These Arty Postcards Reveal People’s Lockdown Secrets

If you haven’t worn a bra in months or you enjoy really long baths to escape from your family, you’re in good company.

People have been anonymously sharing their lockdown secrets on postcards as part of an arts project launched by Eleanor Tattersfield, the founder of Marby and Elm print workshop and stationery store in London’s Exmouth Market.

The concept is simple: order a free postcard online and Tattersfield will send you a stamped and addressed postcard “for you to unburden yourself of your lockdown secret”.

She’s sent out 500 postcards to date, and has received 275 replies, ranging from the oh-so-relatable to the fantastically eyebrow-raising.

“I hide bars of chocolate in an old Oxo tin,” one postcard reads. “I am having passionate secret sex with another man’s wife and I love it,” another adds.

Tattersfield shares the postcards on Instagram and says the most prominent themes are food, sex, masturbation, loneliness, breaking the rules, love and the love of lockdown.

“I cannot express the joy and excitement I feel opening my shop in the morning and seeing the pile of previously undisclosed secrets on the doormat,” she says. “To think I get to be the first to read these little pieces of someone’s soul is an immeasurable privilege.

“Their wit, sincerity, creativity and diversity are completely compelling.”

Tattersfield came up with the idea after listening to The Apology Line podcast, which tells the story of an answer machine confession line from the 1980s, where people left weird and bizarre messages.

Her shop has been closed in lockdown and the project enabled her to connect with customers, new and old. The collection presents “a portrait of our extraordinary times”, and she hopes to turn the postcards into a book.

“Many people have said they felt a sense of relief writing out their secret and sending it off, out in the ether,” she says.

“Ultimately, this project shows that age old adage that we’re not alone in our secrets/fears/dilemmas/loneliness and seeing and hearing others are going through the same binds us, and helps us through this period of uncertainty.”

Check out some of the postcards below or follow Marby and Elm on Instagram to see more of the project.

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Struggling With Fitness Motivation At Home? Try Tackling Household Chores

Making time to work out while remaining on top of all-important household jobs can be difficult, but have you ever thought about combining the two?

Johnny, from Lytham St Annes, is one of the many Brits who wants to get fitter but lacks the motivation to hit the gym.

Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to work out without leaving the house. You don’t necessarily need a YouTube tutorial or instructor-led Zoom class either, as many household chores involve getting your body moving and muscles working.

In the video above, Meerkat Mindset expert Russell Kane sets Johnny a challenge that will get his pulse rate up and make sure key jobs are completed.

“I’m going to get you motivated, pumped and you’re going to get chores done,” Russell explains. “Everything going to be sparkling – even your six pack. Let’s get this gym dodger into gear.”

Johnny has just one hour to clean the car, rid the hot tub of dirty water, rake the garden leaves, mop the kitchen and move a stack of boxes from the house to the garage.

The average gym membership costs £500 a year, so completing the physically demanding chores will save Johnny money as well as time, giving him more cash and precious hours to spend doing the stuff he loves.

How does he get on with the chores? And does completing them feel like a proper workout? Watch the video above to find out.

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Katie Price’s ‘Track A Troll’ Petition Is Getting Some Kick-Back. Here’s Why

LGBTQ+ people and human rights advocates are concerned a petition launched by Katie Price to end online anonymity may put vulnerable people’s lives at risk.

Price launched the petition alongside Conservative MP Andrew Griffith to call for action to be taken against online trolls, who have abused Price’s 18-year-old son Harvey.

In a statement posted on Instagram, Price wrote: “No troll should retain the right to hide behind their abusive malicious posts. I will not stop until every stone is unturned and all those are exposed and held accountable for their actions. This affects everyone in society including our children, Mother, Brother, Sister, family and friends alike, together we are all united in this petition. #TrackATroll.

As it stands, there are more than 140,000 signatories. Price’s petition asks for it to be made “a legal requirement, when opening a new social media account, to provide a verified form of ID. Where the account belongs to a person under the age of 18, verify the account with the ID of a parent/guardian, to prevent anonymised harmful activity, providing traceability if an offence occurs.”

However, it has prompted communities to speak out about why online anonymity is essential for some people, such as marginalised queer groups, who use platforms like Twitter and Instagram to find solidarity and community.

Since Price launched the campaign on March 10, the hashtag #SaveAnonymity has been widely shared on social media. Many individuals using the hashtag to express their concerns are doing so from anonymous accounts.

One post, which has more than 10,000 retweets, reads: “I’m practically begging you to RT – those under 18 in the UK will have to get their parents to verify their accounts with full ID. This will put so many teens in danger (LGBTQ+ youth, abuse victims, etc.)”

Another reads: “Please tweet the hashtag #SaveAnonymity! A petition is going to UK Parliament that would require everybody on the internet to provide full ID before making an account, and minors would have to use parents’ ID.”

It continued: “If this law gets passed, LGBT kids would be outed, people in dangerous situations lose opportunity to reach out for help anonymously, etc, so please, don’t just tweet the hashtag and nothing else (this would be counted as spam), include other words too.”

One person wrote that they were “ terrified” at the prospect of the proposal getting passed, while another tweeted: “My parents would kick me out for my preferred pronouns. Social media is my escape from homophobic family and school. Please don’t let them take it away from me and many others.”

The Open Rights Group, which promotes human rights online and has 44k followers, is also standing against Price’s campaign. Speaking to HuffPost UK, a spokesperson said: “Attacking anonymity is a short cut to making some LGBTQ people’s lives very difficult, among others.”

In a statement on Twitter, the ORG commented: “We stand with #SaveAnonymity – it is great to see young people stand up for the rights of #LGBTQ people to be anonymous online. This is how rights are defended and won – people standing up for their rights.”

In January, the Open Rights Group responded to the Lords Communications Committee enquiry into freedom of information online, claiming digital regulation is limiting freedom of expression.

Referencing the ongoing debate about online anonymity, the group said: “Psuedonymity is vital for marginalised individuals such as members of the LGBTQ community seeking to explore their identity safely without identifying themselves to everyone they know.”

Other voices expressing concern about Price’s campaign include Rob McDowall, rapporteur for Equality and Human Rights Scotland and chair of Welfare Scotland, who tweeted that he “absolutely could not” support the campaign, which would “put so many in danger especially LGBT+ people who aren’t out.”

McDowall also endorsed another tweet suggesting it should be platforms such as Twitter and Facebook that should be held accountable for any abuse posted.

Cyberbullying has risen under lockdown, according to the Office of National Statistics, whose recent data showed one in five schoolchildren had been at the receiving end of online bullying over the past year.

Price’s campaign to #TrackATroll has garnered backing from charities including Mencap, and charity founder Anna Kennedy OBE, who appointed Harvey one of her charity’s ambassadors.

Clarifying details of the petition on Monday, Katie Price told Victoria Derbyshire: “When we say ID, I could be called Princess Price on something when my name is Katie Price – it’s just a way of contact so you can be contacted. As long as you can be tracked. And if people don’t want to do that then they could be guilty of something.”

In response to the criticism of the campaign, a representative for Katie Price told HuffPost UK: “No one is being outed, or required to provide personal information – a trackable IP address is not asking for private data – only an address to the IP registrar; a registrar of IP address that is held on a data base by a governing body.

“This is yet all to be negotiated. In the instance [that] a complaint is raised, the IP can be tracked to an address and subsequently the source. Katie would not expose anyone other than trolls and those guilty of malicious online content who’s purpose is to directly harm and cause mental upset.”

Responding to Price’s rep, the Open Rights Group spokesperson added: “If [Katie Price’s] plan really is limited to keeping IP records, as her representatives say, then this already exists. The problems here are about enforcement of platform’s rules, of police being unwilling to act.

“We remain worried that calls to remove ‘anonymity’ would be used to justify removing or limiting anonymity and making social media much less safe for LGBT people – and others who wish to remain anonymous or unknown to their work colleagues, social circles of families for instance, from fear of abuse.”

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The 10 Most Popular Songs To Give Birth To

The most popular songs to give birth to have been revealed – and Salt-N-Pepa’s Push It is shockingly absent.

Instead, mums-to-be seem to favour a chilled vibe, with Jack Johnson’s Better Together taking the top spot. The 2005 hit featured in more than half of the birth-related playlists analysed, with 460,197,498 plays on Spotify.

I Won’t Give Up by Jason Maraz came in second, featuring on 26 of the playlists with 530,386,616 plays overall. Meanwhile Make You Feel My Love by Adele took the third spot with 613,094,614 plays and appearing on 25 playlists.

Although he failed to make the top three, Ed Sheeran was the most popular birthing partner artist overall, with two of his songs making an appearance in the top 10.

The researchers, working with Supplement Place, collated a list of 16,000 songs using playlists created by users that included the words “childbirth”, “birthing”, “birth”, “labour”, “birthing at home” and “hypnobirthing”.

As well as looking at which songs and artists appeared most often, they looked at the average beats per minute (BPM) across all of the songs.

The average BPM was 118, which is around the same speed as Alicia Keys, If I Ain’t Got You, Mae Robinson’s What a Wonderful World and Patricia by Florence and The Machine.

The research follows previous analysis, which identified Jeremih’s All The Time as the most popular track to have sex to, with Often by The Weeknd and Genuine’s Pony also making the top 10.

Those lyrics have a lot to answer for.

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The Sarah Everard Vigil Is Needed. Women Say They’ve ‘Had Enough’

The outpouring of pain and anger following the death of Sarah Everard is because women “have had enough”, says Mandu Reid, the leader of the Women’s Equality Party.

“We’ve had enough of the violence perpetrated against us by men, and we’ve had enough of police and politicians not taking it seriously,” the London Mayoral candidate tells HuffPost UK.

“We want to be free to walk the streets without fear of harassment or violence.”

Reid’s comments come ahead of a planned vigil on London’s Clapham Common on Saturday evening that thousands are anticipated to attend, and which organisers say is to “reclaim these streets and our public spaces”.

The 33-year-old’s disappearance on Wednesday March 3 between Clapham and Brixton, followed a week later by the arrest of a serving Metropolitan Police officer on suspicion of her murder, has shaken women to the core.

Because while we may not know Sarah Everard personally, many of us feel that we – or those we know – could easily be Sarah Everard: a woman who was simply walking home after meeting a friend.

The disturbing case has seen women share their own experiences of being followed home, as well as other forms of street harassment, intimidation and violence, both on social media and in private messages and conversations among friends.

Amid the public outpouring, one criminology expert warned women not to “get hysterical” in relation to Everard’s case.

Talking on BBC Radio 4′s Today programme, Professor Marion Fitzgerald of Kent University, said: “Women account for about a third of all murders. Men are far more likely to be murdered. Men are far more likely to be murdered by someone they don’t know. Men are far more likely to be murdered in a public place, and that hasn’t changed.

“I think I’m entitled to say as a woman, we shouldn’t pander to stereotypes and get hysterical.”

But the clear distress expressed on social media in recent days shows “just how differently women experience public space compared to men,” stresses Andrea Simon, director of End Violence Against Women (EVAW).

“The fact that the public conversation has for so long revolved around what actions women must take to ‘keep themselves safe’ rather than what drives perpetrators is really worrying,” she tells HuffPost.

Saturday’s vigil will take place around the bandstand on Clapham Common at 6pm, following reports that police knocked on doors in the area and told women “not to go out alone”.

“We believe that streets should be safe for women, regardless of what you wear, where you live or what time of day or night it is. We shouldn’t have to wear bright colours when we walk home and clutch our keys in our fists to feel safe,” the organisers wrote on Facebook.

“It’s wrong that the response to violence against women requires women to behave differently. In Clapham, police told women not to go out at night this week. Women are not the problem.”

Thousands online have been detailing the many ways women are taught to adjust their behaviour from a young age – stick to the main path, carry your keys, wear bright clothes and text a friend your whereabouts – in a moment reminiscent of #MeToo.

Although the recent social media conversation has been sparked by Everard’s case, women with many different stories have been stepping up to tell them.

Maya Tutton, co-founder of the campaign group Our Streets Now, points out that “public sexual harassment is universal” among women and girls – but the way it plays out is often more pronounced among discriminated groups.

“Not all experiences of public sexual harassment are the same. Sexism is often combined with racism, transphobia, ableism and fatphobia. These incidents are not only more common, but can escalate into racist, Islamophobic or homophobic hate crimes,” she says.

“Harassment doesn’t happen to one kind of body, and yet in our conversations it is so often the white, cisgendered heteronormative experience that is shared.”

The vigil is “for and about women, but open to all,” say the organisers, who urge participants to observe Covid-19 safety guidelines including wearing a mask, social distancing, downloading the NHS contact tracing app and turning their Bluetooth on.

Participants are invited to bring a light for those who’ve died at the hands of violent men, with a strong stance against victim-blaming – a rhetoric that has increased in the wake of Everard’s story.

Women on Twitter have been sharing historic examples, as well as incidents that show some men do not register the magnitude of the issue.

Our Streets Now is currently pushing for street harassment to be made illegal, through its #CrimeNotCompliment campaign, which demands a clear law that criminalises public sexual harassment.

Research conducted by the campaign group alongside Plan International UK found 76% of girls who have experienced harassment have never reported it to the police.

“As it stands, there is no UK law that fully criminalises public sexual harassment, leaving the perpetrators free to get away with it. As one of the girls we work with put it, you can be fined for dropping litter in the UK, but not for harassing a woman in public,” Tutton says. “The girls we work with tell us that they fear they won’t be taken seriously, or believed, if they report harassment, or that anything will be done.”

The group is also working in schools and higher education institutions to get public sexual harassment into the curriculum – for girls and boys. Simon would also like to see the narrative shift to focus on the behaviour of perpetrators.

“We’re always talking about how women ‘safety plan’ – text their friends in advance, walk with their keys in their hands, avoid empty tube carriages or poorly lit areas. But we rarely hear about what drives perpetrators to harm women and what needs to be put in place to stop this behaviour,” she says.

“Like with all acts of violence against women, we need solutions that target the behaviour of perpetrators and not risk blaming victims when they are attacked for simply going about their daily lives.”

Reid is hopeful this week will mark a “turning point” because “women won’t stay silent”.

“We need justice for Sarah and for all the women who have been killed, raped or abused. We need this to be a political and policing priority,” she says. “We need sufficient funding for prevention and support services. And we need equality, because violence against women is both the cause and consequence of women’s inequality.”

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How To Save Money On Bills With One Easy Move

From sorting your online bills to getting your to-do list in order, life admin can feel pretty time-consuming and plenty of us put off small but important tasks.

Deon, from Wakefield, knows this struggle all too well but the 54-year-old is
determined to successfully carry out a “mentality makeover” – and she’s starting with her dreaded WFH space.

“The area that I would like help with today is my office,” she says. “It’s been made worse because I’m now working from home. Bills get paid but [the problem] is finding them. Finding information is a nightmare.”

The average Brit overspends on household bills by £37,000 in their lifetime, while ticking off the to-do list takes an average of 52 minutes a day.

Challenge master Russell Kane sets Deon the task of working out where she can save cash on bills in just under an hour. “I’m helping people across the country adjust their outlook, so they can spend less time doing what they hate and more time doing what they love,” he explains.

Russell Kane and Deon

Russell Kane and Deon

So, how does she get on? With the help of Compare The Market, Deon switches her bills, a move that will save £20 a month on broadband alone, with 40 minutes to spare. “Knowing I can save £20 a month on broadband is a shock,” she admits. “I feel elated.”

Buoyed by her own success, Deon then turns her attention to other tasks around the home – and finds even more ways to save money.

Watch the video above to see how she got on.

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Got A Piers Morgan At Work? Here’s How To Stand Up To Them

Tensions over Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s Oprah interview have been mounting in the Good Morning Britain studio – and weather presenter Alex Beresford has finally had enough of Piers Morgan’s hot takes.

On Monday, Morgan dismissed Meghan’s comments about the suicidal feelings she experienced, with comments that have since been slammed by mental health charities.

Beresford and Morgan had a Twitter spat about the royals, but on Tuesday, it spilled over live on air, resulting in Morgan storming out of the studio.

Criticising Morgan’s “diabolical behaviour”, Beresford said: “I’m sorry but Piers spouts off on a regular basis and we all have to sit there and listen. Six-thirty to seven o’clock yesterday [on the show] was incredibly hard to watch. Incredibly hard to watch.”

Many on Twitter have praised Beresford for standing up to a “bully”, but Morgan has criticised the way the weather presenter aired his views. “I was annoyed, went for a little cool-down, and came back to finish the discussion,” he tweeted.

So, is there a right way to stand up for what you believe in at work?

Witnessing toxic views or bullying in the workplace – whether it’s directed at yourself or others – undermines people’s wellbeing and self-confidence, says Tristram Hooley, professor of Career Education at the University of Derby. It damages an organisation, too, which is why it’s important to call it out.

“The problem is, standing up [for yourself] can often be a lonely experience and leave individuals exposed,” he tells HuffPost UK. “If you feel brave enough to ‘go it alone’ and challenge someone to their face then you should be proud of yourself. But it is often better to work with your colleagues and the systems within your organisation to address these problems.”

Prof. Hooley recommends talking to colleagues to ask their experiences and perceptions of the situation, as well as checking if they’d be prepared to back you up if you make a complaint.

“Speak to line managers and the organisation’s HR department so you don’t have to face the [person] down directly,” he advises. “If there is a trade union in your workplace, it can also be useful to involve them.”

Unfortunately, workplace bullying is common. Research from the employment lawyers at Citation found almost two in five (37%) employees have been bullied or harassed at work at some point. Speaking out practices you disagree with can be the first step in changing the culture of an organisation. This might be vital if you’re taking anti-racism seriously, for example. But it won’t be easy.

“Some managers view dissenting voices as evidence of disengagement and see those members of their team as troublemakers,” says Gillian McAteer, head of employment law at Citation.

“However, often quite the opposite is true and people speak up when they see things they disagree with because they care and want to make things better. Successful businesses value these voices and the role they play in improving practices and highlighting important details which management can easily overlook.”

Every employee has the right to be treated with respect and dignity at all times, adds McAteer. Often, bullying or a toxic work culture is fuelled by someone more senior in the team than the victim, or those negatively impacted indirectly. That doesn’t mean it should go unchecked.

“Don’t shy away from difficult conversations,” says McAteer. “If an employee doesn’t agree with practices in the workplace, it’s important they speak up. And it’s the responsibility of the employer to act on any complaints, offer support and take the appropriate actions.”

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‘Grooming Is A Necessity, Not A Luxury’: How The Lockdown Pet Boom Changed Business For Good For London’s Leading Dog Grooming Specialist

The pandemic has kept us apart from loved ones and friends, heightening our need for social interaction and touch. Since dogs provide us with much of what humans crave, like companionship, friendship and snuggles on demand, it’s no wonder the pandemic has heralded in a boom of new dog owners.

Olivia Irvine, customer care manager, Purplebone

Olivia Irvine, customer care manager, Purplebone

No one knows this quite so well as Olivia Irvine, customer care manager at London’s leading dog grooming specialist, Purplebone, where she’s been working for the past six years and now manages everything across two sites, one in Notting Hill and the other on Hillgate Street in Kensington. Purplebone was founded by couple Julian Victoria and Jacob van Nieuwkoop as a retail and grooming parlour 11 years ago, after they were disappointed with the existing grooming options available for their four dogs.

Watch to see Irvine and Purplebone’s groomers in action – as well as their adorable clientele

Life at Purplebone is as fun and full of excitement as you’d expect as bulldogs and bernedoodles (a popular Bernese mountain dog and poodle cross), cockapoos and cavapoos, lurchers and labs trot through the salon’s doors daily for a range of treatments, from a simple wash and tidy to an allover puppy groom to a blueberry facial – a favourite with bulldog clients.

It’s the go-to destination for the much-loved dogs belonging to a slew of celebs like the Beckhams, the Lampards, the Barlows, Alan Carr, Lily Allen, Middle Eastern royals, as well as the rest of us mere mortals. Irvine works alongside eight grooming staff – including two new hires since the pandemic started – to accommodate as many as 35 dogs a day across both locations.

If you think grooming is an indulgence for over-pampered pooches, think again: Purplebone helps to care for dogs’ health, with ultrasound teeth cleaning, nail grinding, and, most crucially, detangling knots and ridding skin of any debris that’s burrowed in, a common – and potentially problematic – issue known as matting.

“Matting is probably the most important aspect of dog grooming,” Irvine tells us. “Since lockdown, I’ve come to realise dog grooming is a necessity – it isn’t a luxury.”

Most owners don’t consider their dogs’ coats and hair type when purchasing pooches, but they should: breeds like cavapoos and cockapoos, susceptible to matting, can experience extreme discomfort as a result. When knotted hair gets too tightly wound, it can pull on the dog’s skin, leading to rashes, scratching of the area and debris getting pushed further into the skin and causing a whole host of other issues.

There’s no shortage of comedy stories when your clients are on four legs: some dogs come in for love, lavishing their masked groomers with kisses throughout their sessions. Others, especially larger breeds like Great Danes, come to party (“they start off timid but by the end they just want love and loads of cuddles. They go mad, they run around,” says Irvine), while some particularly gifted groomers are able to encourage their dogs to snooze right on the grooming table. Fun fact: groomers are talented dog whisperers, but not-so-skilled when it comes to handling doggie accessories.

“Groomers are absolutely terrible with putting on harnesses – they cannot figure it out for the life of them,” Irvine says.

Going cashless with Square Technology

Going cashless with Square Technology

When the pandemic forced Purplebone’s doors to close on March 19, 2020, in some ways, the business was ready for it: the grooming service had gone cashless using Square six months prior to the first lockdown. Clients save their card on file, it’s charged remotely and it minimises contact between clients and staff.

“Square had a huge influence on that: going cashless seemed unrealistic at the time but people are a lot more open to it now. It’s a lot easier,” explains Irvine.

“When we came back, I realised how useful the contactless reader was. The fact that we could take everything out to them, and they could still pay – really big for us,” Irvine says. Square’s contactless reader allows her to multitask: one client can be collecting and making payments outside, while another is shopping for treats indoors.

The Square Register is another bonus: not only is it sleek and lovely to look at, but it’s user and client-friendly, too.

“The client can see everything that I’m doing, and that’s a huge benefit with Square,” explains Irvine.

In lockdown 1.0, Purplebone’s role turned educational: the team sent out helpful emails to clients to guide them through brushing and grooming at home, and made some informational online videos. Irvine spent her days answering phone calls and helping clients remotely.

“I care about these dogs. It’s really important that clients had the support from us to teach them from afar,” she says.

When the salons reopened in May, the strictest safety measures were in place: PPE, splitting staff out between both locations and carefully marking out all areas for social distancing.

Square's contactless reader

Square’s contactless reader

The biggest change, however, was for clients, who were no longer able to come into the salon to drop off their dogs, but had to wait outside, which required patience and trust on their part.

Purplebone’s role in the community also shifted: in the first lockdown, it wasn’t considered an “essential” business, for grooming or retail. Purplebone also sells a range of chewing treats, as well as three different shampoos and a conditioner, to both local and international customers.

From the second lockdown, Purplebone has been deemed “essential” – no surprise when the business had to launch a temporary service called the “Covid-19 groom,” to help dogs suffering from severe matting, who needed their hair completely shaved off for their own welfare.

The pandemic hasn’t just been responsible for a dog ownership boom. It’s changed how humans rely on pets: for many of us, our dogs have become our reason to get up each morning, or to leave the house for a walk every day. It’s not just dogs who are dependent on humans, anymore: we’re much more reliant on our pets for emotional support now.

“Personally, my role has changed,” explains Irvine. “I now find myself on the educational side, calming a lot of our clients. If the owner is nervous, the dog is nervous.” Irvine has also noticed a lot more separation anxiety in puppies who are used to being home with their owners 24/7, and who haven’t had a chance to experience much alone-time or socialisation with other dogs.

Purplebone has more new clients than ever before, and those clients return more frequently for treatments now that they realise what a difference it makes.

“A lot of our clients came back and said: ‘I didn’t realise how hard your job was’. People did think of us as a luxury, but now there’s a greater appreciation for our groomers,” Irvine notes.

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‘A Womb Full Of Nails’: These Pictures Show The True Pain Of Endometriosis

Like “tightening barbed wire” or “a womb full of nails and daggers” – these are just two ways women describe the debilitating pain of endometriosis, in a new “pain dictionary” that aims to reduce diagnosis times for the condition.

One in 10 women are thought to experience endometriosis – which equates to 176 million women globally – yet astonishingly, it still takes an average of seven and a half years to be diagnosed.

Endometriosis occurs when tissue similar to the lining of the womb grows outside the womb. This tissue bleeds monthly, but there’s nowhere for this blood to go.

It can cause excruciating pain, like “organs wrapped in slowly-tightening barbed wire, followed by sudden intense tightening pain which can be so intense it’s almost difficult to breathe”, says Emma Sutt, one of the illustrators involved in the project, who has endo herself.

Barbing, by Emma Sutt

Barbing, by Emma Sutt

Many women experience delays in diagnosis and treatment due to perceptions that even severe period pain is ‘normal’. Over half (51%) of women and men (52%) think period pain is something women should endure, according to research by Bodyform.

It means many endometriosis sufferers are shamed into silence, while medical professionals underestimate the impacts of living with the condition.

In reality, endo can destroy women’s confidence, sex lives, careers and mental health. In one study of 7,000 women across 52 countries, over 40% had given up or lost their job because of endometriosis.

Monster, by Augustine Cerf.

Monster, by Augustine Cerf.

The pain dictionary is now available as an e-book and in hard copy for GPs who want to gain a better understanding of the condition. It’s hoped it will also give women “new language” to describe their pain.

Currently, healthcare professionals tend to ask patients to describe their pain on a scale of one to 10, but the experience of pain is often highly individual – and often can’t be reduced to a number.

The dictionary is part of #PainStories, a campaign by Essity, the creator of Libresse and Bodyform, designed to tackle the gender pain gap.

“A lot of women think painful periods is normal but actually, it’s not, particularly when the periods are starting to affect activities in your daily life,” says Dr Shireen Emadossadaty, a GP and women’s health specialist who has worked on the campaign.

“Opening up the conversation around period pain will encourage women to see their GP, to be persistent about their symptoms and hopefully we can bring down that diagnosis time. You’re not alone, period pain is common but it’s not normal and it’s not something you should be suffering with.”

Bodyform's digital museum. 

Bodyform’s digital museum. 

People with endometriosis were asked to describe their pain, and their testimonials were then turned into striking illustrations.

These illustrations appear in the book, as well as a new digital ‘Pain Museum’, an exhibition offering more information about endometriosis.

Here are just some of the artworks, coupled with quotes about how it really feels to live with endometriosis.

Fire sickness, by Venus Libido

“The pain burns, stings and aches sometimes all at once. I feel it build up in my lower body like fire, and hot knives pushing from the inside out. The pain travels from my uterus across my stomach and around my sides, down through my legs and up my back until it starts all over again from the source. I feel sick and exhausted from the pain overriding every part of me.”

Misery Roulette, by Selby Hurst

“It’s a fun-sponge roulette of misery. Cramps that stop me moving, yo-yoing emotions, gut-wrenching nausea, being sick, wanting to eat nothing and then everything, back pain, breast pain, alarmingly painful constipation, diarrhoea so bad you can’t leave the house, headaches, migraines, worsening depression, fatigue, anxiety, stress and a whole heap more.”

Misery Roulette by

Misery Roulette by

Inner Nails, by Augustine Cerf

“Hundreds of nails piercing my uterus, my whole pelvis in agony. The pain radiates down my legs, and through my whole body. From one second to the next, I can’t stand up.”

Torture Grips, by Em Cooper

“Like torture. Like somebody is gripping, squeezing, cutting, prodding, stabbing you inside, and won’t let go. The waves of pain last for so long you can only take some painkillers, curl into a ball, and cry yourself to sleep.”

Torture Grips, by

Torture Grips, by

Inner Wringing by Augustine Cerf

“It’s like someone’s wringing my organs. And unbelievable tugging.”

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These Pictures Of Spring Blossom Are The Weekend Vibe We Need

Blossom is coming to the UK – in a big way. The National Trust has announced it’ll be planting more blossoming tree circles in towns and cities across the country “to help signal reflection and hope” following the pandemic.

The conservation charity hopes to spark an annual marking of the season akin to Japan’s hanami – the ancient tradition of viewing and celebrating cherry blossom as the first sign of spring.

The hope is to extend our newfound appreciation of nature that got so many people through the first lockdown in spring 2020, and to give tourism a bit of a boost once it’s able to resume.

The first new blossom circle will be at the Queen Elizabeth Olympic Park in east London and will include 33 UK-grown trees, including cherry, plum, hawthorn and crab apple, to represent the 33 London boroughs.

It’ll be joined by more blossom-friendly green spaces in and around urban areas over the next five years, to connect more people to nature.

Can’t wait until then? Here’s some amazing blossom photos from around the world to get you in the mood for spring.

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