So THAT’s How Restaurants Get Salmon Skin So Crispy

Though I listen to Mary Berry’s advice when it comes to keeping salmon moist (the former Great British Bake-Off host crowds the fish in a pan to trap moisture), I have to admit, it leaves me wanting more.

I crave a crispy, crunchy, seared salmon skin, too. And if a peek at Reddit’s r/AskCulinary forum, where we mere plebs can ask chefs how they cook their perfect meals, is anything to go by, I’m not alone.

Writing to the group, site user u/kellyinacherrytree wrote: “Every time I try to pan-sear salmon at home, the skin either sticks to the pan or comes out soggy.

“I’ve tried using nonstick and stainless pans, patting the fish dry, and getting the pan hot, but I just can’t seem to get that golden, super crispy skin like they do at restaurants,” they continued.

So, how do the experts do it?

The technique starts before you begin cooking

The most-upvoted response to the user’s question was culinary consultant J. Kenji López-Alt’s advice to Serious Eats.

Writing for the publication, he said that heating the pan, using a thin layer of oil and waiting until it shimmers can help.

So, too, can patting the salmon skin dry and seasoning it before frying (user stringy-cheese42 advised “dry brining” your fish before cooking if possible by salting it and letting it rest overnight).

“Dry bringing” dries out the skin and gets rid of albumin, the slimy white substance that gathers on cooked salmon, The New York Times writes.

Wait patiently for the salmon to properly sear on its skin side, which you should press into the base of the hot pan as you cook; a quick kiss of heat on the non-skin side should be enough to finish off your fish.

Some chefs, like u/toucandork, recommend cooking your salmon fillet entirely skin-side down.

If all else fails, cheat

Redditor u/fckedup said that “you can semi-cheat by coating the skin with a thin layer of cornstarch. You’ll get a slightly different type of crispy skin, but it’s delicious and retains sauces better.”

Gordon Ramsay also scores his salmon, which allows it to cook “quicker, but more importantly, helps get that skin nice and crispy” ― a delicious shortcut.

Still, he warns that slicing too deep risks overcooking the salmon.

The more you know…

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Crimpit Review: This £15 Toastie Maker Made WFH Lunches Fun Again

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I rejoice in recipes, crave cooking, and find pleasure in planning meals ― with the exception of lunch.

It’s just such a nothing-y, unpredictable meal, isn’t it? I never know how much time I’ll really have to scoff the meal down; I’m always too mentally overwhelmed to work out what I’m actually craving, never mind a meal I can make quickly, easily, and with minimal mess.

I’m a long-time “fancy sandwich” advocate for work-from-home lunches, but the wrap and sando rotation runs a little flat and I can’t be bothered to whip out and clean a panini press of a Tuesday afternoon.

This gadget promised to expand my selection of mundane ingredients into the bases for “calzones, burritos, enchiladas, kebabs, and pasties” (don’t mind if I do).

And the instructions were simple; make the wrap, place it in your microwave, press the edges until the wrap becomes “sealed”, and then cook the resulting parcel of deliciousness anywhere you like (I opted for an air fryer).

You might have noticed that the wrap was a little big for the device at the start, but ripping off the excess bread (I chose a huge version; most wraps would fit) proved surprisingly satisfying and delicious.

Once I pushed the lid of the gadget down on the just-warmed wrap, I held it there for about ten seconds.

I was suitably impressed by how well the seal held. It was more than a match for my air fryer basket, which led to a crispy, deep-filled calzone-like cheese pocket in minutes (mmm…).

Once I tried the first one, I knew I couldn’t stop – thoughts of pepperoni pockets, chicken tikka mock-“pasties,” and midweek mini-calzones like this one are just too tempting.

And the tiny gadget, which takes up next to no space in my kitchen drawer, can be used as easily on a sweet treat as it can a regular lunch too (I’ll admit I’ve since used it for a decidedly unhealthy chocolate spread and banana concoction, rolled in cinnamon sugar while still hot).

So, I’m not saying you *have* to try the easy-clean, low-effort, low-space-consuming tool – I just reckon that if, like me, you can never plan what to eat for lunch and have too little space or time to use a huge toastie maker, it’s well worth a go.

After all, it hasn’t earned that many five-star reviews for no reason. Plus, it’s down from £19.99 to £14.99 now too (race you to checkout).

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Nectar Duvet Review: Is This The Best All-Year Duvet For Hotel-Level Comfort?

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As I approach the big 3-0, I’ve found myself developing an unexpected obsession with my bedding. Gone are the days of just throwing on whatever’s clean; now, I genuinely care about having my sheets look sleek, elegant, and, dare I say, wrinkle-free.

Enter the Nectar Duvet, which has absolutely transformed my bed into a sanctuary of sophistication.

I’ve been sleeping with this duvet for just over a month now (tough gig, testing duvets), and I can confidently say it’s been a game-changer.

The Nectar Duvet has a way of elevating the entire aesthetic of my bedroom. No more waking up to creased sheets that make me feel like I’m living in university halls. The duvet is so smooth and perfectly puffed, giving my bed an effortlessly neat appearance. I don’t even have to break out the iron anymore (honestly, I was starting to consider it!).

The secret to this duvet is its Smartfil® technology and Modal fabric, which is derived from natural wood pulp. This combination makes it incredibly light, breathable, and soft, making it the perfect choice for the spring season.

Modal helps to wick moisture away from the body, allowing you to sleep in total temperature-controlled comfort and wake up feeling refreshed.

I’ve found it keeps me warm enough during cooler nights while still feeling light and fluffy enough that it doesn’t overheat me. It strikes the perfect balance for year-round comfort.

Aside from the duvet itself, the service and delivery were top-notch. I received the duvet within just two days of placing the order—impressive, considering the speed and efficiency of the delivery.

The whole process was smooth, with timely updates from the delivery service every step of the way. It made the experience all the more pleasant and hassle-free.
In short, I couldn’t recommend the Nectar Duvet more. It’s made my bed look elegant, kept me cozy, and saved me from ever considering ironing my sheets again. I can’t believe I even thought about it. This duvet is worth every penny and truly lives up to its promises.

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I Spent Years Making Millions Smuggling Cocaine For Pablo Escobar And No One Had Any Idea

Back in the 1980s, I was leading a double life. By day, I owned and operated the largest Lamborghini dealership in the United States. But by night, I was secretly flying tons of cocaine for Pablo Escobar and smuggling it into South Florida.

I never set out to be a cocaine smuggler. My dad was a real estate developer in Miami and my mom was a homemaker. I had a great childhood. But becoming the victim of a duplicitous con artist completely changed the trajectory of my life and turned me into a different person. And a few years later, I was making tens of millions of dollars every month in the cocaine business.

At the height of my success, I owned 30 airplanes, dozens of boats, multiple mansions and Lamborghinis. I even had a pet mountain lion named Top Cat.

But it all came crashing down in April of 1988 when I was arrested in an early morning raid by federal agents. As I was crouched on my knees getting handcuffed, and as federal agents surrounded me with guns drawn pointing at my head, I thought to myself, “How the hell did I get here?”

"Me with my mountain lion, Top Cat."

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“Me with my mountain lion, Top Cat.”

I was born in Cuba back in 1952. At that point my father was a senator, a really respectable and noble man. And all I wanted to do, all I ever wanted to do was follow in his footsteps. The brutal dictatorship of Fidel Castro forced my family to flee Cuba and make a new life for ourselves in South Florida. My dad started working in construction, and before long he became a very successful real estate developer.

When I was 17 years old, my dad decided to get into the sugar business. He purchased land in Haiti to build a sugar mill and spent the next few years trying to get that sugar mill up and running.

I was my dad’s shadow. I followed him everywhere. He wore a suit and had a briefcase. I wore a similar suit and carried a similar briefcase. I was with him at every single business meeting, and he taught me everything he knew. He was the best father any son could have asked for.

But tragically, when I was 19 years old, my father got cancer and died quickly over the course of a few months. On his deathbed, he made me promise him that I would get that sugar mill in Haiti off the ground. And I swore to him that I would.

Before he passed away, my dad had secured a $14 million loan for the sugar mill in Haiti. But after his death, the bank refused to honour that loan and refused to acknowledge me as a capable heir. They dismissed me as a “kid” and wished me luck finding the $14 million at another lending institution.

I was grieving the loss of my father, and I was desperate to keep the promise I had made to him. I worked all my contacts and my dad’s contacts and eventually found a banker willing to loan me the money. All he needed was a $100,000 “good faith” deposit.

I was young and desperate, a truly dangerous combination. I didn’t suspect that once I made that deposit, that banker would stop talking to me. And then he would start avoiding me. For months. When I eventually showed up unannounced at his office one day, I was stunned to see other victims there demanding their money back, too. That banker turned out to be a ruthless con artist. I was devastated.

At that point, I was defaulting on loans my father had already taken out for the sugar mill, for the land and for the machinery. And I was severely in debt to the government of Haiti. I needed money and I needed it fast.

It was the mid-1970s and I knew that selling marijuana could make me a lot of cash in a short amount of time. So, I bought a boat and set sail for the Bahamas, where I knew all the pot being sold in South Florida was coming from.

I was fortunate to make a great contact when I got there and sailed back to South Florida with a few hundred pounds of weed stashed away in my boat. I paid $25,000 for all that marijuana and sold it for $100,000. It wasn’t the $14 million I needed to get the sugar mill in Haiti off the ground, but it was definitely a good start.

"My Lamborghini Dealership in Ft Lauderdale back in 1987. It was called 'Royal Motorcars.'"

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“My Lamborghini Dealership in Ft Lauderdale back in 1987. It was called ‘Royal Motorcars.'”

At that point, I started making regular trips to the Bahamas. But then the weed supply there started to dry up. You see, the marijuana that I had access to in the Bahamas was marijuana the government confiscated ― which ultimately ended up on the black market, where I would purchase it. But there were months when they didn’t confiscate much pot ― so there wasn’t much I could buy.

So I decided to go where the pot grows: Colombia. But to get to Colombia, I would need to buy an airplane and learn how to fly it. So that’s exactly what I did. I opened the classifieds section of the newspaper (remember those?) and found a little twin-engine Beechcraft for sale for $50,000. It was a real bucket of bolts, but I bought it and repaired it and quickly learned how to fly.

My first trip to Colombia in 1979 was a huge success. I brought back a ton of marijuana and sold it and made a few hundred thousand dollars. At that point I was able to get credit for more marijuana. So, I flew back and got another $800,000 worth of pot. On credit. That turned out to be a huge mistake because I ended up losing that marijuana.

I was flying at night and I thought I dropped the marijuana out of my plane onto my boat that was waiting below off the coast of Florida, but it turned out to be someone else’s boat. And they made off with my marijuana.

I owed those Colombian suppliers $800,000 for that weed. Two weeks later, they sent thugs to kidnap me. And those thugs put a gun to my head and told me that if they didn’t get their $800,000 — in 48 hours ― they would kill me. And then kill my entire family.

Up until that point, I had avoided anything to do with cocaine. Because in my mind, the cocaine guys were the “bad guys.” The cocaine guys were the killers. I was just smuggling marijuana to make enough money to get my dad’s sugar mill off the ground.

But my life was on the line now, and so were the lives of my family. And flying cocaine was 100 times more profitable than flying marijuana.

So I flew to Colombia, picked up a load of cocaine, and flew it back. And I made $1 million from doing that one trip alone. I paid the Colombians back their $800,000 and saved my life. But the realisation that I could make $1 million a trip flying cocaine changed everything for me. Suddenly my marijuana smuggling days were in the rearview mirror.

As a full-time cocaine smuggler, I was making $1 million a week. I quickly developed a stellar reputation in the world of cocaine pilots. Primarily because most cocaine pilots during that time partook in the cocaine they were smuggling, and they were always high.

I, on the other hand, had never done drugs in my life. Not marijuana. Not cocaine. Not any drug. That really seemed to separate me from the other pilots of the day who were constantly late and constantly crashing their airplanes, losing loads of cocaine. I was never late. And I never lost a plane load of cocaine. Ever.

In 1983, Pablo Escobar sent one of his underlings to summon me. He had heard of me and heard about my reputation for never losing a load and he wanted to hire me to smuggle cocaine for him. After a tense back-and-forth negotiation in his secret lair deep in the Colombian jungle, I agreed to fly 1,000 kilos of coke for Pablo Escobar. And he agreed to pay me $5 million to do it.

After I started making weekly $5 million trips for Pablo Escobar, he stopped paying me in cash ― and started paying me in cocaine. The cocaine that Pablo Escobar paid me with, I sold in South Florida and all over the country, becoming a cocaine kingpin in my own right.

Sadly, by the time I had enough money to resurrect my father’s sugar mill, it was no longer salvageable. The government of Haiti had taken it over years earlier and run it into the ground. This was during the rule of Haitian dictator Jean-Claude Duvalier, and the nation was in steep decline. As I walked through the rubble where my father’s sugar mill once stood, I realised it would never, ever be.

So I flew back to Miami and parlayed all the money I was making into a Lamborghini dealership, and I bought a cell phone company ― in the mid 1980s, when cellphones cost $5,000 each. I also started building and selling homes in the Miami-Ft. Lauderdale area and became a real estate developer.

In the end — adjusted for inflation — I was grossing nearly $100 million a month at the height of my cocaine career — smuggling and selling tons and tons of cocaine every week. Keep in mind, back in the 1980s, cocaine was selling for as much as $600 per gram. And there are more than 900,000 grams in a ton (plane load) so I was swimming in money.

"Me in my early 30s."

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“Me in my early 30s.”

But then one of my underlings got addicted to the coke we were smuggling and got very sloppy. And then he got busted. And he served me up to the Feds on a silver platter in order to get a lighter prison sentence for himself.

I was arrested in April of 1988. And in early 1991, I pled guilty to multiple felonies including the distribution of marijuana, the distribution of cocaine and money laundering. I ended up serving a total of 13 years in federal prison.

Going to prison was devastating for me. Not just because of the loss of my freedom. But because my family and friends discovered my secret. And I was so ashamed and embarrassed.

After I was arrested, my mom came to see me. With a heartbreaking look of pain and disbelief on her face, she said, “Son, tell me what they’re saying about you isn’t true.” I still tear up thinking about that moment.

Before that, my double life was fuelled by compartmentalisation. There was “the good me” that my family knew, who was running successful legitimate businesses and making a lot of money, and who they were extremely proud of.

Then there was the “cocaine kingpin me” who was smuggling and selling tons and tons of cocaine for Pablo Escobar. I meticulously hid that side of me from them, because I knew they would be so ashamed of that version of me they never would have accepted it.

As the years passed, I painstakingly kept both worlds, both versions of myself, separate. And as long as these two versions of me never collided, I was able to feel good or at least, OK, about each one of them. But after my arrest, only one version of me remained – the cocaine smuggler. And my family was heartbroken over it for a long time.

My family has since forgiven me for the past. But I still can’t forgive myself. It haunts me every single day.

"Me today at 73."

Photo Courtesy Of TJ Dominguez

“Me today at 73.”

I’ve served my time, and I’ve learned a lot about life being behind bars for 13 years. If I could do it all over again, I would try to pursue a different path in life. As a 19-year-old kid, I made some really bad decisions that snowballed into a series of other really bad decisions that I regret.

I’m 73 years old now. I still love Lamborghinis. But my life has taken me in a whole new direction. I’ve been speaking at high schools and colleges. And for the past few months I’ve been working on producing a podcast about my life called “Cocaine Air.” Because I want to share my story with the world, especially with young people, about how one bad decision can lead to 1,000 more and send you in unimaginable directions.

But I truly believe there’s no mess that can’t be cleaned up. And that’s how I plan to spend the rest of my time on this Earth. Trying to do good, trying to have a positive impact on the world and using my story to teach young people how not to make the same mistakes that I did.

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‘Dry Begging’ Is A Form Of Emotional Manipulation That Is All Too Common

Have you ever frustratingly mumbled to your partner that it “must be nice to have a partner who walks the dog” in hopes of them walking the dog more often? Or have you ever sighed that you’ll “just do the errands alone” even though you don’t want to? Turns out, you may be dry begging, a tool that people use in relationships of all sorts to get their needs met.

“Dry begging is when someone indirectly asks for something. There’s a need there, but they’re not stating it clearly,” said Aerial Cetnar, a therapist and owner of Boulder Therapy and Wellness in Colorado.

Instead of making a straightforward request or voicing a direct want, someone who is dry begging hints at a need or makes a vague complaint, Cetnar added.

So, instead of stating, “I wish we spent more time together,” someone who is dry begging may say, “Oh, I guess I’ll just stay home with the cat” — they’re hinting at their displeasure instead of addressing it.

“I’ll say it can come from a place of insecurity, fear or manipulation,” said Tori-Lyn Mills, a licensed clinical professional counsellor with Thriveworks in Columbia, MD. But it can also be something that folks grew up with and learned as a way to get their needs met, Mills added.

It’s also not an official psychological term that you’ll find in mental health literature, said Cetnar — “regardless, it’s very much a thing.”

While it can feel easier than directly asking for what you want, dry begging really isn’t meant for the long haul. Here’s why.

Dry begging weaponises emotion.

According to Mills, dry begging can weaponise emotion and empathy while also shifting responsibility in a situation. It can “even weaponise a person’s role as a partner, specifically in romantic relationships,” she said.

For example, in a romantic relationship, if one partner wants to have sex and the other doesn’t, instead of flat-out saying how they feel, someone who is dry begging may say something like “well, most people would be happy that their partner wants to have sex with them all the time [and] is attracted to them all the time,” Mills said.

This can put the other partner in a position where they feel guilty about not wanting to have sex in the moment. It can even put responsibility on them and make them think, “Oh, I should be happy about this,” Mills noted.

“It’s kind of like — I should be giving into this. That’s how dry begging can work,” she said.

If this sounds manipulative, it’s because it often is.

If it becomes a pattern, that’s a red flag for manipulation, Cetnar said. More, if the partner ends up doing things they don’t want to do without ever being clearly asked, it’s another red flag, she said.

“It’s not always manipulative — it certainly can be — but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. First, look at what’s the intention and is it a pattern,” Cetnar said. Once again, if it’s a pattern, that is not OK.

If it’s just an occasional happening, it probably isn’t a big deal, she said.

In some cases (but not all), it can be a narcissistic tendency.

Dry begging is often linked to narcissism, and while both experts said it certainly can be a tool narcissists use to get their needs met, not everyone who occasionally dry begs is a narcissist.

“With narcissism, there is a high level of entitlement. You may get a hint or a prompt, but you could get a lot more covert demands,” said Mills.

In the case of a narcissist and dry begging, they may explicitly try to elicit guilt in their partner when they dry beg or weaponise empathy to get their partner to do what they want, Mills explained.

“Narcissists are typically seen as manipulative. And so there can be an overlap,” Cetnar added. Narcissists are often needy, too, she said, and dry begging is definitively needy behaviour.

“I’m just going to continue to passively say something or ask for something in the hopes that people will just give me what I want,” Cetnar added.

You're setting yourself up for resentment if you don't directly ask for what you want.

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You’re setting yourself up for resentment if you don’t directly ask for what you want.

It can lead to resentment.

Someone who engages in dry begging by saying things like, “Oh, it must be nice to have a husband who cooks” or “I guess I’ll just hang up these pictures alone” instead of directly asking for what they want may grow resentful of their partner when they don’t get the hints.

“Because they thinking that they’re asking for something, but they’re not,” said Cetnar.

“They’re not being very clear about it,” she added. Your partner may not understand that you’re asking for help with something or may even choose to ignore your passive statements.

People likely do this because they don’t know how to ask for what they want.

It can be uncomfortable to flat-out tell someone you want them to prioritize time together or need them to help around the house more, which can make dry begging a more comfortable way of dealing with the ask.

People who tend to dry beg may be doing it out of a place of insecurity, said Mills. They may not want to get their feelings hurt if they hear a “no” to their request or may even worry that they’re asking for too much.

For some people, this is, once again, a learned behaviour.

“It’s common that people are not really taught how to ask for things in a way that’s really clear and direct,” said Cetnar. “Sometimes they resort to dry begging because it feels like it’s a hint and they’d rather it be a hint that gets rejected than a clear ask to be rejected,” she noted.

In the end, dry begging comes from a place of needs needing to be met, Cetnar said, and is likely common in those who have trouble expressing their needs and vulnerabilities.

“This could be coming from a certain person who grew up in an environment in which maybe it was a bit uncomfortable to ask for things,” she noted.

Here’s how to deal with dry begging:

The first step to dealing with dry begging, whether it’s you doing it or your partner, is awareness. You can’t fix a behaviour if you don’t know it exists.

If you dry beg your partner, ask yourself how you can start implementing direct communication, said Mills, and consider what needs of yours aren’t being met before you make a passive comment.

If you feel lonely, consider how to ask your partner to spend more time with you instead of hinting at it, Mills noted.

You can even tell your partner you’re working on this so they know to expect more direct communication and direct asks from you, Mills said.

“That way, they can practice and they can have feedback and feel supported in trying to make a positive change,” she said.

If you are in a relationship with someone who is dry begging, start to notice it and acknowledge when someone is making a request by saying something like “Is this a request? It sounds like you are asking for something here,” Cetnar said.

This can open up the conversation and encourage your partner to explicitly state their needs so there is no guesswork or resentment.

If your partner isn’t willing to change and continues to manipulate you, it’s worth considering if the relationship is worth it. But, for someone who does this as a learned behaviour or because of difficulty expressing emotions, there is hope for change.

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UK Gardeners Urged To Put Garlic In Plant Water ‘Til October

Though slugs are rarely welcome in a gardener’s backyard, the Royal Horticultural Society have not classified them as “pests” for years now.

That’s partly because less than a quarter of the species in the UK actually eat your plants, while all of the maligned molluscs provide a food source for the UK’s shrinking bird population.

For these reasons, British gardeners have been discouraged from using pellets to deter the critters.

Other methods, like placing a halved orange or melon skin in your garden or conducting torchlit searches at night, can remove them from vulnerable saplings without killing all of them off indiscriminately.

And, as BBC Gardeners’ World writes, a bulb of garlic can help too.

Garlic water can repel slugs

According to the publication, “A home-made garlic spray can be effective in deterring slugs and snails from your plants” if applied regularly.

Allicin, a compound in garlic, both helps to repel and, sometimes, kill slugs and snails, botanist James Wong wrote for The Guardian.

For that reason, he says, you should only apply it to the most vulnerable plants (young seedlings and tender-stemmed plants count).

To make the garlic water concentrate, Gardeners’ World writes, boil one bulb of garlic per litre of water (they did two bulbs and two litres) until they’re soft.

James Wong, meanwhile, recommends blending a bulb of garlic with 1L of water, letting the liquid sit for ten minutes before straining “for the chemical reaction that creates allicin to complete.”

James uses his blitzed, rather than cooked, garlic water as-is, but Gardeners’ World dilutes two tablespoons of their boiled concentrate per 5L of water.

Whichever method you choose, you can spray it on affected plants “just as night begins to fall.”

How much should I apply, and how often?

For targeted slug and snail management, you should apply it “liberally.”

Gardeners’ World says you should spray or water with it once a week or after rain.

Specialist growers Sienna Hosta agree: they say we should water our plants with the stuff once weekly from February ’til October, when slugs are more active.

We should reapply it more often after heavy rainfall.

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The Rudest Things You Can Do In A Lift

There are few places more ripe with the opportunity for awkwardness and even downright rude behaviour than lifts. They’re small, often crowded and require you to be mere inches from complete strangers.

When it comes to how to act in a lift, experts told HuffPost that you have to remember that they’re public spaces.

“People tend to forget that lifts are still public shared spaces,” said Tami Claytor, the owner of Always Appropriate Image and Etiquette Consulting.

“It’s not that you’re already in your office and you can close the door, or in your apartment and you can close the door — you’re still in a public space, and people should conduct themselves accordingly.”

“You have to observe and respect that public space just like you would someone’s home or a hotel lobby, and you must be respectful of the property itself [and] assume that there are eyes on you because there might be a camera up in the top corner,” said Diane Gottsman, a national etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Texas.

Most people don’t get into a lift with the goal of being rude, but there are some common behaviours that are off-putting to your fellow lift riders.

Below, etiquette experts share the elevator no-nos that irk them most:

Not holding the door for someone else

There’s no excuse not to hold the door for someone who is coming up behind you to also get on the lift, experts told HuffPost.

While it’s rude to let the door slam in anyone’s face, Claytor added that it’s particularly rude if the person who’s walking behind you is elderly, uses medical equipment such as a walker, or has a stroller.

“There’s a gentleman who lives in my building who never holds the lift for anyone, and when my mother was alive, she used a walker, and he would not just wait a few seconds for her to catch up to him, he would just let the door close in her face,” Claytor noted.

Conversely, it’s also rude to hold the elevator door too long

You also shouldn’t hold a lift door too long and hold up other people’s day.

“Let’s say you’re traveling with a friend or a partner … and they are running just a little bit behind, but you’ve got to go, and you’re in a hurry, so you want to hold that lift door for them, even though they’re not even there yet,” said Gottsman.

“So, you’re kind of waiting, waiting, waiting, because it’s rush hour, it’s time to get out … so, you’re holding it because your friend is not quite ready with a suitcase,” Gottsman noted. “You have to let it go. You can’t hold up that elevator car while waiting for someone who’s not there.”

You can go downstairs without them, or get off tand wait for them, but you can’t just hold the door for someone who isn’t ready.

More, you shouldn’t hold a lift door open to finish a conversation with someone who isn’t actually getting on, Claytor said. Maybe you’re leaving the office and getting in a few last-minute words with your colleague before going home.

“Have you ever been in a situation where someone’s holding the lift, they’re inside or outside the lift, and they’re holding a conversation with someone? And so now you’re stuck, you’re trapped on this lift, and people are holding a conversation,” Claytor said.

You should either get off the lift and continue the conversation, or get on and end it, she added.

Not facing forward

You shouldn’t face backwards in a lift, said Gottsman. Once you’re in an lift you should face forward — so, face the door, once you’re inside.

“Even though it’s a public space, we still feel as if we need to have some privacy in that space,” Gottsman said. “You don’t want someone staring at you.”

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Pushing into a crowded lift

“We’ve all experienced it, every single one of us … the door opens, you’re in the lift being crushed already, and then there are three people standing there, or one person, and they’ll say, ‘Oh, is there a room for me?’” Gottsman said. “You clearly know there’s no room for you. We are sardines in this little can.”

Nonetheless, they squeeze into the lift “and no one wants to say anything because everyone wants to be polite, but it is so crowded that you can’t breathe,” said Gottsman.

“And just think of potentially, what could happen if that lift gets stuck, and then what are you going to do?” she said.

Overcrowding a lift is a big faux pas, and you should read the room before stepping in, Gottsman said. If there’s no room to fit comfortably, wait 20 seconds for the next elevator.

Not covering your mouth when you cough and sneeze

While it’s never OK to just cough or sneeze out in the open, it’s especially rude in a space that isn’t even six feet across.

If you’re on a lift and you cough or sneeze, it’s important that you cover your mouth — otherwise it’s really rude to the other passengers, Claytor noted.

No one wants to be sneezed or coughed on by a stranger.

Talking on speakerphone

Lifts aren’t exactly mobile phone friendly — service is often spotty and no one wants to hear you yammer away, anyway.

“I would prefer if people would pause their [phone] conversations until they got to their personal space, but if you absolutely have to continue this conversation, definitely do not use speakerphone,” said Claytor.

“No one else on the lift wants to hear your conversation,” she said.

Plus, you don’t know who may know the person you’re talking to on the phone, Gottsman added.

“A client of mine had a personal experience where they were on the lift and someone on the phone was talking about them on speaker. So, the person in the lift didn’t know them, but they were talking about that person,” explained Gottsman.

Shoving people out of the way to get off the lift

If you’re in the back of a crowded elevator and need to get off, you shouldn’t just push your way forward, Gottsman noted.

Instead, you should speak up and say something like, “Excuse me, this is my floor,” Gottsman said.

“Let them know. Don’t just try and push through,” she said.

People should move to the side to let you off, Gottsman added. “You’ve got to get out so you can let other people out, and then you can get back in and hold that door for yourself and for them,” Gottsman said.

Wearing too much cologne or perfume

A lift is a supremely small space. No one wants to be in a tiny, enclosed space with someone who just dosed themselves in fragrance, and forcing someone to stand directly next to you after you put on lots of cologne or perfume is rude, both experts told HuffPost.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t wear a fragrance, but you should be mindful of how much you put on if you know you have to get into an elevator.

“Just be mindful that scents linger,” Gottsman said.

When it comes to being your best self in a lift (or any public space, for that matter), Claytor has some advice: “At its very fundamental level, etiquette is about thinking of others before you think of yourself.”

So, instead of disregarding those around you by letting the door slam in their face or pushing off a crowded lift, think about how that may make others feel.

“I like to tell people … just slow down for a moment. Don’t always be in such a rush, and just observe the world around you, and that will make you a more conscientious person,” Claytor said.

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This £15 Sunscreen-Primer Is The 1 Beauty Product I Can’t Live Without

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In my twenties, I applied SPF on holidays and if it was a particularly hot day back home. But when my partner, then in his early 30s, was diagnosed with basal cell carcinoma and needed surgery to remove it, I knew I needed to wake up and wear the damn sun cream every single day.

After trying many different products – lots of which triggered breakouts, some of which dried my skin – I finally took a punt on Beauty Pie’s Featherlight SPF 50/Primer hybrid (£25, or £15 for members). And I haven’t looked back since.

The product, made in Switzerland, contains ingredients to “help fight inflammation and sun damage”. It’s known as a non-comedogenic SPF, meaning the lightweight formula shouldn’t clog pores. I can confirm it doesn’t.

I’ve also never had sunburn on my face while wearing it, so I’m guessing (/hoping) it’s doing the trick in the sun damage department.

I tend to apply the SPF after Beauty Pie’s triple hyaluronic acid deep moisture miracle cream (£45, or £22 for members) and the result is lusciously luminous skin that feels silky smooth.

The primer adds a bit of a glow that no other skincare product seems to offer me and my typically dull skin. It’s not greasy, or streaky. Makeup goes on a treat, too.

There is not a day that goes by when I don’t use it – even those days when I’m sat at home, makeup free, I make sure that I slather this on my face after showering.

It’s pretty watery – so be careful when you squeeze the bottle – but it glides onto the skin wonderfully, leaving your face feeling hydrated and glowy.

There are 3,102 reviews (and counting) on Beauty Pie’s site. Here’s a snippet of what people are saying about the Featherlight SPF:

“Lovely product, non greasy and perfect under make up. Thoroughly recommend this product.”

“This was first given to me as a gift a few years ago and I have used it ever since. I golf and have had no sun damage since using this lovely, light cream.”

“This is my second purchase of this item. I love that it properly hydrates my skin and most importantly, it doesn’t leave white streaky marks!”

“Spent ages looking for a SPF that I’m not allergic to and isn’t greasy, this one is perfect.”

If there was only one product I was allowed to take on a desert island, this would be it – not even the Collection eyeliner I’ve been buying and wearing on repeat since the early 2000s could rival it.

And at £15 for a bottle that lasts roughly six months (maybe longer, depending on how liberally you apply it), I’m wondering why you’re still reading this article and not buying a basket full for yourself…

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‘Pink Noise’ May Hold The Secret To Deeper Sleep

Though I’ve had insomnia for years, I’ve managed to find some tools to help me stay asleep at night.

Clock-blocking”, getting out of bed when I can’t get back to sleep, and even enjoying a morning stroll have all helped me recover from my 3am wake-ups.

So, too, does my Bluetooth eye mask, which allows me to play “white noise” as I slumber.

But speaking to HuffPost UK, sleep expert Dr Deborah Lee from Doctor Fox (who’s paired with Bed Factory Direct) said it shouldn’t be the only sound in my arsenal.

“Certain types of background noise, also known as coloured noise, can actually improve sleep quality, reduce overnight disturbances and also help you fall asleep quicker,” she told us.

One of those is “pink noise”, which the doctor revealed is best for deep sleep and even memories.

What is pink noise?

I’ll admit I’d never heard of the noise until Dr Lee told me about it.

But it turns out it’s a pretty technical term: pink noise, also known as 1/f noise, fractional noise, or fractal noise, contains all audible frequencies.

Though white noise offers the same range, pink noise decreases the intensity of sound at a rate of three decibels per octave.

Basically, that means “pink noise is a slightly deeper version of white noise,” Dr Lee said.

“An example of pink noise would be rustling leaves or ocean waves – some sounds that people find extremely relaxing.”

The doctor added: “Pink noise has been shown to enhance deep sleep, but also improve memory.”

A 2020 paper found that participants who listened to an increasingly quiet pink noise machine while falling asleep not only nodded off faster, but slept deeper.

Research from 2022 also suggested that older adults who fell asleep saw an increase in slow wave sleep, linked to memory consolidation.

What are some types of pink noise I can listen to at night?

You can find pink noise playlists or even buy a pink noise machine (though they’re harder to find than white noise options).

“Everyone’s brain responds differently to sounds,” Dr Lee said. “However, what is clear is that the right kind of noise, when used consistently, can make a huge difference in not just getting to sleep, but staying asleep too.

“It’s worth playing around with different sounds to find the right sound for you, as not everyone will have the same response.”

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‘I’m Glad My Parents Aren’t Invited To My Sister’s Wedding. Was I Wrong To Tell Them That?’

Wedding planning is incredibly stressful. There’s the expense, the (surprisingly political) guest list, the weather – to name just three stressors.

And that’s without the added complication of a difficult family dynamic.

Sometimes, as Redditor u/ThrowRAsisterswed shows, the tensions can build so high that the couple don’t even want to invite their own parents to the big day.

Writing to r/AITAH (Am I The Asshole Here), the site user asked: “AITAH for telling my parents they were deserve to be kicked out of my sisters wedding?”

So, we asked relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, about how to decide whether you should cut your relatives out of the celebration.

The bride-to-be’s brother is the “golden child”

The original poster (OP), who is the bride’s sister, says their parents have always given their son more leeway than the rest of their children.

“He has been babied to the point of uselessness by our mum and dad, and that’s made him an entitled slob,” she wrote, adding: “he could do wrong in my parents’ eyes.”

The brother has always performed “pranks” on his sister, “Kelly,” who is soon to be married. These included pulling her dress up at a family wedding.

As an adult, Kelly has distanced herself from her family. But at her recent engagement party, her sister said she brought the family back together again.

At this event, the brother tried to “prank” Kelly again by pouring water all over her. He was stopped by Kelly’s fiancé, who was so annoyed by the brother’s behaviour that he banned him from their wedding.

When their parents tried to justify their adult son’s actions, Kelly and her fiancé decided to ban them from the wedding, too.

Her sister told their parents she was right to do so, asking: “AITAH for telling my parents that they sucked a parents and deserved to be kicked out of my sisters wedding?”

Ask yourself 3 questions to see where your boundaries should lie

Roos tells us that though you might feel guilty about enforcing them, boundaries are “not a punishment towards others, but a protection for your own well-being.”

Those can sometimes include cutting your parents out of your wedding.

Still, she admits it’s a “loaded” topic, and has suggested some questions to ask yourself when considering which course of action to take.

Have your parents consistently ignored or diminished your boundaries, for instance?

If so, Roos says, “that’s a sign that setting a big boundary such as not inviting them to your wedding might be necessary to fully relax, be yourself and have a great time at your own wedding.”

Secondly, how do you feel when you spend time with your parents? Feeling tense or stressed about their presence is a red flag, she warns.

Lastly, “ask yourself what your wedding day would feel like without them – would it be easier to have a great day due to not needing to worry about criticism, drama, sneaky comments, or guilt?

If you are feeling relieved of the thought of them not coming… then that’s a strong indicator” you shouldn’t invite them, the therapist ends.

Sounds like in this case, the Redditor is in the right.

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