Sickness And Diarrhoea Bug Cases Spike 60% In Two Weeks

Norovirus cases have surged by a staggering 60% in the past fortnight, the UK Health Security Agency (UKHSA) has warned.

The virus is a nasty one, causing sudden symptoms including vomiting and diarrhoea, as well as a high temperature, headache, stomach pain or other aches and pains.

Amy Douglas, lead epidemiologist at UKHSA, said the virus is continuing to rise, particularly among people aged 65 and over.

“This increase is in line with what we expected following Christmas, and we are now seeing hospital outbreaks begin to climb as well,” she said.

While this is grim news indeed, there is a small glimmer of hope as flu, Covid-19 and RSV levels continue to fall.

How to prevent norovirus

To try and steer clear of the vomiting bug, UKHSA is urging people to wash hangs regularly with warm soapy water. It also cautioned that alcohol hand gels don’t kill norovirus.

If someone in your household catches it, the NHS advises washing clothes and bedding that has poo or vomit on it on a 60°C wash, separately from other laundry.

Clean toilet seats, flush handles, taps and bathroom door handles regularly. The UKHSA suggests using bleach-based products to clean surfaces, where possible.

Wash your hands with soap and water before preparing, serving or eating food. It’s best to avoid eating food prepared by someone who’s had the winter vomiting bug.

Can you go to work or school with norovirus?

No, is the short answer.

UKHSA’s Amy Douglas said: “If you have diarrhoea and vomiting, don’t return to work, school or nursery until 48 hours after your symptoms have stopped and don’t prepare food for others in that time either.

“If you are unwell, avoid visiting people in hospitals and care homes to prevent passing on the infection to those most vulnerable.”

Norovirus usually passes in two to three days. It’s best to stay hydrated as much as possible to avoid dehydration and get plenty of rest. If you’re in discomfort, paracetamol might also help.

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Dealing With A Narcissist? The ‘BIFF’ Method Could Help

You might have heard of “grey rocking”, a method which experts say can make dealing with narcissistic and high-conflict people a little easier.

It involves keeping comments and responses to antagonistic individuals short, boring, and emotionally uninvested.

And, therapist Danielle Pinals shared on her Instagram, the “BIFF” method might help those dealing with a narcissist ensure they don’t “allow you to get derailed by emotional manipulation or control”.

Here, we spoke to relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, about how (and when) to try the BIFF method.

What is the BIFF method?

Coined by Bill Eddy at the High Conflict Institute, the term stands for “brief, informative, friendly, and firm”.

In other words, don’t spend too long explaining yourself, stay courteous, make sure you relay only the relevant information, and stick to your guns.

An example, the High Conflict Institute explained, could be getting a very long, angry text accusing you of being a terrible person and mother because you asked your coparent to take the kids to your boss’s birthday during their stay.

A BIFF response, they said, would be: “Thank you for responding to my request… Just to clarify, the party will be from 3-5 on Friday at the office, and there will be approximately 30 people there.

“There will be no alcohol, as it is a family-oriented firm, and there will be family-oriented activities. I think it will be a good experience for them to see me at my workplace. Since you do not agree, then of course I will respect that and withdraw my request, as I recognise it is your parenting time.”

When should you use the BIFF method?

Aside from being useful for navigating situations like divorce and coparenting, Roos said, “it can also be helpful during conflicts at work, with relatives and your partner’s family.”

This does not have to be limited to people you suspect of narcissm, though it may be useful then too.

In fact, she added, “I would recommend people to use the BIFF method when they notice that the conversation starts to get loaded, [accusatory], or [circular and] aggressive. It’s especially useful in written communication, such as in emails or SMS.”

Following the BIFF method significantly decreases the chance of escalation, she added.

“I see this as a great way to protect both yourself and the relationship in question as it helps you set boundaries without being cold, cynical or aggressive,” she ended.

“And while it’s far from easy all the time, it’s definitely a strategy worth getting better at as it’ll help you long term with getting more peaceful, communicative and mature relationships, no matter if they’re private or professional.”

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Why ‘Write A List’ Is An Insulting Response To Housework Inequality

91% of women with children spend at least one hour a day on housework, compared with 30% of men with kids, the European Institute for Gender Equality shared in 2021.

According to the same data, working women spend 2.3 hours a day on housework, whereas working men spend 1.6 hours on it daily.

These are, of course, only averages; some men will do as much as women, and some more. Additionally, not all domestic labour imbalances will fall along gendered lines (though in most mixed-gender relationships, it’s likely to).

But no matter what, or who, the cause of chore inequality, chances are anyone who brings up being on the more labour-intensive side of it will have heard “write them/me a list!” at least once.

I have grown to despise that advice in relationships where one person is already doing the bulk of the domestic work. Here, we spoke to relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, about why I might not be alone.

“Write a list” profoundly misunderstands the nature of domestic inequality

Roos said that, while she understands that the idea aims to “create a fairer share of the home labour, I think this advice in reality fails to address the core problem”.

It creates more work for someone who, by nature of being given the task, likely already does the lion’s share of domestic labour, she said.

“When one of the partners is expected to write a list and manage things, they also get all of the responsibility for the situation in their lap as they then must see what needs to be done, to prioritise and organise, and plan and follow through… [which is a] big workload.

“This tip also tends to add to the myth that (usually) women should just ‘know how to run a home and a relationship’, as if it were a skill you’re born with rather than something you learn and build up together with your partner,” she added.

Plus, Roos said, it adds to the feeling that one partner is “helping” another, implying that household work is inherently one partner’s domain.

And a single list assumes that housework is static, that noticing, judging, pre-empting, remembering, and reacting to changes and unexpected shifts in your household’s needs isn’t a huge part of the mental load.

“That said,” Roos told me, “I think it’s [a] pretty stupid piece of advice that in reality tends to make things worse rather than solving anything between you”.

What should couples do instead?

OK, so Roos agrees that the dreaded list should be off the table. But given that domestic labour inequality is so pronounced, and that at least some of the parties involved probably want to improve that, what should we do instead?

“I think the focus should be shifted… to share[d] responsibility,” the therapist told us.

Instead of assigning a “project manager” role to one partner, she added, “Ask yourselves what’s your shared responsibility, where the two of you can take more initiative and where you can lead, and communicate around what tasks you feel more keen on doing and try to split it between you in a fair way”.

It’s important to find a way to follow up on that, too, she continued, “for example, by sitting down and having a check-in every second week where both of you take a shared responsibility of communicating how it goes, what you can do better or change and what you should keep on doing the same.”

The partner who has historically done less in the home needs to understand why this is important, however, she added.

“To make them understand that, you might need to sit down and have a talk where you honestly explain how it feels to you when they say [things like], ‘Just tell me what to do and I do it’… you’re not their parent, and this dynamic easily makes it feel that way, which isn’t sustainable in the long run.

“And lastly, don’t forget that this is something you’ll need to tweak and adjust with time as life changes… household labour needs to stay up to date with your situation,” she ended.

“Finding the balance is therefore nothing you do through one set solution, but by having an ongoing process around the labour work at home!”

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A Simple Pasta-Cooking Trick Can Have A Big Impact On How Your Body Feels

Whether dealing with coeliac disease, gluten intolerance or just tummy troubles, many Americans swear their digestive issues mysteriously ease up when they travel to Europe, the supposed land of consequence-free carbs.

While some of that likely comes down to portion size and wheat quality, another often-overlooked factor is how the pasta is cooked. You’d never catch an Italian cooking their pasta beyond al dente – and sometimes, it’s even a little firmer than that.

According to Marissa Karp, founder and lead registered dietitian at MPM Nutrition in New York, the longer pasta cooks, the more its starches soften and become available to our bodies when we eat it. But more isn’t always better.

How long pasta is cooked can affect how quickly it’s digested, how quickly it raises blood sugar and how you feel after the meal – from steady and satisfied to heavy and ready for a nap.

Ahead, registered dietitians break down the different levels of pasta doneness, what noodles look and feel like at each stage, and how each one affects digestion, energy and blood sugar.

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Firm: how it affects your digestion

Defined as two or three minutes less cook time than the package instructions, “firm” pasta sits at the very beginning of the doneness spectrum. Go ahead and ignore the box here – your spaghetti won’t be raw, but it will have more texture than most Americans are used to.

Firm pasta has the most bite to it,” Karp said. “There’s clear resistance when you press it between your teeth.”

When pasta is cooked a little firmer, your body takes longer to digest it. That means a bowl of penne won’t spike your blood sugar as quickly, according to Kimberly Rose, registered dietitian and certified diabetes educator.

That slower blood sugar spike can make a noticeable difference in how you feel afterward. Instead of the classic post-pasta slump – heavy, sleepy and weirdly hungry again an hour later – you’re more likely to feel steady and satisfied. And taking that second helping is because the pasta is genuinely delicious, not because the first bowl barely made a dent in your hunger. “Firmer pasta tends to break down more slowly, which can help people feel satisfied for longer and support steadier blood sugar when eaten in appropriate portions,” said Amanda Frankeny, a registered dietitian nutritionist.

If you’re trying to keep your blood sugar steady or you’re tired of that familiar post-pasta slump, cooking pasta a bit firmer may be worth a try. Just know that if you have a more sensitive stomach, this texture isn’t always the most comfortable.

Al dente: how it affects your digestion

In the food world, al dente has become the default way to cook pasta, much like ordering a steak medium-rare or scrambling eggs until they’re just set, not dry.

To get there, you’ll usually want to ignore the package instructions again and pull your pasta from the water about one to two minutes earlier than the package states. (If you’ve been faithfully following the box this whole time, there’s a good chance you’ve been eating softer, mushier pasta than you realised.)

Al dente is the Goldilocks texture most of us are taught to aim for: not too firm, not too soft.

“Al dente tends to be the most comfortable because it digests at a steady pace and tends to offer balanced, sustained energy,” Karp said.

That aligns with research. A 2022 study found that when pasta is cooked for less time, your body breaks down less of its starch, leading to a slower, steadier rise in blood sugar.

While “chewing your food well” has become a diet-culture cliche, 2023 research suggests the real driver is food texture. Foods that require more chewing tend to trigger stronger satiety signals, simply because digestion starts earlier and happens more gradually.

Most of us likely cook pasta to this doneness not only because it has a pleasant mouthfeel but because it’s often easier on the body.

Soft: how it affects your digestion

“Digestion begins in the mouth,” explains Rose, “and soft pasta is fastest to digest.” That’s because soft pasta requires minimal chewing. With almost no resistance for your teeth, it moves quickly from the plate to the stomach, where it’s broken down faster than firmer noodles.

That might sound counterintuitive, but research on food texture backs this up: foods that are soft and easy to chew don’t tend to keep us as full as foods that make us do a little more work. When you have to chew more, you also tend to eat more slowly, which gives your body (and gastrointestinal fluids) time to register that you’re eating.

Typically cooked to the package instructions or even a little longer, soft pasta has no bite left at the centre. This can also happen when pasta is cooked and then baked or reheated in dishes like casseroles or mac and cheese, where a second round of cooking pushes it past al dente.

That quicker breakdown is also why soft pasta is often blamed for the classic carb crash. According to Rose, “Soft pasta will raise your energy levels quickly because more starch is readily available; however, this type of energy is short-lived and may result in a drop in energy after consuming.”

When pasta is overcooked, a few things change the way your body handles it, according to a 2015 study. First, the starches become more broken down and easier to access, which means the carbs hit your system faster – giving you that quick burst of energy, followed by a drop. At the same time, the structure of both starch and protein in the pasta softens, which makes it harder for your body to digest and can lead to bloating or an upset stomach after eating.

Still, soft pasta absolutely has a place at the table. For people who have trouble chewing, sensitive digestion or who need quick, easily accessible energy, it can be a great option. According to Frankeny, “That’s not a bad thing at all. Depending on how active you are, how much you are eating and everything else is on the plate – like produce and protein – softer pasta can easily be a part of a well-rounded meal.”

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A&E Doctors Share The Most Ridiculous Sex-Related Injuries They’ve Seen

Sex should be a fun and satisfying time – not something that puts you in the emergency room. And yet, it happens more often than you think.

Emergency rooms see it all – including what happens when sex goes sideways. From objects that disappear to injuries that require surgery, doctors say the biggest problem isn’t curiosity or experimentation. It’s waiting too long to get help because you feel ashamed.

“Most sex-related injuries are preventable, and none of them should be a source of shame,” Dr. Martina Ambardjieva, a urologist and ER physician, told HuffPost.

What does cause problems is waiting too long to seek care because of embarrassment. If something feels wrong, pain, bleeding, swelling, or an object that refuses to come out, just come in. Trust me, we’ve seen it all.”

These kinds of injuries are quite common, according to doctors, but shame often keeps people from getting the help they need.

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These kinds of injuries are quite common, according to doctors, but shame often keeps people from getting the help they need.

Two emergency physicians shared some of the most common – and most alarming – sex-related injuries they’ve treated, along with what people should know if something goes wrong.

Penile fractures are as dramatic as they sound

Ambardjieva said the “classic penile fracture” is one of the most urgent sex-related emergencies she sees.

“It’s exactly as dramatic as it sounds – a loud ‘crack,’ immediate swelling, and a lot of panic,” she explains. It most often happens when the penis slips out during thrusting and forcefully hits a partner’s pelvis.

“A penile fracture occurs when the tunica albuginea, the tough fibrous sheath surrounding the erectile tissue, tears,” she explains. “When the penis is erect, that tissue becomes thin and stretched, making it vulnerable to sudden bending or impact – even though there’s no bone inside.”

If someone delays seeking care, the torn tissue can heal improperly. “That can lead to permanent curvature, painful erections, or long-term erectile dysfunction,” Ambardjieva said. “This is the one sexual injury where time really matters.”

Objects that get ‘lost’

Ambardjieva said foreign objects getting “lost” in the body are a routine part of ER and gynaecology work.

“I’ve removed all kinds of items that weren’t designed to go inside the body – cucumbers, carrots, sprays – and I’ve also seen objects in the male urethra, like a pencil,” she said. “People are usually terrified and embarrassed, but it’s more common than they think.”

The problem often comes down to using objects without a flared base, smooth shape, or any kind of safety stop. That’s why you might run into this phrase: “If it has no flare, it shouldn’t go up there.”

Where something is inserted also matters. The vaginal canal is a closed space, so objects can get stuck but won’t travel deeper into the body. “The rectum, however, has no anatomical stop and creates suction, meaning objects can be pulled further inside,” Ambardjieva explains. “The urethra is narrow and delicate, making insertions particularly dangerous.”

If you’re embarrassed to come into the hospital because you’ve inserted something that’s become stuck, Ambardjieva hopes you’ll reconsider and not let the stigma keep you from getting care.

“It’s important to normalise this. We remove lost objects every week in the emergency and urology practice,” Ambardjieva said. “It’s a common medical issue – not something to be ashamed of.”

Vaginal tears and bleeding after sex

Small vaginal tears are another frequent reason for ER visits, especially among postmenopausal women or anyone dealing with vaginal dryness.

“Even a small tear can bleed more than people expect, which really scares them,” Ambardjieva said.

Friction, insufficient lubrication, or a tense pelvic floor can all cause micro-tears. She notes that water-based lubricants can dry out quickly, increasing friction, while silicone-based lubes stay slippery longer and can reduce tearing.

Bleeding, Ambardjieva said, becomes more concerning if it doesn’t slow, comes with large clots, severe pain, lightheadedness or difficulty urinating. In other words, head to the emergency room as soon as possible.

Testicular torsion during sex

While less common, Ambardjieva has seen testicular torsion triggered during intercourse. “It’s sudden, sharp testicular pain – and it’s an emergency until proven otherwise,” she said.

Torsion happens when the spermatic cord twists, cutting off blood flow. Without treatment within about four to six hours, the testicle can be permanently damaged or lost. Some men are more vulnerable because of anatomical variations that allow the testicle to rotate more freely inside the scrotum.

“Circulation is blocked due to the twisting of the spermatic cord,” Ambardjieva explains. “Without rapid treatment, usually within four to six hours, there is a real risk of permanently losing the testicle, because of lost lasting ischemia (insufficient blood flow).”

Condom mishaps

Broken condoms or condoms that get stuck inside are another source of anxious ER visits.

“These are usually very easy for us to remove safely,” Ambardjieva said, adding that problems tend to come from incorrect sizing, not enough lubrication, expired condoms, heat exposure, or using oil-based products that weaken latex.

Bruising from oral sex

Not all sex injuries come from penetration.

“I’ve seen bruising and swelling just from overly enthusiastic suction,” Ambardjieva said. “It’s usually harmless, but if the swelling is severe or the penis starts bending, get checked.”

Broken capillaries can leave marks that look alarming but usually fade within days. However, spreading bruising, significant pain, fever, difficulty urinating, or a bent penis should be checked out, which may indicate infection or deeper tissue injury.

When things go seriously wrong

Dr. Jared L. Ross, an assistant professor at the University of Missouri, has seen some extreme cases.

Several years ago in St. Louis, he said he treated a patient who inserted his pet gerbil into his rectum with lubrication: “He ended up in the ER with rectal bleeding. We were able to get the gerbil out, but unfortunately, the gerbil wasn’t so lucky; he had already suffocated.”

In December 2024, Ross said he treated two patients on the same Christmas shift whose wives were out of town.

“One had inserted a full-sized LED lightbulb into his rectum. It required anaesthesia and surgical removal,” he said. “Shortly after, another patient arrived with his wife’s vibrator lodged inside. Both myself and the other ER doc on shift tried again, but no luck, we had to call the surgeon back. I remember he remarked it was a pretty fancy one, rechargeable batteries. I can’t imagine how those conversations went when their wives got back in town.”

So it’s unsurprising that Ross encourages people to come to the ER if they run into an issue like this (or a less extreme one), but also to be more proactive about safety when it comes to the rear end. “If you’re into inserting things into your rectum, use devices designed for that so they don’t get lost,” he said.

The bottom line

Both doctors stress that shame is what causes the real harm, wacky hijinks aside.

“Sexual injuries and accidents are far more common than people realise,” Ambardjieva said. “Emergency clinicians truly aren’t judging. We’ve seen it all.”

Pain, bleeding, swelling, or an object that won’t come out are all signs to seek care – sooner rather than later.

“Bodies are vulnerable, sex is physical, and sometimes things go wrong,” she adds. “Getting help early is always the right, responsible thing to do.”

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Your Choice Of Afternoon Snack Could Increase Your Risk Of Dementia

People are living longer these days, with the average life expectancy for people in the U.S. reaching 80.7 years for women and 74.1 for men, according to a scientific study published in JAMA.

Yet unfortunately, for many people, their later years are not spent in good health.

According to the same study, the U.S. has the largest gap between healthspan (the number of years one spends in good health) and lifespan (the number of years one lives).

Dementia is one of the biggest threats to healthspan. According to the National Institutes of Health, researchers estimate that 42% of Americans over 55 will eventually develop dementia.

Ready for some good news? You can control your brain health more than you probably think.

A 2024 report published in The Lancet says that an estimated 45% of dementia cases are preventable through diet and lifestyle habits.

Certainly, it’s our everyday habits that impact our health the most, including our brain health. There’s one common habit in particular that brain health experts we talked to said could be increasing one’s dementia risk without them even realising it.

Your sugary afternoon snack could have more of an impact on your long-term health than you realize.

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Your sugary afternoon snack could have more of an impact on your long-term health than you realize.

The afternoon habit that could increase dementia risk

When the afternoon munchies hit, what do you reach for? If it’s something sugary, you could be increasing your risk of dementia.

According to brain health experts we talked to, there is a wealth of scientific research showing a connection between a high-sugar diet and increased dementia risk, particularly when something sugary is eaten in the afternoon.

Julie Andrews, a registered dietitian specialising in the MIND diet (an eating plan created to lower dementia risk) and the author of The MIND Diet Plan and Cookbook, shared that one reason for the link between a high-sugar diet and dementia risk is that sugary foods spike blood sugar levels.

Studies show large variations in blood glucose levels over a long period of time – both highs and lows – can increase dementia risk because it can damage blood vessels in the brain, cause inflammation in the body and starve brain cells of the fuel they need to function properly. This can impact everyone, not just those with diabetes,” Andrews said.

Dr Alvaro Pascual-Leone, a professor of neurology at Harvard Medical School and the chief medical officer at Linus Health, also told HuffPost that having chronically unstable blood sugar levels can negatively impact the brain.

“Insulin regulation is not just important for metabolism. It’s also important for the brain itself,” he said. He explained that a high-sugar diet can lead to brain insulin resistance, which is when the brain cells can’t use glucose properly. This can lead to memory loss and dementia. Pascual-Leone shared that this is unofficially being referred to as type 3 diabetes.

“Unstable or high blood sugar may contribute to damaging blood vessels, including the tiny ones that feed the brain. It’s linked to oxidative stress, which can injure brain cells. It may also interfere with how brain cells use energy, since glucose is the brain’s main fuel,” said Dr Dung Trinh, the chief medical officer of Healthy Brain Clinic and an internist with MemorialCare Medical Group in Irvine, California.

Besides raising blood sugar, MIND Diet for Beginners author and registered dietitian Kelli McGrane told HuffPost that sugar also impacts the brain’s reward system.

“One reason sugar is so appealing is that it triggers dopamine release in the brain’s reward pathway. While occasional or moderate intake isn’t typically concerning, consistently high sugar intake can overstimulate this system. Over time, this may negatively affect learning, memory, mood regulation and even motivation,” she said.

What’s so bad about the afternoon?

Afternoon blood sugar spikes are especially bad for brain health, Pascual-Leone said. He explained that this is because glucose intolerance is naturally lower in the later half of the day compared to the morning, making blood sugar spikes from sugary snacks even more dramatic.

Andrews and Pascual-Leone both told HuffPost that another reason why eating something high in sugar later in the day is particularly detrimental is that it can get in the way of sleeping well. Tringh said this too, pointing out that sugar can impact sleep, and consistently not getting enough sleep increases the risk of dementia.

Pascual-Leone explained that sleep is crucial for protecting against dementia because it’s when the brain clears out neurotoxic proteins. If these toxic proteins (specifically ones named beta-amyloid and tau) aren’t cleared out, he said, they can interfere with communication between neurons. Scientific research shows a clear connection between beta-amyloid and tau accumulation and dementia.

Whole fruit is absorbed differently by your bloodstream, having a different effect on your health.

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Whole fruit is absorbed differently by your bloodstream, having a different effect on your health.

What about fruit?

Perhaps you’re wondering if all foods with sugar impact the brain in these ways. For example, will snacking on fruit have the same impact on the brain as a cookie? According to all four experts, not exactly.

“Cookies and candy are mostly refined sugar and refined flour – they hit the bloodstream quickly, spike blood sugar and don’t bring much nutrition with them.

“Whole fruit, on the other hand, comes in a package with fibre, which slows down how fast sugar is absorbed, vitamins, minerals and antioxidants that help protect brain cells, and water, which helps with fullness and hydration,” Trinh said.

He said this means that when you eat fruit, blood sugar doesn’t rise as quickly and the brain is getting protective nutrients, which doesn’t happen with foods like cookies or candy.

McGrane pointed out that many fruits also contain antioxidants and plant compounds that support brain health, such as anthocyanins in berries, which have been linked to improved cognitive function and reduced inflammation in the brain.

How to satisfy your sweet tooth without negatively impacting your brain

While it’s important to be aware of the connection between sugar and dementia risk, all four experts emphasised that this doesn’t mean you have to cut sugar completely out of your life.

Pascual-Leone shared that experiencing pleasure is important for mood and brain health, and eating foods we love (even if they’re void of nutritional benefits) is part of that. Instead of nixing sugary snacks completely, he recommends eating them in moderation and making it a point to savor the experience when you do have them.

To minimise the spike in blood sugar when you do have a sugary treat, Andrews recommends pairing it with something high in fibre or protein. “Consuming sugar alone is one of the main ways to cause a spike and drop (highs and lows) in your blood sugar, so pairing it with foods that help keep your blood glucose levels even keel will help,” she said.

Don’t wait until you’re hangry to get yourself a snack either. Tingh explained that when blood sugar levels drop (which happens when you haven’t eaten in a while), you’re more likely to reach for the fastest sugar, which is often in the form of something high in added sugars and low in nutritional value. “Having balanced meals and snacks makes it easier to choose wisely,” he said.

Since blood sugar spikes are more dramatic in the latter half of the day and can interfere with sleep, if you are going to have a sugary snack, having it earlier in the day can minimise the impact on your brain.

Want some sweet snack ideas that brain health experts would approve of? Trinh and McGrane are both big dark chocolate fans. “Dark chocolate is rich in cocoa flavanols, which have been shown to support healthy blood flow in the brain and combat inflammation,” McGrane said.

Berries and nuts are another great zero-prep snack option that Trinh recommended. The berries are loaded with brain-supporting antioxidants and the fats and protein in the nuts provide satiety and minimise blood sugar level spikes.

Here’s the biggest takeaway all four experts want people to know: having a diet high in sugar increases the risk of dementia. This doesn’t mean you should avoid sugar completely.

But it does mean you should watch your intake and, when you are enjoying something sugary, it helps to pair it with a food with fibre, protein or fats to blunt the blood sugar spike. When you do have something sugary, enjoy it! After all, that’s what it’s meant for.

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An Expert Has Shared Their Comments On The Chinese Hot Water Trend

TikTok users are ‘becoming Chinese’ this month by embracing traditional cultural habits to level up their modern beauty and wellness routines. If you haven’t heard of this, you may need to get working on your algorithm as there have been 3.2 million views of this topic on the clock app.

The practice that they’re all racing to take part in is formally known as Yang Sheng (meaning “nourishing life”) and users are joking that they are ‘turning Chinese’ by taking part. The most common practice, and the one that has gone wild in the app is drinking hot water before bed which promises glowing skin and a healthier body.

The trend focuses on removing “internal dampness” and aiding digestion by moving away from iced drinks in favour of thermal flasks. That’s right. Iced coffees are finally out of fashion. I never thought I’d see the day, either.

But, does it work? And how does introducing this to your night time routine affect your sleep? To answer this, nutritionists and sleep experts at Mattress Online explain the benefits and potential drawbacks of this practice.

Does the Chinese hot water trend work?

Helen Ruckledge, Registered Nutritionist at Mattress Online advises: “There is no consistent research that suggests hot water aids digestion or reduces bloating more than cold water. It is certainly not the case that hot water speeds up the metabolism or makes you wake up with a flat stomach.

Hydration is fundamental to many aspects of health. For example, it is well established that being dehydrated can increase your risk of constipation.”

Ruckledge assures that whatever works best for you when it comes to drinking water is what you should stick to, saying: “The key to hydration is to drink water in whichever way you enjoy the most, to encourage you to drink plenty. There is certainly no research to suggest that cold water is detrimental. Many people find it more refreshing when cold.

“Others find hot drinks comforting and prefer drinking water hot. Just a cautionary note, if you opt for hot, do boil the water and cool it rather than taking it out of a hot tap. And of course, ensure the water is not scalding hot when you drink it.”

As for whether drinking hot water before bed helps us to sleep…

Hannah Shore, Head of Sleep Science at Mattress Online says: “Drinking a cup of hot water before bed probably won’t directly affect your sleep; however, it could have some benefits. Taking the time to sit and drink a hot cup of water could be the perfect thing to build into your wind-down routine.”

She emphasises that the habit of slowing down before bed with a hot drink may be more beneficial than the drink itself, saying: “As adults, we often forget the importance of a wind-down routine, which should help relax the mind and body, prompting us that it’s time for sleep.

“In turn, if this is done in the right environment, it can prompt the body to create sleep-promoting hormones, such as melatonin, helping you to drift off to sleep more easily.”

Stay hydrated and rested wherever possible, basically.

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Ask A Sexologist: Why Don’t I Feel In The Mood For Sex Until My Partner Initiates?

Not all lust is the same, licensed sexologist, relationship therapist, and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, told HuffPost UK.

Sure, there’s the better-known spontaneous desire ― a sudden, proactive urge that can cause the spark that initiates sex.

But Roos said that though “many people have gotten the idea of the lust being something that ‘just should pop up’… this is rarely the reality”.

Instead, she explained, a lot of us experience “reactive desire”.

What is reactive desire?

For those with “reactive desire,” lust only, or mostly, kicks in in response to another’s expression of attraction.

That can be “someone taking the initiative to [create] closeness, physical touch and a flirty atmosphere,” she said.

Desire can kick in once those with “reactive desire” feel sexually wanted she explained.

There is nothing wrong with feeling this way, Roos added; it’s “common”.

How can I tell if I have “reactive desire”?

Roos gave three signs:

  1. “Rarely spontaneously feeling that ‘I want to have sex right now’” urge,
  2. Feeling desire ramp up “when your partner initiates kisses and physical touch,”
  3. Worrying or feeling confused about your approach to sex, as while “you rarely [feel like initiating] getting intimate, still when you have sex, it’s pleasurable and feels good”.

How can “responsive desire” affect your sex life?

On the plus side, “responsive desire tends to make the sex more focused on the foreplay, the emotional connection and pleasure, not performance,” Roos said.

This is especially true if you’re both aware of your lust types.

But if you don’t communicate about your desires, the sexologist added, “A partner can also misread your lack of initiative as you not being interested or attracted anymore, or that you’re rejecting them”.

Additionally, “you can start doubting yourself and wonder if you actually want sex anymore, which can lead to pressure and stress that becomes a downward spiral”.

Your partner might have a responsive desire type too, in which case, “your sex life is at risk of slowing down”.

How can I have a better sex life with “responsive desire”?

Communication, as ever, is key.

“Explain that you not taking initiative isn’t is because you’re not interested in and attracted to your partner, and to set words on how your lust works, for example, by saying ‘I often get in the mood first when we already have started to get intimate, which makes it difficult for me to be the one who initiates intimacy,’” Roos told us.

Mention what gets you going, whether it’s your partner expressly communicating that they want to have sex with you or engaging in physical touch.

“Don’t forget to [affirm] your partner and show appreciation when they are taking the initiative… that will increase the chance of them keeping doing so!”

What if neither my partner nor I initiate sex, but love when we have it?

It’s “way more common than people might think” for both partners to have a responsive desire type, said Roos.

In fact, it’s sometimes “the reason behind a dead bedroom despite both of you actually being interested in sex.

“I recommend starting with relieving the initiative by deciding that it mustn’t mean ‘I want sex now,’ but instead is a way of saying, ‘I want to open up for intimacy.’”

Deciding to create low-pressure intimacy plans ahead of time or having romantic rituals that naturally build lust can help, too, she added.

“Get a table at a restaurant and go for a romantic dinner, decide on having a massage session at home this weekend, have a routine of showering together one day a week or go to sleep at the same time, and do so naked,” she suggested.

Lastly, she ended, “be curious instead of judging yourselves or each other. See the lust as something that can grow, develop and change with time.

“When two people with responsive desires work together as a team to find the ways that work for you, you can create a safe, playful, passionate and living sex life together!”

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Tired All The Time? 6 Conditions To Consider Checking For

One in eight people in the UK say they feel tired “all the time,” YouGov reported in 2022.

In fact, the feeling is so common that the NHS says it has its own acronym, TATT (tired all the time).

But while the health service said most causes of TATT are “obvious,” like overwork or having a young child, Amir Bhogal, director and superintendent pharmacist at Pyramid Pharmacy Group, told us that “there are several hidden causes that may be easy to overlook”.

Here, he shared seven potential causes:

1) Iron deficiency

“Iron helps transport oxygen throughout the body via red blood cells. When iron levels are low, your body struggles to carry enough oxygen to your muscles and organs, leading to constant tiredness and weakness,” Bhogal said.

These are common signs of iron deficiency anaemia. Others include shortness of breath, headaches, paler than usual skin, and palpitations.

It “is surprisingly common, especially among women, due to regular menstrual blood loss, as well as those who follow a strictly vegetarian or vegan diet. While symptoms can be subtle at first, fatigue can interfere with daily activities and overall quality of life,” Bhogal added.

A blood test can confirm whether you have iron deficiency anaemia.

2) Thyroid issues

The thyroid is a gland in your neck that produces hormones. These affect things like your heart rate and body temperature.

“An underactive thyroid (hypothyroidism) can slow down metabolic processes and reduce the body’s ability to produce energy efficiently, leading to sluggishness or temperature sensitivity,” Bhogal said.

And an overactive thyroid can do the opposite, causing bursts of energy sometimes followed by crashes. It can create difficulty sleeping, too.

“Thyroid issues can develop slowly, with subtle symptoms ranging from unexplained changes in weight and mood, as well as dry skin or thinning hair. However, blood tests can confirm a thyroid imbalance,” the pharmacist said.

3) Low blood pressure

Though high blood pressure can make you tired, that usually happens indirectly through organ changes or associated lifestyle choices. But “low blood pressure (hypotension) can also sap energy,” the pharmacist told us.

“When blood pressure is too low, your organs and muscles may not receive enough oxygen-rich blood, leading to dizziness and constant tiredness.”

Sometimes, he added, low blood pressure can be created by dehydration, nutritional deficiencies, and some medications, and even some heart conditions.

“If fatigue is accompanied by lightheadedness or fainting, please consult with a medical professional immediately,” Bhogal stated.

“Getting your blood pressure tested regularly, even without symptoms, can help detect underlying issues early and support long-term health.”

4) Dehydration

Lots of us don’t drink enough water in winter, but Bhogal said this mistake could be making us very tired.

“Water is essential for just about every function in the body, including energy production. Even just mild dehydration can reduce blood volume, making the heart work harder and leaving you feeling lethargic,” he told us.

“The reality is that many people underestimate their daily fluid needs, especially when the weather is warm, or they are physically active. Instead, they compensate with sugary drinks, alcohol, or caffeine, all of which are diuretics that can worsen dehydration.”

Drinking more water and eating more water-rich foods, like fruits and vegetables, can help a lot.

5) Chronic infections

Sometimes, conditions like the flu or glandular fever can stay in your system for longer than you realise. This, Bhogal explained, can keep you feeling run-down after sneezes, sniffles, and sore throats have abated.

This, he continued, can even be the case with UTIs and chronic sinusitis.

“Often, these infections present with subtle symptoms like low-grade fever or mild muscle aches that are easy to dismiss. Identifying the underlying infection usually requires medical testing, and treatment may involve antibiotics or antiviral therapy to restore energy levels,” he said.

6) Sleep conditions

When it comes to feeling rested, sleep quality can sometimes matter as much as the number of hours slept.

And, Bhogal said, “Frequently waking up can be caused by environmental disturbances, and sometimes from conditions like sleep apnoea or restless leg syndrome, which can prevent the body from entering deep, restorative rest.

“Fatigue caused by poor sleep often presents as brain fog and irritability that manifests as low motivation throughout the day. Overuse of electronic devices before bedtime can also interfere with the natural sleep cycle, so I advise putting away gadgets at least two hours before bedtime.”

If you’re concerned about your sleep, speak to your GP.

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You Probably Need More Age-Gap Friendships

The numbers 15 and 20 might sound reasonable when you’re deciding how much to tip your server at a restaurant. But when they refer to an age gap between romantic partners, they’re more likely to raise eyebrows.

Even if you’re not a fan of May-December romances, experts say that age-gap friendships are one type of intergenerational relationship we can all get behind. According to research, we tend to gravitate toward people who are similar to us, a phenomenon called homophily.

Consequently, our friend groups often include people who share our interests, education, politics and life experience.

When your friends are of a similar age, it’s hard to avoid comparing your life to theirs. “One of the benefits of having older friends who are in a different life stage is the freedom to share without conflicted feelings,” a licensed clinical psychologist said.

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When your friends are of a similar age, it’s hard to avoid comparing your life to theirs. “One of the benefits of having older friends who are in a different life stage is the freedom to share without conflicted feelings,” a licensed clinical psychologist said.

And while it might seem like a good idea to prioritise friendships with people you can relate to, you might be missing out on what other generations have to offer. Below, experts discuss the benefits of befriending someone who is 10-plus years older or younger than you.

The real benefits to having older friends

You’re less likely to doubt your pace in life.

When your friends are of a similar age, it’s hard to avoid comparing your life to theirs. Maybe they just received a promotion or set off on their honeymoon. On the outside, you might be congratulating them for reaching these milestones, but it’s only natural to worry about falling behind.

“One of the benefits of having older friends who are in a different life stage is the freedom to share without conflicted feelings,” Charlynn Ruan, a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder of Thrive Psychology Group, told HuffPost. “We can share our wins without feeling like we are bragging or triggering our friends who might not be doing well in that area.”

Jenny Woo, a Harvard-trained emotional intelligence researcher and founder/CEO of Mind Brain Emotion, and author of 52 Essential Relationships, agreed, saying, “Age-gap friendships help younger people zoom out from the comparison trap by reminding them that timelines are flexible and growth is nonlinear.” An older friend can provide a safe space to talk without the pressure of having to compete or project an image of success.

They act as mentors and surrogate family members.

“Historically, across many cultures we used to live in much more supportive multi-generational communities where younger people had access to older individuals who had more life experience and advice to pass down,” Natalie Moore, LMFT, owner of Space for Growth Therapy & Coaching, told HuffPost. She said that many of her clients, most of whom are in their 20s and 30s, don’t have emotional support from mentors or role models.

“So, it makes sense that younger adults would seek out older friends to fill that gap,” she said. “Additionally, so many adults do not have positive relationships with their parents, so an older friend can act as almost a surrogate parent to provide the type of support they need.”

Aside from support, an older friend can promote a sense of continuity by sharing memories and traditions. For example, they can pass along recipes or inspire you to take up so-called “grandma hobbies,” like crocheting, knitting and gardening. We know from research that taking a break from your phone can improve your mental health.

Aside from support, an older friend can promote a sense of continuity by sharing memories and traditions.

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Aside from support, an older friend can promote a sense of continuity by sharing memories and traditions.

They can enhance your personal growth

If you spend a lot of time interacting with same-age peers, especially online, this can limit your perspective on the world. “We often see this where millennials and Gen Zs complain about the tone-deaf responses of older generations to their struggles to buy houses and afford to move out,” Ruan said. In this politically divisive climate, it’s important to be able to have respectful conversations with people who see the world differently than you do.

“An older friend can offer candid, judgment-free feedback without the power dynamics of a parent or boss,” Woo said. Whereas a peer can empathise with the current job market, an older friend can tell you what it was like to make a career pivot or adjust to life in a new city.

In addition, someone who is 20 years your senior is more likely to have experience with navigating career uncertainty, identity questions or relationship concerns. “Younger people often feel more motivated to invest in their physical and emotional well-being when they see the real impacts in someone older,” Woo said.

It’s not just the younger friend who benefits — here’s why you might want a younger bestie

They add variety and spontaneity to your life.

“Being around someone younger can reignite a sense of vitality, spontaneity and playfulness,” Woo said. You can learn about new trends and technologies, or rediscover past hobbies and interests. For instance, a 2024 study found that playing a musical instrument can keep your mind sharp as you age.

Similar to young adults, the trend of having friends who are similar to you persists as you get older. “This can cause people to become narrow-minded and judgmental, so having younger friends can help keep your mind open and curious,” Ruan said.

Moore agreed, explaining that a younger friend may expose an older friend to new ideas or ways of seeing the world. “This can challenge them to be more relevant with current events, technology or the ever-changing zeitgeist,” she added.

You can share without competing

“Sadly, social comparisons don’t lessen that much with age,” Ruan said. An older friend may struggle to find support from same-age peers. For example, they might feel judged for having their adult children move back home or continuing to work because they can’t afford to retire.

“Sharing these concerns with a younger friend can feel liberating because the younger adult can just listen and express comfort without the compulsion to give unhelpful advice,” she said. A younger friend may also be more empathetic about marriage and kids, considering they’re closer to the beginning of their journey.

“Being around someone younger can reignite a sense of vitality, spontaneity and playfulness,” a Harvard-trained emotional intelligence researcher said.

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“Being around someone younger can reignite a sense of vitality, spontaneity and playfulness,” a Harvard-trained emotional intelligence researcher said.

Their friendship can offer a renewed sense of purpose

“The act of sharing hard-earned wisdom gives older friends a sense of purpose and value, which can counteract ageism and a fear of irrelevance,” Woo said. Research shows that having a sense of meaning and direction can help you weather life transitions such as divorce, retirement or an illness diagnosis.

In fact, “There’s a phenomenon of brain development where younger adults are more geared toward learning, whereas adults in midlife and beyond are more inclined toward sharing what they’ve learned,” Moore said. She said that this makes sense from an evolutionary perspective because a younger person with less life experience has more learning to do than someone who has knowledge that can benefit future generations.

How to make sure your age-gap friendship doesn’t become one-sided

Sometimes, age-gap friendships can resemble a mentorship relationship where the younger person is expecting career advice or networking opportunities. In such cases, an older friend might have a hard time being vulnerable because they feel pressured to have all the answers.

“If an older friend is falling into a role of providing all the advice and not receiving any, they could point that out or adjust their behavior,” Moore said. Likewise, Ruan suggested encouraging your older friend to speak about their struggles, so it becomes a two-way street. You can also make a habit of asking them for updates on things they’ve shared recently to avoid doing all the talking or advice-seeking.

Over time, the younger friend may eclipse their older friend’s accomplishments. “This can cause a strain on the relationship if there is an undercurrent of teacher and student in their dynamic,” Ruan said. Your relationship is more likely to survive if you’re both willing to be vulnerable and support each other through periods of loss and transition.

Woo agreed, saying that it’s best to avoid having an age-gap friendship that’s focused primarily on mentorship. Her advice was to set boundaries, so the younger friend doesn’t come to rely on the older friend as a therapist or life coach. She also suggested participating in activities that aren’t centered on advice-giving, such as physical activity and shared interests like art projects or a book club.

“Healthy age-gap friendships are built on mutual respect and curiosity,” Woo said. “Both people should bring effort and energy to the relationship.”

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