I Stopped Working Out My Abs And Got The Strongest Core Of My Life

I recently found myself faced with quite the riddle: what’s the difference between an ab workout and a core workout?

If I’d been asked that by a bridge-dwelling troll a few months ago, I’d have resigned myself to a watery end. After all, I only recently learned that while abs are part of your core, your core is so much more than just abs.

I mostly go to the gym for health, rather than aesthetic, reasons. I’m way more worried about my bone density and brain health than I am about my muscle definition. So, I wouldn’t have minded if the difference was mostly cosmetic.

But it turns out that not only are core muscles key to a healthy back (and crucial for preventing falls in ageing), but a lot of the ab-led workouts I’d been doing previously actually did little to strengthen the crucial muscle group.

As a result, I changed my routine ― and I’ve noticed less back pain, better form in other moves (like squats), and even improved posture since.

Wait ― what’s the difference between abs vs core?

Your core is a set of muscles that includes the transverse abdominis and rectus abdominis, oblique, erector spinae, multifidus, diaphragm, quadratus lumborum, hip flexors, and pelvic floor muscles.

It involves groups of muscles we don’t usually think much about when flicking through workout videos, including those that support your spine and hips.

Only one of those muscle groups ― the rectus abdominis ― forms the “six-pack” people might try to achieve through sit-ups and crunches.

But The Mayo Clinic said that while lots of us try to achieve visible abs, broader core exercises (which “train the muscles in your core to work in harmony”) are all too often neglected.

That’s a shame, they said, because true core workouts are key to every other exercise you want to try ― and the stability a strong core gives you makes day-to-day life easier, too.

So, how do I achieve a stronger core?

Good news. The Mayo Clinic said any exercise that involves “the use of your stomach muscles and back muscles in a coordinated way” counts as a core exercise.

That’s why your class instructor is constantly asking you to “engage your core” when squatting, lifting, and even running.

Personally, I started doing what are known as compound exercises ― those which work multiple muscles at once, rather than isolating a couple ― to target both as many core muscles as I can in one go.

Hollow holds, planks, L-sits, pull- and push-ups, and bird dog exercises are all well-known core workouts that include far more muscles than we realise. I still love these.

But lifting weights with your core engaged, as is needed for overhead marches, renegade rows, and kettlebell swings (my personal favourite, and the move that I feel has strengthened me most) works too, and was a revelation to me.

Since incorporating more full-body core movements into my routine, I’ve not only spent more time on the area (a kettlebell swing can be part of a leg day routine, while sit-ups are usually core-specific moves), but added more weight, and therefore resistance, to the action too.

After all, it’s not like your stomach has a way of lifting a dumbbell; you have to recruit other parts of your body for that.

What other exercises work your core rather than just your abs?

Speaking to Harvard’s site, physical therapist Carina O’Neill recommended planks and bridges for the best day-to-day core stability.

But it doesn’t need to be that intense. NHS Fife recommends moves like cat-cow yoga patterns and kneeling planks to keep your trunk steady.

Of course, ab-focused sit-ups and crunches have their place too ― but if you’re hoping to get the best benefits from a strong core, it might be time to expand your understanding of the area to more parts of your body.

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I Tried Mary Berry’s Secret To The Best Spaghetti Bolognese, And I’m Never Going Back

I try a lot of celebrity chef recipes for my job (hard-hitting journalism, you know?).

And while I love Nigella Lawson’s iconic lasagne of love, swear by Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall’s brown butter brownies, and have even allowed Gordon Ramsay’s tips to alter my treasured rocky road recipe, my heart still lies with Mary Berry.

Her Thai-inspired tomato soup was an instant hit in my home. I tried making her 15-minute lemon curd last weekend too ― it was so good, I skipped making the rest of the pie I’d planned and made six jars instead.

So, who else would I turn to for my next spag bol? Though the dish is described as “controversial” on the BBC’s site for its, er, un-Italian star ingredient, hey ― in Mary we trust.

The chef adds cream to her bolognese

The start of Mary’s bolognese is pretty simple. She finely chops onions, celery, and carrot, and fries them over a medium-high heat until soft.

I took Nigella’s lasagne advice here; it’s just faster to whizz them up in a blender rather than chopping them to tiny, even bits.

Once those have softened, she chucks in pork and beef mince (I’ll be honest; I only had beef, and it was fine) and garlic, cooking them until the mince is browned and its liquid has evaporated.

Mary adds tomato purée to the mix and follows it up with passata, chopped tomatoes, stock, wine, and thyme.

If you take nothing else from her advice, I’d recommend the half-passata, half-chopped tomato mix for almost all tomato-based dishes now I’ve tried it. Tinned tommies can be too watery, while the paste can be too thick – this is perfect.

After seasoning it, you bake the bolognese for an hour. I placed tinfoil over my frying pan and whacked it in the oven, though I’m sure a proper Dutch oven is a better option.

Then, you stir in some cream (the controversial ingredient), put the bolognese back in for an hour, and serve it with whatever pasta you like.

Bolognese before baking (left) and after (right).

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Bolognese before baking (left) and after (right).

So… what’s the verdict?

I regret to inform you it’s delicious. I don’t know whether it’s the cream or the extended stay in the oven that did it, but this was the deepest, richest, most satisfying bolognese I’ve tried.

It kind of makes sense ― Nigella adds milk to her lasagne’s ragu for a subtly creamy finish, so this is sort of the same idea (only more decadent).

The two-hour bake time is annoying, but it didn’t require much actual active cooking. I work from home, so made the sauce on my lunch break and cooked it in the oven while I was working. As Mary points out, the sauce “can be made up to a day ahead and reheated.”

I ate mine with Parmesan, linguini, and a huge smile on my face ― OK, her star ingredient is “controversial”, but there’s no denying the results are delicious.

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Congrats! You’ve Officially Entered The ‘Why’ Era Of Parenting. Now What?

There comes a time in every parent’s life when their child starts to question everything.

You mention something and their reaction is: why? Then you explain why that is, and they ask again. They dig deeper and deeper, until you realise you actually have no idea why soil is brown, and you simply respond, a little exasperated: “I don’t know.”

If you’re stuck in the depths of the why?! phase then, first of all, solidarity.

Secondly, therapists have revealed a handy phrase you can respond with when you’re deep in the “why?!” cycle – and parents on social media are loving the tip.

Why do kids say ‘why?’ a lot

Before we talk about how to respond, it might help to think about the reasons behind why (sorry) children ask their parents for more information.

In short: they’re trying to discover more about the world we live in.

Clinical psychologist Linda Blair told the BBC that around the age of two or three, connections are being formed in their brains about how certain things are categorised or how one thing can lead to another thing happening.

Once this clicks into place, they want to know more and they obviously realise that the best way to find out more is to ask you – their parent – about this.

Blair said this incessant questioning usually happens around the ages of three and four – and the reasons behind it are actually quite sweet.

“Firstly, they want you to clarify and explain things to them so that they can make predictions about the world and what will happen within it. Just like adults, children are most afraid when they’re not sure what is going to happen,” Blair said.

And secondly, they get excited to share things they’re interested in with you and “by sharing an interest with you, they feel valued, and that also grows their self-esteem”.

How to respond when a child keeps asking ‘why?’

Deena Margolin, a family therapist who shares helpful parenting tips on the popular Instagram account Big Little Feelings, urged caregivers to respond to kids with the question: “Why do you think?”

“You’re empowering them to pause, build self-awareness by looking inside, and notice their own thoughts and opinions,” said Margolin in a reel.

“And you’re still staying connected in the relationship with them because you’re not totally shutting them down or ignoring them.”

The therapist added that parents would “be surprised how well this works” and caveated that this obviously isn’t the way to respond every time your child asks “why?” but it can help to give you a break from the cycle every now and then.

Linda Blair also suggested this phrase as a good way to get a better idea of what your child really wants to know. She offered the example of if it’s raining and they ask why it rains.

“Maybe what they really want to know isn’t the literal reason why it’s raining. Maybe it’s what they should wear when it’s raining? Or if they are allowed to run around in the rain?” she added.

While some parents swear by this technique (“yessss we do this and it’s so beautiful watching her process and come to whatever conclusion,” said one person in response to Margolin’s Instagram post), it’s worth noting that sometimes it doesn’t quite have the desired effect.

As one poor parent found out: “Mine replies ‘you tell me’ and we bat it back and forth until I give up.”

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Conan O’Brien Reveals 2 Strict Rules For Showing An Oscar Award On Screen

This year’s Oscars host Conan O’Brien has opened up about some of the very strict guidelines regarding how the iconic awards statue can and can’t be portrayed on screen.

Speaking on the latest edition of his podcast Conan Needs A Friend, the US comic revealed that he had several ideas for promo videos for the Oscars that the Academy ultimately nixed.

In one, Conan suggested portraying himself and a human-sized rendering of the Oscar as a domestic couple.

“At one point, I thought, ‘wouldn’t it be great if it’s just on the couch?’,” he recalled, pitching the idea to “lay it on a really big couch and I’ll be vacuuming and say, ‘Could you at least lift your feet? Or could you at least get up and help? Load the dishwasher?’”.

“We wanted to do it and they just said, ‘No, no no, that can’t happen’,” Conan explained, noting that he was told “Oscar can never be horizontal”.

Conan O'Brien poses with an Oscar in the lead-up to the 2025 Academy Awards
Conan O’Brien poses with an Oscar in the lead-up to the 2025 Academy Awards

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He admitted: “That blew my mind. Like, wow, this is like the thigh bone of St. Peter. This is a religious icon.”

In another of his pitches, Conan said he wanted to portray the Oscar a traditional 1950s apron, only to be told: “No clothing on Oscar. Oscar is always naked.”

Watch the promo that Conan was allowed to make below:

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Meanwhile, one Oscars guest recently shared that each attendee was given a snack box that included a touching note from Conan himself.

However, it seems that the US talk show host also encountered some very different red tape when putting this together.

“I tried my best to include a gummy but Disney said that was a ‘hard pass’,” a note from Conan contained within the box also claimed.

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