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Frost, a former Tory cabinet minister, initially tried to blame the UK’s poor economic performance on Keir Starmer.
But BBC presenter Jo Coburn quickly suggested the problems could all be traced back to our EU departure – and the Lib Dems’ Munira Wilson said excessive regulation was introduced by Brexit.
Politics Live host Coburn said: “Arguably Brexit was the issue that led to far more civil servants being needed, more bureaucracy and far more regulation.”
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“I would question that,” Frost, who led the UK’s Brexit negotiations, instantly replied. “Some things were done in Brussels we now need to do for ourselves, but that is a tiny number.
“The problem the government has gone into this extra regulation.”
He also slammed Labour’s employment law bill will “massively, massively increase the bureaucracy, and costs the employers face”.
Liberal Democrat MP Munira Wilson claimed this was overlooking the real impact of Brexit.
Asked if she agreed with Frost, Wilson said: “Absolutely not. We know that Brexit has massively hurt our economy, and actually everybody wants growth.
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“The best way we can kickstart growth is by negotiating a far better deal with our European friends and neighbours at a time of great economic insecurity.”
She said this would help “cut the red tape that David is so desperate to cut” – and pointed to businesses in her own constituency who are spending huge sums to overcome Brexit bureaucracy.
Frost replied: “Anybody can come up with anecdotes about extra paperwork. The important thing is to look at the macro-picture, what’s happening to the economy.”
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“It is not just anecdotes!” Wilson cut in. “We know that our exports to the EU are down £27bn, we know that four out of 10 British goods that were on European shelves before Brexit are not there anymore.
“How is that anecdote? That is cold hard fact that your hard Brexit is damaging our economy.”
She claimed if the government are “serious about growth” they would look at renegotiating an EU deal which cuts the “red tape and starts to get money into our economy so we can invest in our public services that your Conservative government let on its knees.”
An overused term on social media, but @munirawilson SCHOOLS Lord Frost on #Brexit here – and it is glorious!
DF: \"Anyone can come up with anecdotes.\"
MW: \"These are not anecdotes, but cold hard facts. Your Brexit is damaging our economy that your gov’t left on its knees.\" ~AA pic.twitter.com/VDT0rwd1nN
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An overused term on social media, but @munirawilson SCHOOLS Lord Frost on #Brexit here – and it is glorious!
DF: “Anyone can come up with anecdotes.”
MW: “These are not anecdotes, but cold hard facts. Your Brexit is damaging our economy that your gov’t left on its knees.” ~AA pic.twitter.com/VDT0rwd1nN
The episode picks up the following morning, with both Patrick Schwarzenegger and Sam Nivola’s characters having flashbacks to what went on between them as the day unfolds.
Speaking to Screen Rant, Patrick said that this marks a turning point and a moment when everything “definitely switches” for his character, Saxon.
Patrick Schwarzenegger as seen in the latest episode of The White Lotus
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Asked how he reacted when he first read the script, he admitted: “It was a page-turner. I was waiting to see what was going to happen – and then when I read that, my mouth was kind of on the floor.
“I knew a little bit [about what to expect between the brothers], because during some of the audition scenes, it had some references to some stuff.”
He then recalled: “I remember reading it for the first time with my fiancée. We read it out loud and then I looked and was like, ‘did that say what I thought it said?’. But yeah, it’s a hilarious, absurd, insane scene.”
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Patrick went on to describe the moment as a “total power shift for him and his character”.
“He’s on the other side of what he would be doing to someone else before,” he claimed. “And, it’s something that totally changes him. He’s totally flustered, it’s this kind of internal conflict.”
In a separate video feature for HBO, Patrick said that at the beginning of the episode, “what I’m feeling that morning is total confusion, disgust of myself and just like curiosity of what that means for everything that I stand for. It definitely changes the dynamic.”
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He continued: “Saxon is always the dominant one, but there’s definitely a sense of [him] being more insecure – and Chelsea and Chloe [Aimee Lou Wood and Charlotte Le Bon’s characters], they start to bully him.”
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Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy is speaking about his historic Oval Office clash with US President Donald Trump, defending his decision to speak up for his country at a critical juncture in its war against Russia.
The two leaders sparred inside the White House in front of the whole world last month with Trump accusing his Ukrainian counterpart of “gambling with World War III” for arguing that Russian President Vladimir Putin can’t be trusted. The episode led to a temporary pause in US aid and intelligence sharing with the country.
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In an interview with Time released on Monday, Zelenskyy addressed the fact that Ukrainians rallied around him after his tense exchange with Trump rather than blame him for the diplomatic failure three years into the war.
Zelenskyy explained that Ukrainians “are very emotional, and when it comes to our sense of dignity, freedom, democracy, our people rise up and unite,” noting that his country expected the Trump administration to show that the U.S. still sees Kyiv as an ally.
“But in that moment there was the sense of not being allies, or not taking the position of an ally,” he said. “In that conversation, I was defending the dignity of Ukraine.”
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At the infamous White House meeting, the Ukrainian leader said he planned to gift Trump the championship belt of heavyweight world champion Oleksandr Usyk. However, Zelenskyy chose to start out by showing Trump images depicting how badly Russia has treated Ukrainian prisoners of war.
“That’s tough stuff,” Trump said looking at the photos.
In his interview with Time, Zelenskyy defended his choice to give Trump the images, adding that he was hoping to appeal to the president’s humanity.
“What I wanted to show were my values,” Zelenskyy said. “But then, well, the conversation went in another direction.”
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After the meeting went off the rails, Zelenskyy left the White House early and never got the chance to give Trump the belt. However, Time reported that a White House staffer found the gift in the Oval Office and placed it in Trump’s dining room.
Since then, Russia and Ukraine have agreed in principle to a limited ceasefire after Putin rejected a US proposal for an unconditional ceasefire which was approved by Kyiv. A US delegation on Monday met with Russian officials in Saudi Arabia a day after holding a separate meeting with their Ukrainian counterparts to discuss the implementation of that agreement.
Meanwhile, White House envoy Steve Witkoff told Tucker Carlson Putin “has got huge respect” for Trump, suggesting that Zelenskyy made a mistake by crossing Trump when he visited the White House.
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“You saw what happened in the Oval Office with Zelenskyy and the president, right?” Witkoff said in an interview released on Friday. “Disrespecting him is not a healthy way to have a good relationship.”
“Hopefully we’ll chalk it up to a misunderstanding and we’ll get to a peace solution here,” he continued.
Zelenskyy also spoke out against granting Moscow major concessions with no reciprocation, citing Trump’s previous statement that Russia should rejoin the Group of 7 following its annexation of Crimea in 2014.
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“That’s a big compromise,” Zelensky told Time. “Imagine releasing Hitler from his political isolation.”
When the “Bold Glamour” filter on TikTok was created in early 2023, people were shocked by how seamless it looked, and that it wasn’t glitching like other face-altering filters. Despite everyone admiring its technological improvement, it led to an uproar online and offline, with celebrities like Katherine Heigl showing the shocking difference it made.
It’s been widelyreported that filters on social media can create a disconnect between online and real life and lower one’s self-esteem. The issue doesn’t just affect teens — it can negatively affect anyone. The curation of social media leads many people to use filters in order to receive positive feedback, which then reinforces the belief that we should be relying on them, explained Natalie Buchwald, a therapist and founder of Manhattan Mental Health Counseling.
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You can, of course, still use filters and have a healthy self-image, but experts advise considering the reasons you use filters in the first place.
“While occasional use of filters doesn’t inherently indicate low self-esteem, dependence on them can be problematic,” Buchwald said. “Maintaining a healthy self-image involves recognizing one’s intrinsic worth without relying on digital enhancements.”
Long-term exposure to a filtered image of yourself may create issues in your self-image, even leading to seeking cosmetic surgery to achieve that image of yourself. “Often called ‘Snapchat dysmorphia,’ it describes individuals seeking cosmetic surgery to replicate their filtered selfies. This can manifest in body insecurity and dysmorphia,” Buchwald added.
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HuffPost spoke to threeinfluencers who regularly use beauty filters to understand why and how these filters affect their self-esteem.
“I’m super open about beauty standards, filters and treatments on my page. I use beauty filters pretty often! Most of the time, while filming on TikTok I’m using one because of ease, and sometimes TikTok automatically puts them on your face.
“I prefer filters that don’t make me look like a completely different person. I try to remind myself that skin texture, blemishes, redness, undereye bags are all normal. Most things you see online are very unrealistic and you shouldn’t compare yourself to them.
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“Filters did change how I saw myself. Social media is so unrealistic, so when you look at yourself in a mirror and you don’t have a smooth foundation filter on, it will look different. A few years back when the filters were heavier, I would wear a lot more makeup in real life to really smooth out my skin or contour my face, and I also ended up getting lip filler and Botox done because I was comparing myself to a filter that made my lips bigger or my skin smooth. Seeing myself with plumper lips or no wrinkles has influenced the treatments I’ve done. I still get minimal lip filler to this day. I’ve always been super transparent about getting procedures done online, even back then. Now I’m pretty confident in myself with or without makeup.
“Looking at the ‘perfect’ version of yourself can make you a bit critical of your natural features. Generally, being a content creator can make you critical about yourself and your appearance; with or without filters, I’m staring at my face all day long editing videos. This often will make you notice things most people probably don’t see.
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“If social media removed beauty filters, it wouldn’t affect my content at all! I’m super open on my page, with and without filters, and always will be. I think I might put a little bit of makeup on before I film some of my content to make myself more presentable than I do now, but I would be totally fine with that. I think it would make social media a healthier space for everyone, including myself.”
“I use beauty filters occasionally when filming my TikTok videos, usually ones that enhance smoothness subtly without drastically changing my features. Without a filter, I feel just as confident. For me, it’s less about changing how I look and more about maintaining a particular style, visually.
“I wouldn’t say I’m addicted to using filters. They don’t necessarily make me criticize myself, but more aware of how different enhancements can affect one’s perception. I don’t rely on them to define my self-image.
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“Filters can certainly influence beauty standards and make people more self-critical. I think that’s all a byproduct of being on social media. Unless people are openly mentioning they are using filters, it’s hard to tell. As consumers, we may assume these creators are like this in real life, too.
“Personally, using filters hasn’t influenced me to get cosmetic treatments, but I can see how constant exposure to ‘perfect’ images can create unrealistic expectations, which is why I make it known to my audience when I use beauty filters, rather than hide the fact that I am using them. I do have lip filler, and in hindsight, I may have been influenced by the ‘perfect’ images we see on social media.”
“I use filters that smooth out the skin very often. I initially started using them out of curiosity, and now it has become a habit — I do it automatically. Honestly, I have no issue with how I look without filters. The only reason I use light filters is because I used to have acne, and it used to bother me.
“I have created content without a filter many times, and I have no problem with that, nor does it make me uncomfortable.
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“I wouldn’t say filters make me critical of my natural features, just that I liked how my skin looked without blemishes and acne marks when I had acne. Many women have been influenced by filters, trying to achieve this smooth image in real life. I know from some doctor friends that people ask to look like their filtered selves [via medical intervention]. However, that has never happened to me.”
What’s the best way to navigate filters?
Of course, users aren’t necessarily to blame; the platforms have to take responsibility, noted Buchwald. “Similar to how certain posts are highlighted as #Advertisement, the social media platforms need to demand users who edit their photos to add a similar #filtered tag to avoid skewing the public perception of what is normal.”
There may be some changes soon on that front, as TikTok is said to be banning face-altering filters like “Bold Glamour” for teen use, as these can have dramatic effects on the self-esteem of impressionable young people.
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“Young people and parents saw the benefit in being authentic online and recognised the positive impact of belonging and connecting online,” wrote Christine Grahn, head of public policy and government relations for TikTok in Europe, in a recent newsroom statement.
Comparing yourself to online filtered images can trigger social comparison, explained Buchwald. “This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and diminished self-worth, as one’s unfiltered reality may not match the enhanced images presented online. It’s a competition where no one can win as there’s always ‘something else you can improve,’ which can be a very toxic mentality to have about your self-image.”
There are ways to combat negative self-image created by one’s online presence. Buchwald recommends a few different ways; seeking professional advice like therapy to foster self-acceptance, mindfulness practices and spending time in nature as a way to ground yourself and distance yourself from the bubble of the online world. Finally, avoid consuming content that makes you feel bad about yourself or even limit your social media usage until these feelings don’t consume you.
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Interviews have been condensed and edited for clarity and length.
Help and support:
Mind, open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 3393.
Samaritans offers a listening service which is open 24 hours a day, on 116 123 (UK and ROI – this number is FREE to call and will not appear on your phone bill).
CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) offer a helpline open 5pm-midnight, 365 days a year, on 0800 58 58 58, and a webchat service.
The Mix is a free support service for people under 25. Call 0808 808 4994 or email help@themix.org.uk
Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0808 801 0525 (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm). More info can be found on rethink.org.
The US president accused his Ukrainian counterpart of being ungrateful for America’s support for Kyiv since Russia invaded, criticised Zelenskyy for wearing military fatigues in the Oval Office and told him he had “no cards” with which to negotiate a deal with Moscow.
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The White House then cancelled a scheduled joint press conference and appeared to kick Zelenskyy out of the building without signing the expected shared mineral agreement.
Trump went on to pull US military aid and intelligence sharing with Ukraine.
It was not until, with the UK’s encouragement, Zelenskyy publicly said he backed Trump’s efforts to secure a quick peace in Ukraine and said he was open to a 30-day ceasefire that the US reinstated aid and intel sharing.
Speaking to the New York Times, the prime minister has now revealed that there were plenty of tensions behind the scenes for No.10 around this time.
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He said: “On the day in which the Oval Office meeting between President Trump and President Zelenskyy didn’t go particularly well, we were under pressure to come out very critically with, you know, flowery adjectives to describe how others felt.
“I took the view that it was better to pick up the phone and talk to both sides to try and get them back on the same page.”
The prime minister also recognised Trump has caused “quite a degree of disorientation” just two months into his second administration where he’s announced a string a dramatic orders – including imposing 25% tariffs on British steel.
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Starmer then told the NYT that he still believes the best position for the UK right now is to remain as a bridge between the US and Europe, despite growing concerns about the White House’s relationship with Moscow.
He said: “Many people are urging us to choose between the US and Europe. Churchill didn’t do it. Attlee didn’t do it. It’d be a big mistake, in my view, to choose now.”
The PM defended Trump’s call for an increase in defence spending among European allies too, saying the US president “has a point”.
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The PM also noted that he has a good relationship with Trump, adding: “I like and respect him. I understand what he’s trying to achieve.”
Starmer said: “I don’t trust Putin. I’m sure Putin would try to insist that Ukraine should be defenceless after a deal because that gives him what he wants, which is the opportunity to go in again.”
DEIR AL-BALAH, Gaza Strip (AP) — More than 50,000 Palestinians have now been killed in the war between Israel and Hamas in Gaza, the territory’s Health Ministry said on Sunday.
Israel’s military also sent ground troops into part of the southern city of Rafah as thousands of Palestinians fled after new evacuation orders.
Israel ended the latest ceasefire last week with a surprise wave of strikes that killed hundreds, and it has launched ground incursions in northern Gaza. It says it is targeting militants.
Israel’s Cabinet late Saturday approved a proposal to set up a new directorate for advancing the “voluntary departure” of Palestinians in line with US President Donald Trump’s proposal to depopulate Gaza and rebuild it for others.
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Palestinians say they do not want to leave their homeland, and rights groups say the plan could amount to expulsion in violation of international law.
‘Displacement under fire’
The military ordered people to leave Rafah’s already heavily destroyed Tel al-Sultan neighborhood on foot along a single route to Muwasi, a sprawling area of squalid tent camps. The war has forced most of Gaza’s population of over two million to flee within the territory, often multiple times.
“It’s displacement under fire,” said Mustafa Gaber, a journalist who left with his family. He said tank and drone fire echoed nearby. “There are wounded people among us. The situation is very difficult,” he said.
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“The shells are falling among us and the bullets are (flying) above us,” said Amal Nassar, also displaced from Rafah. “The elderly have been thrown into the streets. An old woman was telling her son, ‘Go and leave me to die.’ Where will we go?”
The Palestinian Red Crescent emergency service said it lost contact with a team of medics responding to the strikes. Spokeswoman Nebal Farsakh said some were wounded.
There was no immediate comment from Israel’s military, which says it only targets militants. Israel blames civilian deaths on Hamas because it operates in densely populated areas.
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Strikes kill Hamas leader, women and children
Hamas said Salah Bardawil, a well-known member of its political bureau, was killed in a strike in Muwasi that also killed his wife.
Hospitals in southern Gaza said they received a further 24 bodies from strikes overnight, including several women and children.
Gaza’s Health Ministry said 50,021 Palestinians have been killed in the war and more than 113,000 have been wounded. That includes 673 people killed since Israel’s bombardment on Tuesday shattered the ceasefire.
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Dr. Munir al-Boursh, the ministry’s general director, said the dead include 15,613 children, with 872 of them under 1 year old.
The ministry does not distinguish between civilians and combatants in its count but says women and children make up over half the dead. Israel says it has killed around 20,000 fighters, without providing evidence.
Ceasefire in tatters
The ceasefire that took hold in January paused more than a year of fighting ignited by Hamas’ October 7, 2023 attack into Israel, in which militants killed some 1,200 people, mostly civilians, and took 251 hostage. Most captives have been released in ceasefire agreements or other deals.
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In the latest ceasefire’s first phase, 25 Israeli hostages and the bodies of eight others were released in exchange for nearly 2,000 Palestinian prisoners. Israeli forces pulled back, allowing hundreds of thousands of people to return to what remains of their homes. There was a surge in humanitarian aid until Israel cut off all supplies to Gaza earlier this month to pressure Hamas to change the ceasefire agreement.
The sides were supposed to begin negotiations in early February on the ceasefire’s next phase, in which Hamas was to release the remaining 59 hostages — 35 of them believed to be dead — in exchange for more Palestinian prisoners, a lasting ceasefire and an Israeli withdrawal.
Those talks never began. Israel backed out of the ceasefire agreement after Hamas refused Israeli and US-backed proposals to release more hostages ahead of any talks on a lasting truce.
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Hundreds of Israelis gathered outside Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s office in Jerusalem on Sunday to protest his handling of the war and his attempt to dismiss the head of the Shin Bet internal security service.
“I’m worried for the future of this country. And I think it has to stop. We have to change direction,” said one protester, Avital Halperin.
New settlements in the West Bank
Israel’s cabinet passed a measure Sunday creating 13 new settlements in the occupied West Bank by rezoning existing ones, according to Bezalel Smotrich, Israel’s far-right finance minister, who is in charge of settlement construction.
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This brings the number of settlements, considered illegal by the majority of the international community, to 140, said anti-settlement watchdog group Peace Now. They will now receive independent budgets from Israel and can elect their own local governments, the group said.
Iran-backed Houthis in Yemen keep up attacks
In a separate development, Iran-backed Houthi rebels in Yemen, who are allied with Hamas, launched another missile at Israel overnight. The Israeli military said it was intercepted, and there were no reports of casualties or damage.
The Houthis resumed attacks on Israel after it ended the Gaza ceasefire, portraying them as an act of solidarity with the Palestinians. Trump ordered the renewal of US strikes on the rebels last week over its previous attacks on international shipping in the Red Sea.
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The rebels have said they are trying to blockade Israel, but most of the ships they have targeted have no connection to the conflict.
Magdy reported from Cairo. Associated Press writers Natalie Melzer in Nahariya, Israel, and Julia Frankel in Jerusalem contributed.
Most people these days rely on text messages as their main form of communication; for some, the thought of making a phone call is even scary. That said, since a text can’t capture one’s body language and nonverbal cues, it is easy for certain messages to come across as condescending or blatantly rude.
“Condescension isn’t just about words but making another person feel small,” said Logan Jones, a licensed clinical psychologist and founder atClarity Therapy NYC. “Text messages feel condescending when one person assumes superiority, implies incompetence, feels dismissive or [gives] unnecessary explanations.”
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We spoke with licensed mental health professionals about common text messages you may not realise are condescending ― and how not to take them personally should you be on the receiving end. Here’s what experts say:
1. “K”
We’ve all likely sent this at least once, whether it was intentionally to someone who annoyed us or when we simply didn’t feel like answering.
Bottom line: “It feels short, dismissive, and passive aggressive and implies annoyance or disinterest because it lacks any warmth and engagement,” said Lauren Palumbo, a licensed psychotherapist at Clarity Therapy NYC.
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2. A thumbs-up
According to Palumbo, simply “thumbs-upping” or “liking” a text message can feel condescending in its own right, especially if you just shared a juicy or personal story and were hoping for a reaction that matches your energy.
“These types of reactions can stop conversational momentum dead in its tracks, making it clear that others aren’t interested in keeping it going, which can feel disappointing and deflating,” she said.
3. “No offence, but…”
You sometimes hear this during in-person conversation, and it goes over just as poorly via text message, according to Michele Leno, a psychologist and host at Mind Matters with Dr. Michele.
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Despite the phrasing, the verbiage lets you know that someone is about to say something offensive and likely rude, too. “In such cases, being direct is less condescending,” Leno said.
4. “Google it.”
Who hasn’t texted their friends worried about a health ailment? Although mostly everything can be found on Google with a quick search, you don’t want to tell someone to “Google it” since that can come off as extremely condescending.
“Few things shut down a conversation faster than this because it’s dismissive and shows that someone’s curiosity or isn’t worth your time or energy,” Jones said.
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5. “You always do this.”
It can be hard to effectively communicate through text messages, and lobbing accusatory, blanket “always” or “never” statements like this can prohibit more meaningful conversation. It’s also difficult to defend over text, according to Jones.
“This is hyperbolic, accusatory and a trap,” Jones said. “Saying something like this turns your minor frustration into painting someone as having a character flaw and trapping them in a pattern they can’t easily defend against via text.”
6. “I told you so.”
Hearing this doesn’t get easier no matter how old you are ― especially when it’s over text. It’s hard to glean any sort of care or nuance when it’s written out, so it feels more smug than anything.
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“Saying ‘I told you so’ offers nothing but cheap and quick self-satisfaction at the expense of someone else’s hurt feelings,” Jones said.
7. “Yikes.”
According to Palumbo, “yikes” can feel condescending and judgmental, especially if there’s no elaboration. “It sends the message that whatever was shared was embarrassing, wrong or cringeworthy,” she said.
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While some texts may have good intentions (or neutral intentions), experts say your tone may come off hurtful. However, there are ways to fix it.
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How can you make text messages sound less condescending?
Very few people want to intentionally send rude or off-putting texts. If you want to communicate more effectively and not sound condescending, here are some therapist-approved tips to get you started:
Don’t make assumptions.
Leno recommended using neutral language if you’re looking to sound less condescending. “For example, ‘I’m available to help if needed’ is better than, ‘It looks like you need help.’”
Use emotive and clarifying language.
Jones suggested using more emotive and clarifying language in an attempt to make text messages come across as less condescending. “A simple ‘haha’ or ‘I see what you mean, *smiley face*’ can make a big difference,” he said.
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Call them instead.
Michelle English, a licensed clinical social worker and executive clinical manager at Healthy Life Recovery, recommended engaging in more direct communication. “Give them a call or hop on a video chat to clear things up,” she said. “Direct communication is always the best way to bridge any misunderstandings.”
Plus, if you’re on a video call, you can see body language and other nonverbal cues that can help with effective communication.
At the end of the day, condescending text messages can be frustrating to navigate since they often lead us to question our own intelligence and worth.
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That said, people who send condescending text messages might not realize they’re doing it. A little grace ― and some punctuation changes ― can go a long way.
In a 2020 YouGov poll, 38% of mothers and 14% of fathers said they thought having kids hurt their careers.
That can take the form of reduced hours, taking fewer opportunities, and leaving the workplace entirely, respondents shared. “All of these factors tend to lead to stagnating or lower pay,” YouGov added.
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In a now-deleted Reddit post, a site user asked members of r/AITAH (Am I The A**hole Here) whether that trade-off deserved financial compensation from their spouse.
So, we spoke to divorce lawyer and CEO of OW Lawyers Michelle O’Neil about whether the demands were fair.
A father wants a share of his wife’s property in return for becoming a stay-at-home dad
The post author said his pregnant wife, who makes substantially more money than he does, told him he was expected to become a stay-at-home dad when their first child was born.
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The suggestion – which had not been discussed with the father beforehand – left the poster uneasy because he didn’t like how that might play out in the event of a divorce.
When he brought this up to his wife, he suggested she offer him a share of her property as a safety net in return for the career stagnation, lack of pay, and financial insecurity the lifestyle change could expose him to.
She didn’t seem comfortable with the arrangement, leading the poster to wonder whether or not his demands were unfair.
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A divorce lawyer said his demand makes sense
O’Neil said that in her decades-long career, she’s seen firsthand “how decisions like this can create significant financial disadvantages for the spouse who steps away from their career”.
“While becoming a stay-at-home parent is a deeply personal decision, it must be made with full awareness of the long-term financial risks,” she continued, “particularly in the event of a divorce.”
Additionally, the divorce lawyer calls the discussion – or lack thereof – around the change a “red flag”.
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“When one spouse dictates a major life change rather than engaging in a collaborative discussion, it often signals deeper power imbalances in the relationship which lead to bigger issues,” she told HuffPost UK.
“Decisions about career sacrifices, parenting roles, and financial security should be mutual, not unilateral.”
Explaining that staying home to look after a child can lead to a loss of earning potential, a smaller pension, a lack of asset equality, and financial dependence, O’Neil said the husband’s request for equity in the home is “a smart negotiation move”.
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Though not everyone can offer a share of their home to mitigate those risks, the divorce lawyer advised: “Marriage is a partnership, and both spouses’ contributions – financial and otherwise – must be valued and protected.
“If one spouse makes a career sacrifice, the financial risks should be acknowledged and mitigated before the decision is made, not after.”
Before my last period, I was inconsolable. Nothing much had happened but it felt like the world was closing in on me and it was hard to imagine ever feeling happy again.
I couldn’t pinpoint what had caused such a significant drop in my mental health. I lost my granddad at the start of January and I have some personal struggles that I’m grappling with but even with those in mind… it seemed pretty out-of-nowhere.
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I cried every day in the week leading to my period, several times a day. I was so worried I was falling back into the dark depression that swallowed me whole around 15 years ago.
Quite sooner after, the darkness lifted
Almost as soon as this deep depression had hit, it left again. I wasn’t fully out of the woods but I could definitely bring myself to make a cup of tea, to ask my partner for a hug and could get out of bed with my alarm rather than hours after it had gone off.
I made the most of the new burst of energy by doing the things you’re supposed to do to support your mental health; I ate well, I spent a good amount of time soaking up the sun in my garden and I made sure that I went to bed around the same time every night.
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I still wondered, though, what had caused the crash I’d just experienced.
Then my period tracking app delivered a report
Since my temporary menopause ended, I’ve been using the period tracking app Flo to log not just my periods but my moods before, during and after my period as well as other symptoms I experience throughout my cycle.
Unbeknownst to me, this app also delivers full reports of the data you’ve given them and highlights patterns that may help to decode your physical and mental health.
The most common symptom that I logged around 1-4 days before the end of my cycle was depression. Every month, for six months.
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My first response was to feel ashamed — I’ve been getting periods since I was 9 years old, the past 25 years of my life, how did I not notice? Then, I gave myself some much-needed grace: life happens, you can’t keep on top of all of it.
Immediately, I booked a doctor’s appointment. I knew what this could be and even knowing this happens every month was a huge weight off my shoulders.
It’s a condition that 800,000 women in the UK live with, and according to leading mental health charity Mind: ”[PMDD] is a very severe form of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). It causes a range of emotional and physical symptoms every month during the week or two before your period. It is sometimes referred to as ‘severe PMS’”.
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According to the Royal College of Nursing, around 8% of people who get periods have this condition.
Treatment can involve medications, talk therapy or even surgery to remove the ovaries, according to Bupa. For me, we’re still figuring out what my next steps should be but even understanding this about myself has given me something I can work with once my cycle is coming to an end.
Help and support:
Mind, open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 3393.
Samaritans offers a listening service which is open 24 hours a day, on 116 123 (UK and ROI – this number is FREE to call and will not appear on your phone bill).
CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) offer a helpline open 5pm-midnight, 365 days a year, on 0800 58 58 58, and a webchat service.
The Mix is a free support service for people under 25. Call 0808 808 4994 or email help@themix.org.uk
Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0808 801 0525 (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm). More info can be found on rethink.org.
A recent headline about ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), which more and more UK adults have received treatment for over the past couple of years, said the condition is being “wildly overdiagnosed”.
The article’s author adds the condition “has become a scam” because so many people say they have it.
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Some worry that apps like TikTok are giving people misinformation that leads them to inaccurately “self-diagnose” the condition, too.
So, we spoke to psychotherapist and founder of Philadelphia Talk Therapy Matt Sosnowsky about what he thinks about the increase in diagnoses, including self-diagnosis, from social media videos.
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Sosnowsky doesn’t think regular people are mental health experts, but that’s not always the point
Sosnowsky says that he works with people of all ages, and says “very few clients” have a professional-level understanding of mental health diagnoses.
But they are, he told us, “the authority on how they feel and what they’re experiencing – which is critical.”
“Perhaps surprisingly, I’m not against folks using media and social media to get a sense of what might be troubling them,” the therapist added.
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After all, he points out, “Mental illness remains disproportionately unrecognised and underdiagnosed” (2024 research from the UK Longitudinal Household Studyfound 12 times as many people in the ‘undiagnosed distress’ category than those considered ‘overdiagnosed’).
“Further, many mental health issues are quite subtle,” Sosnowsky adds.
“Pure ‘O’ OCD, for example, involves constant mental checking – a version of OCD different from what we see in movies, and not dissimilar to regular old rumination. Yet, I’ve had clients suffer from this for decades with absolutely no idea that they had a very treatable diagnosis.
“If seeing your own struggles mirrored back to you in a TikTok video prompts one [person] to seek help, that’s a win to me.”
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That’s not to say actual diagnoses should be left to non-professionals, though
“Of course, the devil is in the details and moderation is key,” Sosnowsky said.
He doesn’t, for instance, think identifying with a social media clip amounts to a formal diagnosis or anything like it.
“If you suspect you have a diagnosis, that’s your cue to get it checked out with a professional,” he told HuffPost UK.
“In the interim, avoid jumping to conclusions or catastrophising as neither is likely to give you good data or the help you need.”
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That’s not to say you should ignore any signs of ADHD you think are worth exploring completely, he writes.
“Instead, consider doing some light-touch research from responsible sources to educate yourself.
“Not only will this empower you, but it will improve your ability to convey concrete symptoms to your future therapist or psychiatrist.”
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Help and support:
Mind, open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 3393.
Samaritans offers a listening service which is open 24 hours a day, on 116 123 (UK and ROI – this number is FREE to call and will not appear on your phone bill).
CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) offer a helpline open 5pm-midnight, 365 days a year, on 0800 58 58 58, and a webchat service.
The Mix is a free support service for people under 25. Call 0808 808 4994 or email help@themix.org.uk
Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0808 801 0525 (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm). More info can be found on rethink.org.