The ‘Vegan But Cheese’ Theory Could Make Us Happier, Therapists Say

I first saw the suggestion on TikTok, but it’s also on Instagram and X (formerly Twitter). In response to people who say they’d go vegan but love cheese too much to do so, plant-based creators have a simple response: “Then go vegan, except for cheese,” TikTokers like @Maggieeatsvegan advise.

Of course, cheese doesn’t actually fit into a vegan diet. But we know that eating more plant-based foods is good for both us and the planet, and that cutting down on meat and dairy consumption, but not eliminating it altogether, could still lower our bowel cancer risk and help us to meet sustainability goals.

“Vegan but cheese” might not feel like a 100% perfect answer. However, it’s a lot better than doing nothing.

And speaking to HuffPost UK, BACP-certified therapists Susie Masterson and Eve Menzes Cunningham said there are lessons to be learned here when setting other goals, too.

“An all-or-nothing mindset is actually quite punitive”

Menzes Cunningham, who is vegan herself, said she “LOVES” the vegan but cheese theory as a way to approach personal goals. She added that a lot of her clients have an “all or nothing” mindset regarding their aspirations, which might actually hold them back.

“Focusing on… the direction you want to move in rather than [the] fraction of [your goal] that isn’t for you at the moment… is still a huge move,” she advised.

For instance, the therapist explained, she ate food outside of her usual vegan diet a couple of Christmases ago. Menzes Cunningham said her younger self might have gone back to eating meat, having seen this apparent “lapse” as a total failure – but accepting it as a “human” mistake made returning to her established eating habits easier.

Masterson agreed, saying: “Goal setting is less about achieving an outcome and more about the process of working towards something. Anticipation and quests produce dopamine, which helps us feel good about ourselves and keep[s us] motivated”.

She called our obsession with perfection quite “punitive”, adding: “I’ve met so many people who have goals: marathon, house, kids, and they feel empty.

“Because the goals don’t mean anything to them. They were for other people or for social media. Goals are not stamps to collect.”

Being kinder to yourself could make you more resilient

A review of studies previously found that self-compassion – treating yourself as you would a friend – is linked to more success and better relationships.

Menzes Cunningham says she often reminds clients of toddlers, who naturally want to grow and improve without being yelled at to crawl or walk, when advising them on how to engage with self-talk.

“Remind yourself that you’re human, notice what else is going on in your life, see what additional supports you might be able to put in place” when aiming for a goal, she said.

“Recognise that progress is soooo much better than perfection (which doesn’t exist!)”.

Masterson, meanwhile, ended: “Scientists don’t fail; they learn and pivot. In sports we get injured, but that doesn’t mean we stop training or conditioning.

“I always recommend setting intentions rather than goals. To find a rhythm and practice that enhances our lives, rather than constantly looking for another peak to climb.”

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There’s A Reason Your Periods Can Get Heavier In Your 40s, Expert Says

For many women, perimenopause, or the period that leads up to menopause, begins in their 40s. This happens when your body is getting ready to stop having periods for good.

Often, the process changes your menstrual cycle. It can make your periods irregular, longer, or shorter. And it can lead to heavier periods, too.

Here, HuffPost UK spoke to Dr Ghazala Aziz-Scott, a specialist in women’s health at the Marion Gluck Clinic, to work out why this happens, what’s normal, and when you should speak to a GP.

Why do some people’s periods get heavier in their 40s?

During this decade, Dr Aziz-Scott explained that the amount of progesterone women produce during the second half of their menstrual cycle (the luteal phase) can decline.

Meanwhile, some women actually start to produce more oestrogen in perimenopause.

Progesterone “is a hormone that stabilises the endometrial lining and oestrogen has the opposite effect of stimulating the endometrial lining,” the doctor stated.

If your progesterone declines while your oestrogen rises, you might become what Dr Aziz-Scott calls “oestrogen dominant”.

This “imbalance leads to the endometrial lining being less stable and a greater blood loss”. Some people don’t ovulate at all for certain menstrual cycles during perimenopause (anovulation), which can also make periods heavier.

What is normal for periods in perimenopause?

Irregular ovulation and changes to hormones in our pituitary gland, like FSH (follicle-stimulating hormone) and LH (luteinising hormone), can make periods “erratic”, the expert advised.

The perimenopause “can go on for many years, with initially the odd anovulatory cycle to periods of amenorrhoea [having no periods at all] for several months,” she continued.

“Perimenopausal periods tend to be closer together, and much heavier; for example, a 28-day cycle might be 22 days. Periods can be clotty, and flooding may occur”.

But this can vary from woman to woman. Some might find that they see a sudden stop to their periods, “and it is also very common to have several months of no periods and experience spotting or very light bleeds”.

How can I make periods in menopause easier?

Eating well, including consuming more cruciferous vegetables (like broccoli and cabbage), milled flax seeds, and “a wide variety of colourful fruit and vegetables” might go some way towards balancing oestrogen dominance, the specialist said.

Hormonal treatments, including those which include progesterone or the Mirena coil, are “popular” among those with very heavy periods, she added.

“If periods are very heavy, medications such as mefenamic acid and tranexamic acid can reduce the blood flow while menstruating, as one of the common patterns of perimenopause is iron deficiency anaemia due to the heavy blood loss,” Dr Aziz-Scott told us.

In some cases, “a small dose of synthetic progesterone directly onto the lining of the womb [can] make periods much lighter or disappear altogether, restoring quality of life and decreasing the risk of anaemia”.

But in general, she added, you should speak to your doctor to work out what’s going on with your hormones.

When should I see a GP about heavy periods in my 40s?

The NHS said that you should see your doctor if you notice any menopause or perimenopause symptoms for the first time and want to know what you can do about them.

And Dr Aziz-Scott shared that you should speak to your GP if your periods are affecting your quality of life – you might also want to go for “education and reassurance about what is going on in your body”.

Sometimes, your doctor may prescribe appropriate treatments like mefenamic acid.

“It is also helpful to discuss any symptoms you may be experiencing and how to manage these,” the expert ended.

“Iron deficiency anaemia is a very common occurrence, and many women don’t realise this until they are really feeling unwell, with low energy, weakness and even breathlessness. So if you do have very heavy periods, checking your haemoglobin and iron levels is very important.”

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‘Act Fast, Don’t Panic’: Experts Share What To Do If You Click On A Scam Link

If you’ve noticed more scam calls and increasingly convincing phishing emails recently, you’re not alone. The UK National Cybersecurity Centre (NCC) itself has said that “scams are getting smarter, and some even fool the experts”.

AI tools and voice cloning (where fraudsters use clips of someone’s voice to mimic a loved one on the phone) might make your online life feel increasingly fraught.

But what if you’ve already selected it by accident? Here, cybersecurity experts share their advice on what to do next.

General advice if you’ve clicked on a suspicious link

Tomas Stamulis, the chief security officer at digital privacy company Surfshark, said that you shouldn’t assume the worst if you’ve clicked on a suspicious link – though you should “act quickly”. In fact, all the experts we spoke to said speed matters here.

“Close the page straight away and avoid entering any personal information, passwords or payment details. If anything has downloaded or been installed, disconnect the device from the internet and run a full malware scan,” he added.

Neil Bayliss, director of IT support experts Hubtel IT, agreed that you should act immediately, but stressed you shouldn’t panic. “Scammers often count on you panicking and losing your ability to think rationally,” he explained.

And Stephen Bailey, director of client delivery at global cyber security company NCC Group, told us: “One of the biggest mistakes people make is delaying because they’re worried about admitting they clicked a link or opened an attachment.”

Both in your workplace or on a personal device, “taking action quickly can limit the damage and make it much harder for an attacker to gain further access”.

If you used, or think you might have used, a work account or device when entering your card details, contact your company’s IT team too, both Bailey and Bayliss shared.

What if I opened a link and shared my password?

Stamulis said that if you did enter some login details, change them from a “clean” device – not the one on which you received the scam email, text or call.

Start with your email address, he added, as access to your email can give hackers a path to other services via password changes. Stamulis advised using unique passwords and two-factor authentication.

Keep an eye on your bank, email, and “other important accounts for unfamiliar logins, password changes, or transactions over the following days and weeks,” he continued.

“Be particularly vigilant about unexpected calls, texts or emails offering to help with the issue, as scammers can use the situation to pose as a trusted company or support service and try to gather more information from you.”

What if I opened a link and shared financial details?

You should call your bank at once if you shared any financial information like your card or account details, stated Bayliss. “Make sure you use its official website or app, or call the contact number on the back of your card,” he said.

All the experts we spoke to said scammers might use the aftermath of a data breach to get more financial information from you, too.

Maybe your initial click on the link didn’t lead to any information they could use to directly draw money from your account.

But people should be very cautious of any unsolicited requests for credentials, financial information, or urgent action. “Instead, verify information through official channels and trusted sources before taking any action,” stated Bailey.

How can I report scam links?

Stamulis said that if the scam came via email, report it to your email provider and the National Cyber Security Centre. Don’t click on the link again, and don’t reply to the scammers.

You can also “forward suspicious emails to report@phishing.gov.uk and suspicious text messages to 7726 free of charge,” Bayliss said.

You can also report scam calls to 7726, per Ofcom. Just select the phone number that called you (don’t dial it), copy it and paste into a SMS message to 7726.

How can I spot scam links going forward?

“There used to be quite common signs of a scam such as spelling mistakes or suspicious-looking links, but some criminals use AI tools to create convincing and polished messages,” suggested Bayliss.

Scams have gotten more “sophisticated” but one giveaway can be a sense of urgency.

If you receive a message or call that tells you you need to take immediate action, like resetting a password or following a link, consider it suspicious.

Bayliss warned: “Don’t let yourself become pressured or lose sight of clear red flags.”

And Stamulis said you should “treat unexpected contact with caution, avoid clicking links in messages and go to the relevant website or app independently”.

“It is also worth changing any reused passwords, enabling two-factor authentication and keeping an eye out for unusual account activity or unexpected password-reset requests,” he said.

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Dorothy Whipple: The ‘Forgotten’ 20th Century Author Austen Fans Will Love

Though I think Victorian novelist Elizabeth Gaskell deserves more love, I have to concede she’s not exactly obscure: her work was on my university curriculum, and her novel North & South was even adapted by the BBC.

But after picking up my first Dorothy Whipple book recently, I had my first true “how have I never heard of her?” double-take. That’s not just because of how much I enjoyed her writing, but also because she used to be a bestseller – and is now all but forgotten.

Who is Dorothy Whipple?

Born in 1893 in Blackburn, Lancashire, she was the daughter of an architect.

She finished the first of her eight successful novels in 1927, when she was 34. But Dr Cynthia Johnston, a Senior Lecturer in the History of the Book at the School of Advanced Study, University of London who is working on a biography of the interwar writer, said she’d caught the writing bug early.

Aged just 12, she started publishing work in The Blackburn Telegraph under its “children’s corner”.

Two of her “immensely popular” novels (They Knew Mr Knight and They Were Sisters) got turned into feature films, and many were Book Society Choices or Recommendations.

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This success came even though she lacked some of the social connections her contemporaries made in universities like Oxford.

Partner in Austen publishing firm, John Murray, Ronald Barnes, the Third Lord Gorrell, helped to secure her success: he published her second book High Wages, after rejections, and suggested she was quite like Austen.

This book was one of her many hits. Dorothy’s last novel, Someone At A Distance, however, was somewhat critically ignored.

Dorothy Whipple

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Dorothy Whipple

What books has Dorothy Whipple written?

Her titles are:

  • Young Anne (1927)
  • Greenbanks (1932)
  • High Wages (1932)
  • They Knew Mr. Knight (1934)
  • The Priory (1939)
  • They Were Sisters (1943)
  • Because Of The Lockwoods (1949)
  • Every Good Deed (1950)
  • Someone at a Distance (1953)
  • Tale of Very Little Tortoise (1962)
  • The Smallest Tortoise of All (1964)
  • Little Hedgehog (1965)
  • Mrs. Puss and That Kitten (1967).

Why should I read Dorothy Whipple?

Speaking to HuffPost UK, Dr Johnston said: “I find her subjects and writing to be compelling and realistic. She has the elusive quality of ‘umputdownableness’, although she always said she was much better at character than plot.

“She is certainly ‘proto-feminist’, and her contemporary readers certainly recognised that in her writing. Readers identified with her characters; there is a realism to the novels that may have led readers both male and female to feel that these books spoke to their lived experiences.”

My first Whipple book, A Stranger at a Distance, was filled with the domestic politics and wry humour I loved as a long-time Austen reader. It was also more explicit about the work of running a house: it is clear who does all the planning and hard graft, and who sacrifices in a nuclear family.

Whipple “has a following (which apparently includes Queen Camilla), but I would argue that she is largely ‘forgotten’ by those who aren’t part of the Persephone catchment, as lovely as those readers are,” Dr Johnston added.

Publisher Persephone Books has released multiple editions of the author’s work (it’s how both Dr Johnston and I first encountered the writer).

Perhaps it’s time she was more widely recognised.

“Last year I gave a talk then held a discussion with sixth formers at Blackburn Central Library (where Whipple was from),” Dr Johnston recalled.

“We read a few of the short stories, and they absolutely loved them. So many of the female readers identified with [the] feelings of the young protagonists. I thought it was such a shame that this author, who still spoke so strongly to modern teenage readers, should be unknown to them, especially in her hometown.”

I’m already a huge fan, and can’t wait to get stuck into more of her novels.

If you’re wondering where to begin, the professor said: “I would start at the very beginning and read all eight novels, but not too quickly!

“My favourite is probably Greenbanks, but They Were Sisters is an astonishing proto-feminist work”.

Wherever you start, we doubt you’ll be able to stop.

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