but just enough to give it a bit of pop.”

Rcoop020 says it even works with boxed mac and cheese.

I can’t wait to try some of these.

6 Home Cooks Share The Dishes That Look Impressive But Are Super Easy To Make

Posted on 20/04/2025 by Boris Clair

As a home cook, let me tell you a small secret: it’s so much easier than I act like it is.

Yes, I love a good fussy Ottolenghi dish as much as the next person but the classics that I break out whenever we have people over for food? That’s the time for easy-but-impressive dishes.

A whole roasted chicken with perfectly crispy skin? Not a problem.

Now, home cooks on Reddit are sharing their tips for the best impressive-but-easy dishes.

Risotto

Don’t let the richness of this dish fool you – risotto is surprisingly simple, and Reddit user FireWinged-April agrees, saying: “The secret is keeping the rice al dente, which restaurants can’t pre make in bulk, and also won’t stay that way for long.

“I prefer mushroom risotto and I serve with pan seared chicken breast or a white fish. Fancy plating tip – use a measuring cup or tea cup and invert onto a plate, top with a drizzle of olive oil, fresh shaved Parm, crack of pepper and fresh herbs of choice. Super easy and always a hit!”

Ice Cream

I love some ice cream but will admit I shy away from making desserts at home.

However, user TigerAqua-8 assures that it’s actually very simple, saying: “Beat cream until soft peaks and chuck in a tin of condensed milk. Beat. Add vanilla or anything else you want. Freeze. You’ll never buy ice cream again.”

If it is that simple, I certainly won’t.

Lamb chops with sautéed asparagus

Medigapguy shares his simple recipe:

Asparagus:

Salted, sautéed in iron skillet till you can cut with a fork. Sprinkle with fresh Parmesan and squeezed juice or half a lemon. Place skillet in a 300 oven.

Salt, pepper, garlic powder. Seared on a iron skillet with ghee. Till med rare.

Pull asparagus out and serve. With a dollop of mint jelly and some french bread

Takes around 15 min total

Done and done.

Modified puttanesca

Shatzakind advises: “Boil water and cook some penne pasta. Get a frying pan, set the burner on medium, and put some olive oil in the pan to coat it. Sauté some chopped garlic, sweet onions, and chopped basil, add some kalamata olives and capers, then toss in the pasta and mix everything together.

“You’re just sautéing enough to get the raw food soft and hot. Add some of your fav marinara sauce and heat. Plate and add parm cheese (shaved makes it look fancy).”

Smoked meat

Just ahead of BBQ season, user theFooMart shares their tips for delicious smoked meats: “Take your brisket, ribs, or pork shoulder. Rub mustard on the outside to make the seasoning stick. Season with salt, pepper, and garlic. Put it on your smoker at 250 until it’s done. If you want it even easier, use an electric smoker or a Traeger.

“Even a gas BBQ will work, although it won’t be smokey. Turn on the burners on one side, and put the meat on the other side.”

Rosemary salmon

1dzMonkeys shared their simple-but-fancy salmon recipe:

Buy a large-ish salmon fillet, fresh rosemary, red onions, lemons and olive oil.
Stack thusly, (listed from bottom to top):
1/2 of the bunch of rosemary sprigs
1/2 of the red onions, sliced
Salmon
Salt, pepper
Drizzle of olive oil
Rest of onions (sliced)
Rest of rosemary
Lemons, sliced thinly and arranged attractively
Roast in a 230C oven until salmon flakes.

“So fancy looking. So easy.”

Sounds it!

11 Movie Franchises Viewers Wish Would Just Die Already

Posted on 05/04/2025 by Boris Clair

I’m a long-time defender of movie sequels – I reckon Shrek’s second instalment is as good, if not *whisper* better, than the original.

But when you’re looking at your tenth Fast And Furious movie, I reckon some questions need to be asked.

In a recent post shared to Reddit’s r/moviecritic, site user u/Eikichi_Onizuka09 asked people to name movie franchises that made them think of the Simpsons quote, “stop, stop, it’s dead already!”.

Here are some of the most-upvoted responses:

1. Anything in the Spider-Man villain multiverse

“Madame Web, Kragen the Hunter, Morbius. I don’t understand how they can consistently bomb so hard and keep getting made.”

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2. Any Disney live-action remake

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u/problematicsquirrel added: “The most unnecessary movies that add absolutely nothing.”

3. Home Alone

“They should have stopped at two.”

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4. Transformers

“Indiana Jones should be done at this point as well.”

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5. Terminator

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u/TouristOpentotravel replied: “There are only two true Terminator movies.”

6. Fast And Furious

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“I disagree,” u/JCVideo replied. “The hubris to turn them into superhero movies where their superpower is car is hilarious.”

7. Jurassic Park/World

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“I love dinosaurs but when they started making the dinosaurs main characters instead of fright night it lost me,” u/CarterBennett said.

8. Pirates Of The Caribbean

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“For me, it’s a trilogy with a couple of spin-offs,” u/bdfortin said. “I rank them as one, three, two.”

9. The Matrix

“I heard after Resurrections they’re making another one. Please stop.”

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10. Star Wars

“Disney destroyed seven, eight, and nine. Eight couldn’t be a worse movie.”

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11. Shrek

“It needed to have stopped after Shrek 2.”

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Do you disagree with these or have anything to add? Let us know!

So THAT’s Why Your Gym Has 50 Treadmills But Only 1 Squat Rack

Posted on 02/04/2025 by Boris Clair

This morning, I left my spin class, walked up to the weights section to get the rest of my workout in, and promptly turned back around.

The squat rack (my huge, bustling gym only has one) had a three-person line around it, excluding the lifters circling, keen-eyed, like beefy kestrels.

Meanwhile, dustballs might as well have been blowing across the grey acres of treadmill belts upstairs.

Why does this happen? After all, my experience is far from unique – Redditor u/IndependentHawk9655 asked the members of r/AskUK, “Why does every chain gym in the UK still prioritise cardio equipment that never gets used over the weights room/resistance machines which are always absolutely rammed?”

So, we spoke to Maria Vazquez, head of training at MYWOWFIT, about what’s really going on.

It’s strategic

“It’s all about strategy,” Vazquez told HuffPost UK.

She explains that “Most beginners are more comfortable jumping on a treadmill or elliptical than going straight to strength training equipment.

“So having a lot of cardio machines means gyms can accommodate the high volume of new members who are still getting into their routine.”

From a financial standpoint, gyms rely on inactive members to make a profit – a strategy Gen Z is ruining.

Then, there’s safety to consider.

“Machines like treadmills and ellipticals require less supervision, lower liability risk,” Vazquez shared.

“Squat racks and Smith machines require more space, proper form and sometimes a spotter which can deter some gym goers.”

Lastly, there’s the time math; a treadmill user might be on there for 40 minutes, while someone is unlikely to spend that long on a Smith machine.

The lifter, unlike the runner, can allow someone else to “work in” their sets too.

But if that logic is sound, why is the squat rack still always busy?

The problem is that gyms might not have adapted to new trends, the expert said.

“In my experience, this [pattern of equipment use] is all changing. More people are getting into strength training and gyms are starting to balance out their offerings,” Vazquez explained.

“There is definitely a demand for more squat racks, benches and space for heavier lifting. But for now, cardio will probably remain the priority because it’s just more practical for the majority.”

‘She Asked Me If I Wanted To Go Half On A Baby’: People Share Their WTF Dating Moments

Posted on 16/03/2025 by Boris Clair

If there is one thing that single people can tell you, it’s that not every first date is magical. Some are actually very far from it.

Take me, for example, I once turned up to a date with somebody I thought I liked a lot, only to be told by him that he hated animals and giving to charitable causes. He also wore a t-shirt saying: “I was sober once, worst hour of my life.” It’s safe to say, we were not a match.

However, after reading through a recent Reddit thread, I’m starting to believe that my bad date was actually, by most measures, pretty good – and I got off lightly.

Posting on /r/AskReddit, i_like_maps asked: “What’s the biggest ‘wtf?!’ moment that you’ve had a on a first date?”, and the responses they received were… interesting to say the least.

One person’s hobbies were a little… too much

User Addicus commented: “We met online, chatted a bit, and decided to meet. Now, this was not a hook up situation. We both were, and clearly stated that we were, looking for a long term situation.

“She was cute, seemed smart and reasonably funny. When we got to talking about hobbies and interests, I told her I liked to read, sail, was into motorcycles and playing music. She mentioned that she ‘enjoyed live music, the theatre and the occasional Saturday night gangbang’.”

Ah. Well. Good for her?

Another person had a bananas approach to snacking

Apprehensive_Flan88 recalled: “Took me back to her place asked me if I wanted a snack brought out two fully rotten black bananas and two spoons cracked hers open and started going to town on the compost banana goo kept looking up at me like expecting me to do the same.”

Bleugh. To each their own.

One single had no time to waste when it came to babies

DatboyTeedy revealed: “First Date with a woman about 7-8 years older than me. Convo was going fine at applebees but then she asked me if wanted to go half on a baby. Then she told me her clock is ticking and she wants a kid with me. Needless to say that was the only date.”

Who doesn’t love a woman who knows what she wants?

A little criminal damage got in the way of this date

Joyofresh had quite the first date journey. They recalled: “Met a girl in a cafe, agreed to [a] drink later that week. Day came she didn’t respond. Whatever.

“Later she reached out to me again saying she lost her phone and we started dating. After a month she told me actually the day we originally agreed to a first date she was in jail for breaking into her ex’s apartment…”

I’ve heard some excuses in my time but that one is new even for me.

A third party slithered into this first date, unnoticed

Korar67 said: “Went out on a date. At the end we started making out. Something felt weird on my ear. I pulled back and saw a snake sticking out of the sleeve of her sweater. It was her pet snake. It had been in there the whole time.”

Sure! Why not!

11 Early Signs Your Relationship Is Quietly Falling Apart

Posted on 14/03/2025 by Boris Clair

A 2011 meta-analysis of studies found that marriage doesn’t actually make couples happier ― if your relationship with your partner wasn’t great before the big day, their research says, it likely won’t become that way afterwards.

That’s why Evon Inyang, a licensed associate marriage and family therapist and the founder of ForwardUs Counselling previously told HuffPost UK that it’s important not to go along with a failing relationship for the sake of it.

There’s no need to settle for unhappiness “just because invitations have been sent out, the dress has been bought and deposits have been paid,” she wrote.

Still, many of us struggle to recognise when our relationship is “off.” So it’s a good thing u/one-droplet recently asked the netizens of r/AskReddit: “What are the early signs of a failing relationship that most people ignore?”

Here are some of the most-upvoted responses:

1) “Not wanting to talk to them about things you find interesting because you feel their reaction will ruin it.”

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2) “In my experience, when you stop imagining a future together, that’s how you know it won’t last.”

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3) “When you love the memories more than the person standing in front of you.”

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4) “Only one person doing all the work.”

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5) “I used to slow down at work just so I would have to work late even though I wasn’t getting paid for it.”

“Did this for years before I finally decided to leave my ex.”

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6) “When you stop arguing with your spouse. Not because things are good but because it doesn’t matter anymore.”

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7) “When conversations become minimal or surface-level, it can indicate a deeper disconnect.”

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8) “If a partner is too busy for you then they’ve found something more important than you.”

“If you’re of importance to someone, they’ll make time for you.”

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9) “Indifference. When you really have no emotional response to each other.”

“This the death of a relationship.”

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10) “When you stop sharing the little things — random thoughts, funny memes, or how their day went.”

“When the small talk disappears, the connection starts fading.”

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11) “Feeling annoyed when you know you have to see them in the evening. Or when you hear them chewing.”

“Or when they start talking and you just wish they would stop soon. Feeling annoyed when they kiss or hug you or give you affection. You might not even know you are annoyed.

“You just get that heavy feeling in your chest when you have to be in their vicinity. You hear an ‘ugh’ go through your mind.”

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Do you agree with these or have any thoughts to add?